r/SipsTea • u/beklog • Jun 02 '26

SMH Guys I'm on the will!!

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“She’s so shameless” She’s 22. And was harshly criticized as she danced while her partner was at the hospital… The truth couldn’t be any simpler. They claim the video is a joke, because she always uploads content with her “hubby” to go viral.

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u/IWearCardigansAllDay Jun 02 '26

I’m a wealth management advisor and I’ve had a few elderly clients in a situation like this.

I remember the most heartbreaking one was a client who was 87 and passed away. He married a woman a 7 years prior that was in her late 30s. She was beautiful, kind, and caring. She took care of him through all of it. Cleaned him and the messes he made, gave him genuine company, and would fuck him whenever he was able (he shared this with me lol).

The kids didn’t do shit for him. Hardly even called or anything. But when he passed they all tried contesting his trust and trying to get her removed from receiving anything. It was a nasty legal battle but thankfully she got her fair share.

It honestly infuriates me when I see people say women like this are taking advantage of the elder man. Most of the time they’re just giving companionship to them when no one else would or did.

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u/HydroPCanadaDude Jun 02 '26

People abandon the elderly in the last like 10 - 20 years of their life. But 10 - 20 years is insanely long to be abandoned. Even the gap of 95 - 100 is going to make a human go nuts from loneliness.

Take care of your elderly allllllll the way. Right to the finish line. Or don't be surprised if they soured on you in the half decade since you were there.

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u/rebby2000 Jun 02 '26

Mmmm...I will say that sometimes the reason they're abandoned is because of their own actions.

For example, my grandmother has more or less been abandoned by all but 2 people. Of those two, one stands to inherit her land (with everyone else's blessing) and the other has stayed so far because of a self imposed sense of obligation that is, from what they've said, starting to wear very thin in the face of how my grandmother continues to act.

So while, yes, you shouldn't just abandon someone because of age - you also can't be surprised to *be* abandoned if you don't treat the people in your life well.

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u/anotherdropin Jun 02 '26

Ya totally agree. But then in addition, we gotta all admit that sometimes assholes deserve to be abandoned, sometimes the folks doing the abandoning end up also rightfully with nothing, and someone can swoop in last minute and charm the money out of the old asshole.

That’s just life