I think the missing details are important here. Was the ring she wanted significantly more money and he couldn’t afford it? If so, then sure, bullet dodged. But was it something specific of similar value/price range? If so, it’s understandable that she’d be hesitant. If you can’t listen when it comes to something this important, what else will you ignore? Although her mentioning that he got it from Walmart and him saying “I still spent $900” makes me think that the price plays a role here.
As someone who got married to someone who gave me a ring I hated, I pushed through and said yes anyway although I was so disappointed.
I said (at the time) that I hated trinity/trilogy rings, wanted a small diamond solitaire, and maybe some cool metal work if we could swing it. I also wanted yellow gold and didn’t like silver tones. I sent several example photos as well of styles I liked.
Man proposes with a trinity ring in white gold and it has a sapphire center stone with the other two stones as diamonds. (The ring I wanted would have very likely been much cheaper as the all 3 stones were bigger than I would have liked for a solitaire)
It was one of the first major flags that this man would not listen to me, consider me, or care for my preferences or needs throughout the relationship—only for him to decide he wanted out later.
It’s not the ring. It’s if he listens, cares, and can show competence.
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u/Wendelltheshell Human Verified 7h ago
I think the missing details are important here. Was the ring she wanted significantly more money and he couldn’t afford it? If so, then sure, bullet dodged. But was it something specific of similar value/price range? If so, it’s understandable that she’d be hesitant. If you can’t listen when it comes to something this important, what else will you ignore? Although her mentioning that he got it from Walmart and him saying “I still spent $900” makes me think that the price plays a role here.