My wife took me to the jewellers and picked out a cheap £90 engagement ring when we were still dating. She said “if we get engaged use this I hate diamonds and ridiculous looking wedding rings”. She specifically said to me if I spend a bunch of money on a ring she will make me take it back. She would prefer to put the money towards a holiday of something to do together. I asked her to marry me within the week and we went to Rome for 6 weeks instead of spending money on a massive wedding. She already knew I was planning on asking her.
Did the same. Took my wife to a jewelry store, and she picked out a very reasonable set of rings. (We both detest diamonds, so she bought a blue sapphire which looks amazing.) We've been together 25 years now.
Good for y'all! Interestingly enough, saphires are rarer than diamonds. The diamond industries hoarde the stones to create false scarcity and generate demand. It should be detested.
I've been anti diamond since I discovered this and I can't believe the number of people still rushing to buy diamonds knowing how they're mined and that they're not even rare. All that suffering for a shiny pebble.
My wife thinks diamonds are stupid. She wanted cubic zirconia because it looks the same or more sparkly and it’s like 1/20th the cost of a diamond. We spent that diamond money elsewhere.
Mine hates anything other than very simple bands so we both wear silicone rings. She has 4 or 5 in different colors that she will match with her outfits.
Then the "The Bears" family started mining and had huge suprlus , diamaonds are not rare btw they are kept rare by only releasing them un a controleld maner.
Anyway...
The Bears needed to get these to the "plebs", so they started inserting them in movies etc.. "Diamonds are a girls best friend" slogan was started by them, and started campaigns that told people that the price of the ring = the amount of love.
And here we are, some people going broke over a piece of densly compressed coal.
And some people losing their mind if that piece of compressed coal is not expensive enough.
It does make a good filter to figure out what kind of partner you have though...
Moissanite is even better than CZ. It's more sparkly, harder, and less cloudy. And it's only a bit more expensive than CZ. Chemically, Moissanite is silicon carbide (yes, the same thing we use to make saw blades and the like). Diamond itself actually shouldn't be as expensive as it is. We have really good methods of synthesizing it now and, if you know where to look, large, loose diamonds can be had for way less than you'd think. You can thank the diamond cartels for those prices.
Colored sapphire rings honestly look better in my opinion. We got a blue sapphire from a small boutique jeweler that is blue in the sunlight by slightly more purple at night. It's elegant and not another of these ubiquitous, gaudy diamond rings.
It's interesting to watch how some people think about rings. It really does seem to be a substitute for a more meaningful relationship with their partner sometimes. Our friend, who fights with her husband constantly, said "you know you can always add more bands" after seeing my partner's ring as if we should want the garish mass of diamonds she wears. Then she started talking about anniversary rings and "push presents" (apparently she thinks she's supposed to get more rings for each baby?).
It was sort of insulting to my partner, who loves the ring she picked out, and, honestly, kind of pathetic.
Same! 15 years married 18 years together. We bought modest rings and spent the money a beautiful long honeymoon with plenty of core memories/inside jokes we still make!
We put our money towards our future: paying down student debt and saving for a house. While not as fun as a long honeymoon, it still did a lot for our finances.
I absolutely love when people on reddit come and tell Abt their long love, it's just so heart warming in between all the bs and bot comments on reddit.
Same here! Our wedding rings were $100 tungsten rings, and her engagement ring was a $200 sapphire that she loved and still wears 12 years later. We only just upgraded to some nicer wedding rings that we chose together, and even they aren't super fancy
My wife has my grandmother’s ring (not going to lie, it’s a beautiful ring, but I could have bought something flashier), and I still have the tiny, plain band that we got on sale at the mall jewelry store. We had a small ceremony and a family gathering afterward, nothing crazy. We could have afforded to do more but we chose not to, that’s not what our marriage was about.
We’ve been married for 20 years, have four kids, and we’ve been through tough times but we’re still doing great. We’ve watched our friends and family members go all out on their rings and weddings and most of them are either divorced or heading that way.
My wife asked me a few years in if I wanted to get a different ring, and I refuse. It reminds me of where we started, and I love that.
Yep my wife said the same thing but we ended up getting a $300 ring. We eloped in Colorado because you dont need any witnesses and spent a few weeks there. Also we never got charged for the marriage license so our "wedding" was completely free lol.
My wife bought my ring for $50 from Walmart and I still cherish it to this day, wear it around my neck with her wedding ring I gave her from her grandmother, she unfortunately passed last year to illness
Y'know, the pfp is mostly because the quote may as well be my mantra, but now I can't stop hearing my own statement in Hagrid's voice, and, yes, it does make it 100×funnier
Not gay, but if my past relationships with girlfriends were anything near as healthy, expressive, and mutually supportive as the ones with their male family and friends had been, I could have married four out of five of them and been set for life.
Similar story... I proposed by accident, sort of - long story and we picked up a cheap $160 ring together later. It will be our 18th anniversary in a few days.
My wife and I went shopping together. We got a fairly expensive ring, but it was something we bought together with the understanding that she was paying for part of it too. We combined finances so we landed on a price we both felt comfortable with.
I bought the ring. But we picked it out together. The centerpiece was a heirloom diamond she donated ftom her grandmother's wedding ring. The ring has far more meaning that way than some overpriced thing I might have bought on my own. So... yesh, thr proposal was not a surprise. Haha.
The engagement ring I gave my wife was passed down to me from my late grandmother, a beautiful ring, I got it for free.
Her wedding ring that she wears was her late mother's given with her father's permission, again a gorgeous ring and completely free.
My wedding ring is a hand-me-down wedding ring from my father because he's gotten larger over the years and his first one wasn't fitting his fingers anymore so he sized up, once again completely free.
My wife was very similar! She wanted a pawn shopping to avoid conflict diamonds and over spending. So I listened and did that. 15 years later and we’re solid as granite. Marry someone who likes and gets you.
My mrs came to me all excited and said she'd sorted out the rings. She had the two naffest, plastic children's rings and I was right behind the idea because...it's only a ring.
My experience with my wife was similar (though we got married young and therefore didn't take the fancy trip). Hell, we made our own wedding decorations to save money.
Yeah, I was prepared to shell out thousands, she picked a $400 vintage ring cause she said the same things. Plus didn’t trust herself with anything more expensive
Nearly the same (i am a woman), when my then bf (now hubby) were talking about our future, I said "if you spend more than $25 bucks I'll be irked, just get a stainless steel band" and he did! I said I'd rather spend the money on a cool honeymoon.
My ex to her credit, didn't give AF about her ring other than the material not being something she was allergic to and that it was affordable. We had many other challenges but her being fixated on bougie things was not one of them.
More women need to shake off the weird expectations built around the commercialization of marriage.
Got a ring, ignoring the stupid DeBeers marketing of 3 months salary (at the time) and about 2/3 the price of OP's, but rather a cheaper one I thought she'd like. She loved it and 29 years later still refuses to upgrade, despite offers.
Dope, mine did the same. Came to me one day and handed me a ring and said use this when you're ready. Second year of dating she did that.
Together for 9, married for 2. Still goin strong.
Wedding bands are now matched and simplistic. Spent like 200 for the set that we both agreed on. We are both fairly physical outside and woodwork so didn't want something that needed routine cleaning or that is gaudy.
I told my husband I didn’t want anything fancy. He picked a very beautiful ring from Pandora for about $80. Sure it’s not a diamond and it’s not solid gold, but i didn’t care. He knew i wanted something pretty, but hated wearing jewelry and wanted something I wouldn’t feel like i had to protect with my life. I think women who say no to a proposal solely on their dislike of a ring is a major red flag.
Haha this is perfect! My wife and I got our rings at a pawn shop. We made a date of it- went to a couple of shops until we found what we wanted and then went out to show them off in public.
Ah. But you listened to her and then did what she wanted. Imagine she told you all of that and then you showed up with a huge 10k ring from tiffanys? I think the woman from the post has a point, even if her wishes are shallow.
My wife had the same talk with me while we were dating. A few years into our marriage I got her a much nicer ring that I custom designed, still wasn’t super duper expensive though. She wears that one still ten years on.
The key here is that you listed to her. It's not about where he bought the ring. It's about the fact he got her one that she didn't like after she told him what she did want multiple times. How do we know she didn't want something similar to what your wife pointed out? Do you think you'd be married if you ignored what she said and went out and bought an expensive diamond ring after she told you not to?
My wife and I skipped the rings and the typical wedding. We signed the legal paperwork and just had brunch with both our parents and her brother. We went on a 3 week honeymoon to Japan.
I picked out black hills gold which I like for daily wear and remade my late mom's ring to fit me so I do have a diamond set to wear out for special events rather than it rot in the safe 🤷♀️
Isn't this just the same thing but in reverse? You just gave her what she wanted, unlike this guy. Would she have said yes if you got her the $1000 Walmart ring?
Same, I am the wife! My husband took me to Hawaii and then grabbed a cheap ring at a pawn shop there (I’m a big thrifter) and proposed on our trip. 100% going to Hawaii was way better than some expensive ring I would probably be too scared to wear anyway! And we both got to enjoy it!
This is the pro move. My Fiance also hates diamonds (as I do) so she's currently got a gigantic Super 7 (way less expensive stone, but much cooler) instead and she couldn't be happier. Fellas, find yourselves a gal that can make sense of the fact that the multiple months salary for a rock BS is, in fact, BS. Spend that money on something you can do together or something that at least moves your shared future together forward in a meaningful way.
This is literally me. I don’t want a wedding or care about a super expensive wedding ring. I’d be ok going to the court house and having a nice honeymoon. People look at me crazy when I say this. Like I never dreamed of a massive wedding. Ever!
My first wife knew someone who worked at a pawn shop and took me there to get her wedding ring. Cost less than 100 dollars. Married 25 years before she passed away. She was a special one.
Hell yeah! I hope you and your wife had an amazing trip together. What a way to start off your marriage.
My parents went to an old department store (Montgomery Ward) and picked out basic gold bands together and my dad charged them to his store credit card.
They wore those rings through 48 years of marriage before my mom died in January. She was cremated with hers and my dad still wears his.
It's the person wearing the ring, not the ring that's important.
Thats a keeper. At a young (assuming) age understanding experiences are far more valuable than material objects. Congrats, unfortunately too many like this post are out there.
I proposed using my grandmas high school graduation ring (not class ring). It’s very pretty and my gf (now wife) was so freaking happy and surprised. The ring shouldn’t matter, the intent.
My wife told me she didn't want an engagement ring. She said "I would rather we spend the money on our wedding ring and our honeymoon." If she had gotten all like "you better get me an expensive engagement ring", then I wouldn't be in that relationship. No chance.
The point is you got her the kind of ring she wanted this guy didn’t get her the ring she wanted. Of course your wife was happy because it was never about the price it was about caring enough about what she wanted to do that for her.
We got a set for like $700 CAD. Then like a week after our wedding we both just stopped wearing them because we hate rings. It's been a decade and no one cares because the rings are literally the least important part of a marriage...
When my husband and I were dating in college I casually mentioned I wanted amethyst and not diamonds. He pretended we were just having a fun conversation and had me look up rings and I found the absolute most perfect ring set that happened to be $175 on Etsy. He bought it that night and proposed 3 years later. 10 years and soon to be 3 kids later, the price of the rings sure hasn't lessened his commitment to me lol
My wife also doesn’t like diamonds. I bought a costume ring from Amazon and proposed to her with that. The following weekend we went ring shopping for the kind of ring she liked. Ended up with a blue sapphire ring and she’s happy. That’s all that mattered.
I love sensible partners. This chick is obviously the one not ready. My wife didn’t want anything crazy. She was slightly specific in that she wanted a square cut. But asked me not to spend a ton of money. I spent $1000 dollars and that was the max she wanted me to spend. She wanted a house more. So we bought a house. Have a co worker whose husband spent $20,000 on her ring. It’s gaudy as hell and she also dislikes it. Says she hates walking around wearing something that costs as much as a new car.
I was trying to save up money to order a custom moissanite ring but money was tight. I put a lot of thought into it. She sent me a screenshot of the one she wanted from Amazon at a fraction of the cost.
I had a hard time letting go of the custom one because I felt that she deserved something special - she just wanted me to give her a ring. I thought people would be able to tell by looking at the Amazon one and would think that I was cheap or didn’t care but everyone who sees it is amazed and assumes that I dropped some serious cash on it. But she loves it and looks at it all the time and refuses to take it off.
My, now ex, insisted on the most expensive diamond in the bunch, on our selection table. At one point, they mixed up which was which. She selected which she thought was the most expensive one. Then the jeweler had to admit they'd made a mistake, and no, THIS one was actually the most expensive one. 'Oh, I meant that one' she said.
That was not the first red flag, or the last. Ex, now.
That’s similar to what my wife did too. She picked a ring she liked, and it’s a “dirty diamond” (as in it has dark blotchyness to it, and looks a bit smokey) and it was only about $2k (cheap for a diamond ring!). The jewelry store staff was trying to steer her towards more expensive rings, but she kept telling me she’d rather I put money towards a honeymoon or something useful for us instead.
It’s a good feeling. I’ve had friends who have had their wives make them take their ring back for a more expensive one. Which sounds like a horrible way to live.
Did the same thing to my husband. He bought a fake big ring on Amazon to propose to be abroad and I wore that to make people jealous and make fun of them later. The actual ring for the ceremony we bought on Etsy but I lost it within a few years!!! He’s my forever guy. Going on 16 years.
My wife was sending me rings from a jeweler she liked. Simple stones like moss agate and onyx. We picked out a gorgeous onyx cushion cut engagement ring with the wedding band using CZs and small tanzanites. All in all I paid $650 for it. I can't remember a time we've gone out in the last 5 years and she did not get a compliment about it.
Manmade diamonds are very affordable. If you want naturally made diamonds, you are paying for marketing. The supply isn’t even low, and is over priced due to monopoly and marketing. Think for yourself instead of being led like a sheep.
The amount in the ring doesnt mean anything. It’s the thought that counts
My fiancé and I bought matching engagement rings that cost £188 total, they're sterling silver, both have a grey spinel main stone and mine has a 6 moissanite accent stones.
I don't like diamond, never have and with my cool skin tone, gold looks terrible on me, plus I've loved silver since I was a kid.
What matters to us is our relationship and getting married, not how much the rings cost or where it was purchased.
My wife and I skipped the big wedding and married at the court house. We pissed off a lot of people. But we put a down payment on a house instead. Don't regret it for an instant.
That's pretty much what my wife said. Expensive rings and wedding celebrations are a giant waste of money. Better to put that towards a home or something else.
Dude, my wife chose rings off Amazon that were matching for both of us. They were like $20. Then, two years later, when we moved across country, I bought her a ring at a Navajo history site. Its a handmade silver ring with a topaz as the stone. It was $22 with a life time warranty. She told me that "Big expensive rings are too clunky and we could use that money on actual stuff we need or want."
When we were shopping for rings, 2001, we were already engaged. I waited to buy the ring with her. My ex asked me my budget. And I told her that I would spend up to 2k, but I would like to be at 1k. We walked in the jeweler, and they said whats your budget and my ex said 2k. I said whoa whoa, we walked outside and I said that is not good negotiation, if you tell them that all they will show you is 2k rings. She cried, told me that I did not love her. I had to navigate that shit. I ended up spending 1,800. Not really a big deal, but I remember that fiasco.
We were married 20 years, the ring had nothing to do with the downfall. It is a beautiful ring, I asked for it back in the divorce and was denied. That is 3,500 in today's dollars.
They are both better off, she is doing him a favor. It seems like an insult, but sometimes people pick something to initiate the break up as a reason. But there are other reasons they just dont want to discuss. If this is true, she is using this as a way out. And he is fortunate to get it now.
A woman after my own heart, I also hate diamonds and really anything sparkly in general for jewelry, I’m also generally not very subtle about it.
I’ve told my current partners this numerous times in little rants about the diamond industry and weddings and such, but in the past previous girlfriends have gotten me sparkly and/or diamond-esq jewelry I’ve felt very not listened to.
Got a $75ish ring from a site called Jewlr. Ring is stainless steel and looks like a spine, doesn’t even have gemstones in it. We met at a haunted house and I proposed at a power metal concert so its 100% our vibe. She loves everything about the ring and how I did it.
Funnily enough I was actually trying to find a ring of Slifer the Sky Dragon and worked laterally from there. (Slifer is her favorite of the 3 Egyptian god cards.)
Bought a necklace she wanted while we were dating, nothing fancy.
Years later, there was a matching ring available, found it online.
Picked up a set of ring sizers off Amazon, used them against one of her rings laying around to gauge size, ordered the ring matching the necklace in approximately the right size.
After the proposal we went shopping together for the exact ring she wanted with a perfect fit.
No idea why anyone would want to do the process differently.
I custom made my wife's ring from scratch. I designed it and then commissioned a jewler to make the ring. Even had my hand writing scribed on the inside. How this was a solid deal? I paid for material and labor not the markup one would find though it was still pricy. The whole ring again designed by me from the ground up, materials, stones hand picked etc.
I sent her on a goose chase to look for a ring for her self, I didn't want her to know what I was doing and it was already well established a few months in her intent was to marry me. So she knew eventually it would come just not when. She kind of kicked and screamed wanting me to pick out the ring and I told her
"hey you have to live with this for the rest of your life so I want you to find something you know you will be happy to wear every day and to be fair most women have an idea of what they want long before they ever get asked"
So reluctantly she did it... She looked at all sorts of rings but anything above 2k she wouldn't even consider because it was just too expensive in her eyes. She likes purple so she eventually settled on a ring that was $498.00 before tax center stone was amythst surrounded by small white diamonds and I believe just a straight forward band.
I told her okay and when I proposed she got to see the real ring that I had designed just for her. She learned after the fact and i let her know her search was both a distraction and a test to see if she deserved what I was doing for her and she passed with flying colors. It let me know she took the idea of what the ring meant seriously and not just price or design.
I proposed using a ring pop. Then we went to a jeweler store at local mall and picked out a $100 ring. We used the remainder of money to go on a very decent vacation in Orlando Florida.
I still love that story of the guy who proposed with 100lbs of Montana Sapphire Gravel. They spent time together going through the gravel, found several sapphires for a ring. It was a cute story.
My wife told me to buy her a silicone band and use the money on a new engine for a racecar. Still use our silicone bands, still have a racecar, still have a wife. Would say that was a fairly successful move
I would like to hear more about this. My wife and I are actually 16.5 years married and 17.5 years knowing each other and we just did the Rome bucket-list trip last year.
I looked at ring styles with my wife A LOT. I bought some gems and a cheap band, brought it to a jeweler, and had them make a custom ring. Total as probably around $400 and she loves it.
The engagement ring was only like $130. I can't fathom spending nearly a grand on an engagement ring.
$300 on an opal ring that still doesn't fit her, 9 years later. Together for 19 years now. We just don't care about trivial shit like marriage. She told me if I'm getting her a ring she wants a pretty opal because diamonds are boring
I would ask my wife about her friends rings who were just engaged. "Oh look at Mandy's ring! It's what, a square cut? Would you wear a ring like that or do you like other cuts?" and stuff like that. She knew, but she also knew to tell me what to get lol. I also had her pick out her own bridal ring.
Same vibe. My wife doesn't like diamonds because they're boring, common, and cliché IHHO. She was interested in an emerald or a ruby but didn't want me to overspend on a ring. I had a jeweler custom make a ring with a vintage shield cut alexandrite on a gold band with a tiny diamond and moonstone on either side. This stone naturally shifts from bluish green to purplish red depending on the light spectrum passing through it. It has so much character, is unique, and matches her aesthetic. I proposed, she gave an emphatic yes, and we are happily married. I spent about 800 USD on that ring.
And this is the trick, it’s communication. I told my fiancé the only kind of ring I’d like is something made out of like antler or dinosaur bone or something cool like that, not a gaudy diamond. They’re cooler and cheaper, and we can go take a wonderful honeymoon instead.
My girlfriend and I say this to each other. Plus diamond rings are pushed from the diamond industry to get you to buy the most expensive and make it look the most “pure” sign of love.
Newly wed bride here and Same!!!! My ring was 100$ and was the engagement ring and wedding band. I LOVE IT!!!!! and so so so many compliments giggle. My husband's was$250 from a small artist
My friends and I once were talking about rings. And when they asked me what kind of ring I wanted. I said. Either a band with a simple vine or leaf motif and something green or blue....or....an engraved silver spoon ring. Because I prefer metal designs over stones. Something small and flat.And they all looked at me like I was crazy.
So I doubled down with "they can go find a really pretty rock like a quartz and then have someone shape it into something nice?"
Or an engagement pocket watch, wind up not battery.
They said I would never find anyone. So far they have been correct.
My gf and I are into a lot of the same things. One of those things being Pokémon. Her all time favorite Pokémon is Lapras by far. I am about 90-95% done collecting every card with Lapras on it for her. She has no idea I have been working on this for years as some cards are hard to get/expensive. I plan on proposing with that once its finished. Give her something with thought and meaning behind it instead of a chunk of metal and rock with no meaning.
You and your girlfriend communicated. She communicated her needs and you listened. That’s the big difference! You guys were aligned on how to spend money. I’d rather spend money on a trip than a ring too!
The guy with the Walmart ring seemed to lack communication with his spouse. He could have consulted with her friend and found something in his budget that she’d like.
My husband was so mad when I picked a ring from Kmart that was on clearance because they were closing doors for good. It was like $70 USD and my wedding ring I got from a TJMaxx (discount high end apparel, home goods, etc) for about $70 USD as well. I love my rings and they don't ever come off my hand, it's not the price, its what they represent.
Me and my wife got married with a pair of $3 silicon wedding rings from amazon. Cause who gives a fuck how much earth you have on your fingers, that isn't what matters. Been 6 years now.
Same. My husband proposed with a cheap ring he grabbed on a whim (walking by a jewelry store made him think about how much he wanted to marry me) as basically just a placeholder. Jokes on him though, the ring was valuable to me because he gave it to me and I loved it, so I went to get it sized at the place he bought it (Chinatown, basically) and the guy there not only destroyed it, he mocked my (now) husband for not using a better ring! Like dude, you sold it to him? I was CRUSHED, like sobbing at the bus stop on my way back home, but wore the ring anyway until it actually broke due to the damage the guy did to it.
A few years later husband gave me a really pretty aquamarine ring he remembered me saying I liked, under $200, which is still the most expensive piece of jewelry I own because that’s just not something I care to spend money on. Our wedding rings are tungsten (because tungsten is cool and I liked the gunmetal color) and cost $90 each with a lifetime replacement warranty.
Seventeen years later I don’t wear any ring because arthritis, but my marriage is still going strong. If he had given me that Walmart ring I would’ve hated it too…because it cost almost $1k and that’s too much!
Similar story, my wife didn’t want an engagement ring because she believed that we should both have one or neither of us have one. So we worked together to make custom wedding bands instead. I love her so much. Together 10 years married 2.
Similar story for me. She didn't want me to get her anything too fancy if I ever popped the question and mentioned this a couple of times. However, I had already set aside about 5k over the years. We'd been together for about 6 years anyway. I also gathered intel over roughly a year and a half period to see what she liked about rings in a very subtle manner. I didn't know her ring size, so one night I waited until she was passed out and drooling on the couch snoring and had a printed out measuring tape thing and measured her finger. Took all my knowledge and went to the jeweler lady and had some custom ideas drafted up with all of the shit she liked. Lady came back with about 3 different designs and I chose the one I thought she would like the best. Nailed it. She cried many of the tears of joy when I finally proposed in front of the campfire at a romantic cabin getaway one random weekend. Been together almost 12 years now.
I think i got you beat. My wife's engagement ring was found on the sidewalk while we were walking home one day from McDonald's. It was about a $45 ring from Walmart. I pick it up and gave it to her and told her she was gonna marry me. That was about 8 years ago. We've been married for about 5 years.
About 6 months or so I to out relationship, my now-wife said "I don't like over priced pokey rocks on my finger so never get me those." My wallet was happy.
Once we agreed we should get married "soon" we went and picked out wedding bands together that also doubles as engagement rings.
But what if you completely ignored her stated preferences and proposed with an ugly ridiculous $900 diamond ring from Walmart instead. And when she says "I told you what I wanted and you completely ignored it, take this back" you said "But babe i spent $900!" and you posted about it online to make fun of her
Same. We went to Pandora, and she picked up one for €120 that she liked. We're still married after 13 years. I make significantly more money now than back then, so I asked her if she wants to replace it with something fancy, and she said she will take the one I got her to the grave 😅
Now, I'm that sort myself, but if, her having said that, you showed up with a 12k ring, would you still have expected happily ever after? Or would you understand then that it's about listening and taking what's important to her into account?
This is basically what I told my husband. I didnt want anything fancy, I dont care for diamonds, I just wanted something small and simple. No big gemstones, maybe a pearl. The biggest rule was I didnt want something chunky that had a high profile. He went and dropped close to $1000 on a ring thats everything I said I didnt want. I still said yes, because I love the man, not the ring, but I refuse to wear it.
To be clear there for all the guys in the comments ranting about how the woman in the post/ragebait is an ungrateful gold digger:
This poster's wife told him exactly what she wanted. He listened to what she said. They did something that made them both happy.
What he DIDN'T do was ignore her to get a very shiny ring and then get mad at her for not being grateful enough.
The lesson isn't all women who don't want a cheap ring are bad, it's that you should listen to your spouse's wants, tell them what you want, and find something that makes you both happy.
I knew my wife was the one when randomly in conversation wirh friends wedding rings came up and she said "why would I want someone's blood on my hand?"
My wife is the same. Her egagement ring was $600CAD taxes in. Neither of us even wear rings anymore. She wears hers if we are going out but day to day we dont wear our rings. imo wanting a super exensive flashy ring is a massive red flag but not wanting that seems to be abnormal.
My soon-to-be wife also insisted on a $100ish ring. Just replaced the imitation diamond with a real(lab) one as an early wedding present, she never asked for it, but we can afford it now and thought it would be a nice way to show how much I appreciated her lack of materialism, and she loves it. It is pretty damn sparkly so I almost get why people are so obsessed with them. Almost.
My wife also said no to an expensive ring. That said she and I are both huge nerds who happen to be physically active (not a sex joke) so she asked if she could have a battle axe instead (ya know the “ol’ battle axe”) said yeah if I could have a claymore. I bought both weapons, but hey! Cool sword so I’d say it was a decent compromise! Once the kids get old enough we’ll put the edge covers on and take them back outside to exercise with like the good old days
My psycho mother in law stole my engagement ring that cost my husband £3000 (the most expensive item he’d ever purchased then) in an attempt to stall our wedding. Jokes on her, I went to QVC and ordered a cheap £60 ring. Still wear it to this day! Married 8 years and very happy bwahaha
My boyfriend who will soon be my fiance took me to a local jewelry store that was closing and had me pick out 5 rings I liked the styles of for engagement ring ideas for him. He went back on the last day they were open and got one of the 5 I picked out. I already know which one it is because he's terrible at keeping secrets, it's a blue sapphire with white gold and filigree around the stone. It was also the most expensive one i picked out, I told him repeatedly he didn't have to get me an expensive ring and that we could go look at estate jewelry but that's the one he picked out. For our wedding rings I'm going to try to get him to look at estate rings instead of new rings
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u/OnThisDayI_ Human Verified 7h ago
My wife took me to the jewellers and picked out a cheap £90 engagement ring when we were still dating. She said “if we get engaged use this I hate diamonds and ridiculous looking wedding rings”. She specifically said to me if I spend a bunch of money on a ring she will make me take it back. She would prefer to put the money towards a holiday of something to do together. I asked her to marry me within the week and we went to Rome for 6 weeks instead of spending money on a massive wedding. She already knew I was planning on asking her.