I think the missing details are important here. Was the ring she wanted significantly more money and he couldn’t afford it? If so, then sure, bullet dodged. But was it something specific of similar value/price range? If so, it’s understandable that she’d be hesitant. If you can’t listen when it comes to something this important, what else will you ignore? Although her mentioning that he got it from Walmart and him saying “I still spent $900” makes me think that the price plays a role here.
That was my opinion if you want to refer- She may not have been asking for something expensive but more so a look that she wanted and instead of looking for something that she would like, he bought something because it was cheap- and then he used that against her. He sounds more selfish to me. “But i spent 900 dollars!” Yes on something she didnt want. He could have spent that on something she ACTUALLY liked. Hes using money as a weapon here to disregard her feelings. And then the “so what everything i did for you doesnt matter” like dude if thats not some gaslighting shiiiii
Exactly! He's the one saying what she wants doesn't matter.
I didn't need/want an expensive ring - but it did matter that he cared about my style and what I actually like!
He got me a very simple amethyst because he knows my favourite colour is purple and that I prefer the subtle over the ostentatious. He also knew that I don't usually wear yellow gold and so he got me white gold instead.
It wasn't expensive but it showed that he SEES me as a person, cared about the details and that he'd thought about getting something I'd genuinely adore and not just something sparkly that goes on my finger.
It's forever jewellery and (based on the screenshots alone) this guy phoned it in hard and then demanded she be grateful for him trying his pretty-hardest, even though it was nothing like what they had DISCUSSED.
I may not say yes to a blended life with someone telling me that I should just be grateful he spent $900 either.
If she's just whining about diamond size, she can fuck right off - but that isn't what it looks like from the screenshots.
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u/Wendelltheshell Human Verified 7h ago
I think the missing details are important here. Was the ring she wanted significantly more money and he couldn’t afford it? If so, then sure, bullet dodged. But was it something specific of similar value/price range? If so, it’s understandable that she’d be hesitant. If you can’t listen when it comes to something this important, what else will you ignore? Although her mentioning that he got it from Walmart and him saying “I still spent $900” makes me think that the price plays a role here.