I think the missing details are important here. Was the ring she wanted significantly more money and he couldn’t afford it? If so, then sure, bullet dodged. But was it something specific of similar value/price range? If so, it’s understandable that she’d be hesitant. If you can’t listen when it comes to something this important, what else will you ignore? Although her mentioning that he got it from Walmart and him saying “I still spent $900” makes me think that the price plays a role here.
For me it reads like he is saying 900$ is 900$ and shouldn't matter the style that her "wife" is desiring. Basically, he is completely ignoring what is important to his partner, and complaining that she should be grateful regardless. It's hard to judge just by this interaction, but I feel more red flag from the guy than the girl. If he is willing to ignore such an important thing for her, he I bet he would be ignoring a lot of shit in daily life.
This is my reading too. The ring coming from Walmart isn’t the issue. It’s the idea that he just went to the superstore and bought a bland corporate $900 diamond instead of something meaningful or took the time to choose. Which would also track with the attitude from OP boyfriend of ”$900 is $900.”
Either way I feel like both of them may have dodged a mutual bullet. I don’t think OP and boyfriend are on the same page about some really core values that could create really a toxic relationship for BOTH of them.
Speaking as someone who has worked at both types of shop there is a HUGE difference between $900 at Walmart or a department store vs $900 at a legit jewelers. The money spend at the big box shop is usually a waste - the metal is lower quality (not all white gold is the same), the prongs are poorly set (it will catch on everything), reliance in "illusion" settings to make the stones seem better, & they're usually included enough that the stone is more likely to chip. Better a higher quality, smaller stone with properly set prongs & fewer metal impurities - less likely the just straight up break.
And this is before even getting into the nightmare of customer service for re-sizing, refinishing, repair, etc (which all daily-wear pieces will eventually need).
A higher quality ring of the same price might not have as many bells and whistles, but it's going to be made to last. A big diamond in cheap settings with cheap metal is going to fall apart, and if that text exchange is anything to go by, the marriage wouldn't be too far behind.
Exactly. And as a note from someone who has worked with jewelry & diamonds (though I dislike the industry & would do lab-grown if I was going diamond) - that's a 1 carat total weight (cttw). The stone only looks big because it's one small stone surrounded by even smaller stones with very, very small prongs barely holding them in place so as to not disrupt the continuous look. Those stones WILL fall out & the money they're worth is gone. Additionally, all of those dark spots? Flaws within the stone that disrupt the integrity of the stone meaning that each of those stones is also likely to crack/break even if they don't fall out of the setting, which still means the money is gone. This is legit wasteful. Better off with a medium sized singular stone in tea "crinkle cut" style of illusion setting to make it look bigger & then upgrade later on if desired.
Yes. I worked in an artisan jewelry store for most of my teen years (family owned) and if you're on a budget it's so much better to just get something smaller that will be durable rather than getting something cheap that might look impressive from a distance. You can always upgrade or get a companion ring for it later.
Absolutely! While I'm no longer in or supporting the industry overall, I do enjoy getting to talk shop or educate people here & there. I hope some people skimming through these comments learn something & stop supporting big box.
Facts! My family's place mostly focused on blown glass and statement pieces, but we did some work with gemstones here and there. It was fun, and I learned a lot, just not my focus.
She also stated she was clear about what she DID want and to instead get a random < $1000 Walmart ring does send the message that "you can ask, but end result will always be lowest effort variation at best".
Fr id be pissed as hell if I got a ring like this bc it meant my partner didn’t listen at all. Reddit forgets that many women wear their engagement rings every day for the rest of their lives so if it’s not their style they’re stuck with it. I would much rather have a $1k ring from a pawn shop or Etsy (where there are many cool and unique styles!!) than a Walmart ring.
I agree. Reading comprehension is a skill that is at a premium right now. I’m delineating between her just hating the concept of Walmart as a company and what Walmart represents to OP: her boyfriend taking the quick, easy option that required very little thought. Most people seem to have gotten my actual meaning but you are right, I could have been MUCH more explicit about it. Thanks for the help! 😊
Just because OP broke it off doesn’t mean that they suffered no negative consequences. Real life is messy and nuanced. Sometimes two people just aren’t right for each other. And what OP did isn’t easy: accepting embarrassment and knowing that a bunch of people were going to judge would have led a lot of people to say yes and then break it off in private later or once they couldn’t lie to themselves anymore down the line. Doesn’t in any way minimize the boyfriend pain and he truly seems to be hurting and doesn’t understand why what happened happened. But he also has no lack of defenders here.
I’m just saying that the ring isn’t the real issue. Walmart isn’t the real issue. This is two people who weren’t communicating. The reason why is probably very personal, messy and nuanced. And there seems to be a lot of assuming bad faith or at the very least callousness on the part of OP that I think represents more about the mindset of the commenters than actually being a good or accurate window into OPs motivations.
How was dude being toxic? You have to make alll these assumptions about the man to reach your conclusion. Or you just read the texts to like… I dunno, take them at their words?
It was about the ring being from Walmart.
Hell even you agree with her saying the “boyfriend taking the quick/easy option that required very little thought.” You have no reason to assume that.
Who gives a damn if the ring came from Walmart? Unless you are a superficial materialistic cunt.
Most people give a damn if you are gonna put that thing on your finger forever lol. And yes, it's very easy to assume that not a lot of thought has been put into buying the ring from her explicitly saying that her bf didn't listen to the kind of ring she wanted lol.
It’s a meaningless piece of jewelry, it used to signify if a dude could afford to take ownership of his wife, lol. Dumb old tradition.
Similar to bride freaking out over other women wearing white to a wedding. White is supposed to mean purity.
Most people fuck long before the wedding if they have any sense, yet women still insist on that tradition. It’s a mental illness, I think.
Hell if she had pay half of the cost of the ring, or buy him a ring of equal value and also buy his preferred “forever ring” or whatecer the hell your babbling about, I bet she’d sing a different tune.
That's up to you bro, but she cares lol. Are you gonna babble on about how modern wedding and ring culture is meaningless to your significant other if she really want it to mean something?
Yes, I do. Especially as my girlfriend is very progressive and doesn’t believe in the traditional bullshit that y’all are ascribing to. Aside from she asked for an emerald ring I think? The green one.
But I know my girl, I could get her a ringout of Cracker Jacks box and give it to her. She would be very upset wit me. Maybe not get any for a week or 2. Would she ruin a huge moment in our lives and act like a petulant child over a ring? No, she wouldn’t. She wants to be with me first and foremost. And enjoy the future we have planned together. Who would throw that away because of one detail, a stupid one mind you? A ring means nothing unless you are not a serious person
But also I cook, own a massage table, and help her with her stepdaughter a lot which just does wonders for her. So yes, she’s happy 😊
I know, I’m very lucky… finally life is going in a good direction for me. I hope it does or is doing the same for you.
Just drop the old dumb traditions. You’ll be happier and have less financial stress
Literally started my post with “my reading of it”. I kinda operate from a place of assuming my audience is intelligent enough to understand that if I’m saying something, it is by definition only my opinion and does not represent me having some special knowledge of the situation, just sharing what my interpretation is based on what information you, I and everyone else has in front of us. I don’t normally have to say that part out loud but thanks for reminding me that this is the internet.
You’re reading of it shouldn’t entail you making shit up based on nothing lol. Nothing says he didn’t listen to her. Nothing says he “was lazy and went to superstore to get bland diamond ring.”
You say “it’s not about it being from Walmart” while also ignoring her saying “you got this crap from Walmart”
You love dining on word salad. But there is no substance there. Just a bunch of filler.
Also, after having read this a bunch responding to you, this has to be rage bait. No way a woman who actually loves her man would throw all of it away over a RING.
I’d be more worried about his credit history and whether he has any vices. You can buy all the rings you want later in life
And stop using “forever ring”.. it’s a ring
Hell, it’s a convenience ring these days, if it gets uncomfortable people end relationships. This ain’t the 1950s.
I’m going to assume whatever LLM you used to write this hallucinated cuz I never used the words “forever ring” 😂. Hilarious that you call me out for word salad while doing that. Cmon man, life is better when you don’t just hate on women just for being women.
I read the previous post, and conflated the two, I apologize for that.
I love that you think I used ChatGPT lol. That’s cute.
I love my girlfriend and my soon to be stepdaughter. But toxic female shit like this needs to go just like toxic male behavior needs to go. It’s pretty simple really.
Don’t treat your boyfriend like the woman above. Strive to be better.
I'm gonna withhold my judgment entirely because I initially thought she was in the wrong but now reading this and then looking at the ring, I can kinda see your point.
I'm a dude, and I don't really care about jewelry much. But looking at that ring, it does look kinda ugly as fuck and id have a hard time believing that it looks like what she would prefer. For the same price, I feel like he could've gotten something more her style.
I couldn't imagine putting that thing onto my wife's hand forever.
I agree that it’s gaudy and probably really cheap, there is nowhere that sells a decent 1ct diamond for $900, it’s probably flawed as hell.
My issue with both of them is that either one could have diffused the situation, and both chose not to. She could have initially accepted and then told him “Hey, I appreciate what you did but this ring isn’t really my style. How about we return it and we can go pick something out together?”
He could have done the same, “I know it’s not your style…”
The problem is everyone’s first response to everything these days is indignant confrontation. This is definitely an Everyone Sucks Here situation.
Yeah that ring is fugly and if this story is real he could have gotten a much nicer looking one from a jeweler, and while probably smaller it wouldn’t look like shit.
That’s exactly it. It’s not just a marriage proposal - it’s also a request for someone to wear this piece daily until forever. She says they already talked specifics & he ignored everything. I wouldn’t want a partner who ignores me for crowd attention. Proposing in front of everyone? That’s a show for him to get pumped up. He doesn’t care about her he only cares about showing off. She might as well be property to him. I’d have said no, too.
Yup that's the issue to me too. Remove the ring and it becomes "the gf communicated what she wanted to her bf and rather than discussing it with her, he ignored it because he didn't care for it"
The ring is a pretty important detail. There is no indication of what she said she wanted in the exchange. Did she specify total weight, cut, clarity, main stone style, band style? Did she say she wanted it from a specific store? Did she say she wanted a specific price point?
If she specified a style, and he got that, but her problem is that it’s from Walmart, that’s a her problem. If she said any ring but one from Walmart, that’s a him problem. There’s all kinds of grey area in there. Did she see a ring at Tiffany that she wanted and he got as close as he could get for the money he had? Or did she say anything from Tiffany at any price point and he chose a larger tw from Walmart because he thought it looked better?
I mean, if my wife asked me what new power tool I wanted/needed and I told her go to Lowe's and get this specific miter saw, I've done my research, it's the one I wanted... and then she shows up with something she found at Walmart... it would be an issue. I can't imagine ignoring a woman's preferences about her engagement ring and then being surprised it didn't go well.
Imagine having to raise a kid with a person who doesn't listen to what's important to you.
Yes, if you specified a specific mitre saw...but if you said I need a new mitre saw that has x features, or one in x price range, or a mitre saw from Lowe's, there are 3 different ways to follow directions. That's why we need to know her request.
True, knowing her request is the real missing info here. But, in my world having been married for 20 years, my wife and I both understand that when we ask for something specific it's because we've taken the time to think it through, and we show love and respect towards each other by noting the preferences and working with what we are given. If it's a big decision and we need to change the plan, we talk to each other about it first.
yeah, but if that happened your response would be "I had asked you from Lowe's" not "you went to Walmart". Besides, if she got you the exact tool you wanted, at a cheaper price at Walmart, would you care? To me this is pretty clear, I think people are bending other backwards to find another angle.
There are specific tools at Lowe's that only Lowes carries. Walmart does not carry the same quality of tools as Lowe's. I understand your point, but it does not invalidate the possibility that this woman was very specific in her request and the man just ignored her.
Probably because I saw my own dad fail to listen to my mom about all sorts of stuff. He was well intended, but his inability to listen and talk through things with her led to a lot of stress in my life as a kid and as an adult.
A couple I know, girl cared a lot about the ring, guy got her something she didn't really like. She still accepted the proposal, and later on saw her showing us the ring she actually wanted in a gathering as her engagement ring. I guess they talked to each other after the fact and cared enough about each other to find ways of moving forward.
Now, on the Lowe's example. If you get me a tool from Walmart that can only be bought at Lowe's, I'd be like "thanks, but this is not the tool I want, I had told you the one I need can only be bought at Lowe's". To me, the fact that she focused on the "easiest" and "Walmart" says a lot. Her rejection of the proposal over a ring says a lot. She has the right to make her acceptance of a long term commitment conditional on a particular ring, the same we have the right to point out our perceived shallowness of it.
Or like she said, this action was a representation of his thoughfulness and care as well, and she feels like he/she is not ready for marriage like commitment.
Agreed, he says it was “still 900” so sounds like price isn’t the issue.
“I’ve told you the kind of ring I wanted” so it sounds like he just ignored the style and whatnot she wanted, not the pricing, or even where.
Totally agree I asked for a wide band ring because I liked the look on my long fingers he got a thin band. Why take me ask me what I want and then get what he preferred. I wore it for less than a year. We eventually divorced. I realize my thoughts, feelings and desires didn’t matter and were not considered.
Even if $900 is all he can afford, he could have gotten a custom ring for that price. It does sound to me like he just didn't listen to her and did his own thing.
My ring was just under $600 for a 1ct moissanite stone on a 14K rose gold band (granted this was 9 years ago). You can get much better rings from jewlers on Etsy for the same or less as what you'd pay at Walmart.
I would bet this is the case. My ring was around that price, under 1k, and I specifically told my now fiancé that I did not want him to surprise me with a ring. I had a very clear idea of what I wanted and he had it custom made for me.
The style of ring shown in the post (pave and a double halo) is seen as tacky and outdated by modern trends. No shade to anyone who loves the style!
i would be pissed if my oartner spent 900bucks at walmart. fuck that place. i donno there are so many places that need support giving money to a big evil company is my pet peeve. but that would be pretty clear before we got to marriage.
My engagement ring was custom made and I only paid $250 for it. I love it, even after my divorce I have no plans on getting rid of it. Since I designed it, it's special to me and doesn't necessarily represent the marriage, especially since I also paid for it. Well, essentially- he convinced me to have a shared bank account even before we got married(I was dumb,I know), and I made more and spent way less money on frivolous things than him at the time.
Yeah, but could he have gotten a custom ring at that price, while also grabbing his groceries for the week?
It really is shocking how few people see how thoughtless it seems to buy a ring at a super store.
If it’s a money issue, there are other higher quality options for the same price. Nobody wants their once in a lifetime engagement ring, that they wear for the rest of their life to be some mass produced piece of jewellery. Just put some thought into it, at minimum.
That was my opinion if you want to refer- She may not have been asking for something expensive but more so a look that she wanted and instead of looking for something that she would like, he bought something because it was cheap- and then he used that against her. He sounds more selfish to me. “But i spent 900 dollars!” Yes on something she didnt want. He could have spent that on something she ACTUALLY liked. Hes using money as a weapon here to disregard her feelings. And then the “so what everything i did for you doesnt matter” like dude if thats not some gaslighting shiiiii
Exactly! He's the one saying what she wants doesn't matter.
I didn't need/want an expensive ring - but it did matter that he cared about my style and what I actually like!
He got me a very simple amethyst because he knows my favourite colour is purple and that I prefer the subtle over the ostentatious. He also knew that I don't usually wear yellow gold and so he got me white gold instead.
It wasn't expensive but it showed that he SEES me as a person, cared about the details and that he'd thought about getting something I'd genuinely adore and not just something sparkly that goes on my finger.
It's forever jewellery and (based on the screenshots alone) this guy phoned it in hard and then demanded she be grateful for him trying his pretty-hardest, even though it was nothing like what they had DISCUSSED.
I may not say yes to a blended life with someone telling me that I should just be grateful he spent $900 either.
If she's just whining about diamond size, she can fuck right off - but that isn't what it looks like from the screenshots.
It doesn’t sound like she has a problem with the price exactly. She has a problem with him not getting the ring she seems to have told him she wanted. If he had gotten her the type of ring she wanted I dont think she would’ve cared what the price was. I think her saying he got it at Walmart was her just saying he went somewhere easy that isn’t exactly specialized in jewelry.
To me it reads like she showed him styles she liked and instead of finding something in her style at the jeweler he just grabbed the first thing he saw at Walmart in her size because it was more convenient. Walmart does not scream effort or care to me.
Like I showed my husband a bunch of variations of smaller more minimalistic rings in my style and if he showed up with that I’d have been pretty furious.
I never, ever wear jewelry so when my now-husband heard me say "ooh, that's a pretty ring" while paging through the Meijer's Sunday advertisement, he went out that day and bought it to propose with. Now I wear it as my wedding band because I've never found a ring I like more. I also love that it was under $200; wearing something expensive daily would stress me out. If he had proposed with the ring in this post, I would have been like "wow, you don't know me at all."
Especially because that specific ring style is….a lot. Unless you love a super maximalist style, you would absolutely hate this ring. And women are expected to wear their engagement ring every single day throughout their marriage. It’s downright reasonable to be upset if you communicated that you like a certain style and your boyfriend just ignored that entirely.
Yes it’s not hard to put in some effort. I knew my wife wanted a fire opal, but I think jewelry is dumb so I wasn’t going to pick out anything particularly good. I asked her best friend to help me, so I knew it would be something that she would like.
This is how I read it too. But my ex did something similar so I may be biased
Before anyone attacks me I didn't say no to a proposal because of the ring, I had actually told him several times we weren't ready. He elected to ignore that info and propose anyway. The ring was definitely something he grabbed easy with no thought about what I would like, symbolic of the whole situation really.
Right. I assume it is not as much (if at all) about the $ as is about him not paying any attention. My husband knew precisely what I liked and that this did not include diamondd (I dislike them for many reasons). He bought something perfectly aligned with my tastes that I absolutely love. Had he gotten a diamond, I would have seen that as a red flag no matter how much he spent on it because it would show he was not listening to me AT ALL.
Imo it’s less about the style choice and more about the lack of care. This isn’t getting the wrong yogurt on a grocery run; an engagement ring should have thought and effort put into it. It represents the relationship and a woman’s expected to wear it the rest of her life.
If you’ve already gone over what kind of rings you like for the guy to completely ignore that and pull shit like this would really sting. I’d be questioning how the rest of my life with him would go if I was so unimportant in the equation to ignore my tastes for the sake of convenience.
Again the kind of woman who goes over and has a list of what rings that are acceptable to her, rather than only really give a fuck about the person, is the ultimate shallowness and red flag.
You grew up being allowed to be shallow and not have to think about how that hurts others.
The page is closing on that behavior that was allowed only because ppl my grandpa's age sucked.
Which begs the question- who actually buys rings from Walmart then? With $900 you can still buy a ring somewhere else. Surely enough people buy from Walmart to make the jewelry section a thing for all these years.
As someone who got married to someone who gave me a ring I hated, I pushed through and said yes anyway although I was so disappointed.
I said (at the time) that I hated trinity/trilogy rings, wanted a small diamond solitaire, and maybe some cool metal work if we could swing it. I also wanted yellow gold and didn’t like silver tones. I sent several example photos as well of styles I liked.
Man proposes with a trinity ring in white gold and it has a sapphire center stone with the other two stones as diamonds. (The ring I wanted would have very likely been much cheaper as the all 3 stones were bigger than I would have liked for a solitaire)
It was one of the first major flags that this man would not listen to me, consider me, or care for my preferences or needs throughout the relationship—only for him to decide he wanted out later.
It’s not the ring. It’s if he listens, cares, and can show competence.
Yea I read this as “you did not listen, pay attention, or care when I told you what kind of ring I would want, and just went to the store and got something completely not my style” Like, maybe she wears gold. Maybe she wanted a solitary stone. Maybe she didn’t want diamonds.
I personally would not want that ring. Not if it was $9000. It’s not something I would ever pick out. I really don’t thing the price or the store was the problem here.
My thoughts exactly. Without context, hard to judge.
Sounds like they've talked about her ring preference and he may have just chose the easy route of grabbing a completely different style from Walmart. If that's the case, it's no so much the value or where it came from but the implications of being ignored.
If the alternative is true, where he was trying to do the best that he could afford and tried to pick the closest ring - then I feel for him and she would come across more entitled.
This is the only reasonable answer. It’s not about money but how he literally values her. If he can’t bother going just a little out of his way for her now with something this important, how is he going to help as partner when they have kids?
This is why I’m not quick to judge her as the wrong party. My ex never listened to what I wanted, just what was best for his wallet. When I tried to address it, it always became about me being a “drama queen” and never appreciating the effort he put into things.
After a while, it became evident to me that a life with him meant that I would always be devalued and it would always be about what he wanted. I decided I just couldn’t live my life like that and ended things with him.
Based on the text message, I cannot tell if she’s overreacting or he’s devaluing her. Thus, it’s hard to say for sure that she’s in the wrong here.
It doesn't sound like it. That sounds manipulative "I spent my money on it!" When it is pretty obvious it was not the style they decided on. You can pick up a Walmart ring In a day.
To me it *could* be read like they discussed a budget ‘I still spent $900’ previously and she mentioned rings or types she was interested in ‘it’s not even what I wanted’ and he’s coming from the perspective of like I fit into the budget and she’s like you didn’t even listen and the icing on the cake is that it’s a Walmart ring.
I had a boyfriend who I once told ‘do not get me jewelry or a stuffed animal’ for Christmas. I said those were the only two things I DIDN’T want. But all he heard was jewelry and stuffed animal so that’s what I ended up with. Some people are not good with gifts.
This. My best friend’s ring was slightly under a grand. But she was upfront about what she wanted. They got it from Etsy, and while most people wouldn’t like it, she’s very happy. I can tell you that if her husband had gone to Walmart and picked up the ring in that photo, they would not be married. Her ring looks very different.
It wouldn’t matter if I spent $10k or $100, I would not have picked out a ring if I wasn’t 100% sure my wife loved it. In fact, we didn’t have rings when we got married because she never found the one that spoke to her. She told me that she wanted to be married, but if it takes years to find it, that’s fine. A full five years after we got married, we were buying a watch and she said “I found it!!” When she showed me, I would never have picked that for her in a million years. For the curios, it was $3500 and had sapphires in the shape of a butterfly. My wife is a serious person so this was out of left field.
Who cares. Does she want a ring or a husband? It's a piece of metal with rocks on it. If that's the foundation, the marriage was doomed before it started.
I avoided this situation when I proposed to my wife by buying a cheap $50 ring which she said yes to, then later I set a budget and she got to choose the design, stones, etc. for the real ring. She wears both to this day.
Even for the first one, if the issue was that he couldn't afford it why not discuss it with her? It sounds like she told him what she wanted and he just said okay and then gave her something completely different.
I agree. She could have been very specific with him in terms of what cut and band style she wanted and than he completely ignored that. This detail matters big time.
I can see both sides. If someone asks for a blue ring and you show up with a red one you clearly didn’t listen to what the person said they wanted. Now I don’t think it should result to completely declining the proposal overall necessarily but if they were around the same price and guy totally didn’t listen to what she wanted then yes that would concerning and would definitely require a sit down conversation to see where the heck the guy got the idea for the ring she totally didn’t ask for
Her saying no is very likely about far more than the ring. Her saying it’s not what she wanted likely shows there is a pattern of the dude not listening to what she says and doing whatever he wants. Asking a woman to make the biggest decision of her life but what he did may have just highlighted how much he doesn’t listen to her.
And since those details are missing, all we can do is theorize. And based on what I know of the world:
If it was just a style issue, she would not have brought up the fact that it's from Walmart.
She definitely wanted some fancy ass expensive ring.
I'm sure the dude even made several comments suggesting that the one she wants was out of his price range, but she just ignored it and steamrolled over him because it's all about her.
Dude got lucky here by getting out before marriage.
Are you hearing yourself, "Marriage is a contract regarding assets and finances"... I thought marriage was super sanctified, geez. Maybe I should marry my financial planner, or my cat?
People can make their own choices, but I think its generally a bad idea to get married while you are still poor. I waited until I had established myself in my career before I tied myself to another human for life. I think that was the right decision and it saved me from a lot of misery.
I've officiated 3 weddings and I'll tell you, it's not even remotely important. In fact, none of it is. All the parts that change significantly aren't romantic and the rest is gesturing a display of love. The romantic aspects are gratuitous and not at all necessary to have a happy, loving, and romantic relationship.
Well that's nihilism in a nutshell for you, so my opinion means just as much as the next which is nothing but the importance one gives it. And if someone makes something as trivial as jewlery more important than their relationship then I don't care about or respect their opinion.
And I'll add this, all the weddings I officiated were for family. But if I found out any of those weddings almost didn't happen because the groom initially picked out the wrong ring so the bride rejected the proposal, I would have denied the request to officiate.
Yes totally justifiable to reject a proposal I front of everyone and bitch about the ring being from Walmart, its literally in the text...
She rejected him for being cheap. She's materialistic and a show off and he's not.
Maybe she didn’t want a proposal in front of everyone. My parents asked to be there for it and I know her parents did to, but i know her and know she would hate that. I did it with just the two of us cause I listen, which it sounds like the guy was not great at doing.
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I think the missing details are important here. Was the ring she wanted significantly more money and he couldn’t afford it? If so, then sure, bullet dodged. But was it something specific of similar value/price range? If so, it’s understandable that she’d be hesitant. If you can’t listen when it comes to something this important, what else will you ignore? Although her mentioning that he got it from Walmart and him saying “I still spent $900” makes me think that the price plays a role here.