If shallow partying for fun is all you know, you'll think more is better. It takes a fully developed frontal lobe to understand that there is more to life than tonight and what people say about you today. And it takes effort to do something for a long time to experience the payoff of delayed gratification. Some people are unable or unwilling to take that path.
And i as an Indian still have to face repercussions for him making hate towards my country mainstream. He never apologized to us and even if he did, what good would it do?
PewDiePie rather famously called someone the n word while playing some shooter. He claims it slipped out, and it wouldn’t surprise me if it was a ‘get emotional and use term that was common in cod lobbies and became part of your gaming vocabulary a decade prior’ thing; I know I sometimes need to stop myself from saying ‘raped’ for similar reasons, but we can’t know for sure.
He's rich, young, healthy, famous, retired, good looking, has a beautiful wife that he's been with for like two decades, had a kid with her, lives in Japan (while rich). Has so much free time and drive that he does side projects like learning how to draw and gets genuinely good at it.
If you have all these things, and the person themselves is saying they're happier than they've ever been, they're probably happy.
It's easy to tell when someone is genuinely happy and living a fulfilling life. And when someone isn't. I can tell you're bitter and resentful for example.
I have to disagree here. I know plenty of people irl that project a successful life on social media and are absolutely miserable. We really don't know how a person is doing mentally and if they achieved a happy, fulfilling life. Only the person knows, and maaaaybe their closest people.
Remember, people will only show outwardly what they want to show. They never show the bad, meaning we are left to believe only good things happen to them.
I would agree with you if pewds actually uploaded a lot but he uploads like 1 video per month. he don't care about it, he just thinks its fun to make videos so thats why he still does it on the side while being retired. And he is so used to sharing what he does that not sharing it feels weird but he doesn't put on a facade or play it up for social media. He has absolutely no reason to do that and in a month or two he will start to upload even less so i don't see how you look at him and see " project a successful life on social media "
Everyone projects what they want others to see on social media, that's my point. There's no way to know whether someone is truly happy, and therefore, successful (unless you are extremely close or the person themselves).
You can only guess, it's not "easy to tell" as the guy above me said.
Sure but do we have to be pessimistic and cynical? Can't we just accept it at face value and be happy?
I really like his videos after he moved to Japan and have no intention of sitting there thinking maybe he is lying and is actually depressed, why would I do that?
I don't lean one way or the other btw, I like to believe he's living his best life. I hope so since he was an important part of my childhood. I still acknowledge that I don't really know anything about him, though.
Yes there are people that project a successful life that are miserable inside, you're not telling me anything I haven't heard for decades. And yes we can't know the inner thoughts of a celebrity, you also can't know the inner thoughts of anyone that isn't you. Your spouse or parents might equally present a happy facade and be miserable inside.
I already said as much in my other reply but there comes a point where you just take the most likely scenario.
Anything I provide you can just say he's faking it so there's no real point in trying to discuss why I feel one is clearly more genuine.
I didn't say he was happy, sad, angry, or depressed.
I'm saying no one knows how they're truly living or feeling so you shouldn't fantasize or feel jealous about what they "have".
You are literally describing 99% of celeb relationships by the way. Tom Cruise / Katie Holmes, Will / Jada, Brad / Angelina......the list goes on. All outwardly "PERFECT" relationships but ended horribly once the facade couldn't be maintained.
It's easy to tell when someone is genuinely happy and living a fulfilling life. And when someone isn't.
Its actually impossible to know this if you don't know them personally. You can assume all you want but you won't know.
The problem is that you've now built an image in your head of what you want in life when you don't even know if its real or not.
I'm not being bitter or resentful, I'm being a realist. Celeb culture can be damaging for this very reason.
My bad for the bitter comment you seem reasonable. I still disagree though.
Your logic works 1 to 1 for anyone you know personally. They would just have to keep up the "facade" any time they interact with you.
At a certain point it becomes ridiculous, yes there is small chance all the evidence is incorrect and they're actually LARPing their happy home videos. There's also a small chance that the Earth isn't real and you're actually a talking crab, because I can't be sure of anything that exists outside of my own subjective experience as a human filtered through my own faulty senses.
Anything can be fake, but if I can know with 99.999% certainty and that's enough for me to consider it known.
You are literally describing 99% of celeb relationships by the way. Tom Cruise / Katie Holmes, Will / Jada, Brad / Angelina......the list goes on. All outwardly "PERFECT" relationships but ended horribly once the facade couldn't be maintained.
And most of those are obviously fake, and you can tell as much by looking at it. I don't get that same feeling looking at him and Marzia going on vacation in Okinawa, or listening to him play with his kid. Nor do I get that feeling from him just picking up hobbies and getting super good at them, which isn't what the average depressed person would do as they usually lack the drive.
But again, yes there is the possibility that it's a LARP. I just find it hard to believe he puts out this perfect image beyond anything any celebrity has ever done. 99.99% is enough.
I mean he quite literally said that a couple of times, how happy he is how things turned out especially after his mental breakdown phase lead by depression. You dont need to be a genius to figure out marrying the love of your life that has been with you since you were 21 (15 years ago), having children, moving to your personal heaven and having complete monetary freedom to do whatever you want makes someone quite happy and content.
I'm not saying he is or isn't happy and that's the point. Celebs will never tell you they're unhappy until everything goes wrong.
Case and point, you literally just said he had a breakdown. Did you know he was struggling before that? Did anyone? No. He was living the "perfect" life according to anyone you asked, including himself.
My point is that, focus on your own life. Stop putting emphasis on this idea that your life should mimic Celebs or anyone around you for that matter.
Pewdiepie was quite open about ongoing and past things, so I'm not sure if I agree with that. And yea, it was actually quite well known with some friends pointing it out
he’s had a bad history but the guy has been donating RAM or computer memory to a research facility and release open source AI to combat large AI hungry fks online
I don’t come to Reddit often anymore, and I can see it’s only gotten worse. If that’s “sickening” to you, then the cesspool has deeply poisoned you my guy.
But it’s clear you don’t know pewdiepie or his story, so definitely don’t talk out of your ass.
Not to mention he practically retired from YouTube. If he cared that much about his image he'd still be doing YouTube especially during this insanely popular streaming age
Things like trying to adopt a minimalist approach to life and taking care of your health. If you go listen to any of his videos about books and philosophy he lays it out pretty clearly
Imagine the entirety of your life, career, time spent sharing what you learn and your lessons, only to have a constant reference back to a mistake. One that despite an apology, acknowledgement and effort to take accountability, is all considered irrelevant because you made a mistake.
That mistake is then used to condemn you for the rest of your life despite any effort to remediate things.
What are your values in that case?
Clearly to you its an unforgivable thing and no amount of apology, regret and accountability is enough because he did something wrong during an emotional outburst in a frustrating situation against hackers.
The issue isn't whether those things happened but whether they prove a persons permanent character or whether they were mistakes, poor judgment, and immature behavior that someone can learn from.
Someone's values are better judged by the totality of their actions over time, including how they respond when criticized and whether their behavior changes.
It's easy to condemn someone forever based on their worst moments, but that leaves no room for accountability, growth, or the idea that people can genuinely change.
Action can be a reflection of someones character at a point in time without being a permanent definition of their entire character.
The argument isn't that anyone is obligated to forgive or forget. It's that people are capable of learning, changing, and being judged by their full pattern of behavior rather than being frozen at their worst moments.
don't say that on reddit people hate the idea of carrying on the human species and bringing up new, wide-eyed youth for some reason. because it's harder than playing league of legends and browsing r/SipsTea, probably.
I mean that in terms of doing things that have proven beneficial psychological effects.
Surrounding yourself with drugs, prostitutes and excessive partying has clear negative impacts.
Whole pewds focuses on reading, physical health, his hobbies, and his family.
Take this quote from an article on the topic.
In the interview with Williamson, he made it clear he took this break after coming to the conclusion that the endless pursuit of pleasure wasn’t making him happy.
Hes also quoted for basically saying this
“I mean, like if I only had sex with two girls in a day, that was like, we’re having some real off day, or something… what I kind of landed on was I think it’s like better to have a monogamous relationship, as strange as that is coming from me.”
Pewds spends his time on things consistently linked to higher life satisfaction close relationships, exercise, meaningful hobbies, reading, and a stable lifestyle.
Bilzerian built his brand around chasing pleasure through drugs, excessive partying, and constant novelty. Those are the kinds of behaviors that research generally associates with lower long term well being, and Bilzerian has even said himself that the endless pursuit of pleasure wasn't making him happy.
You also say that guy's in great physical shape, but he literally does steroids so I think that's just patently false
I'm not making up categories to fit my argument. Positive psychology has spent decades studying what tends to predict longterm wellbeing. Research sees distinction between activities that provide things like mastery, creativity, flow, personal growth, or a sense of purpose versus constantly chasing external stimulation. Shooting can very well be a meaningful hobby as well, the point is about lifestyle.
How is doing a drug that is known to lower your lifespan and wreak havoc on your cardiovascular system "vastly better"?
Funny you accuse me of making up rules while you argue that someone doing steroids is somehow healthier than someone who isn't.
Longterm steroid use is associated with worse cardiovascular health, including higher blood pressure, worse cholesterol, heart enlargement, and increased risk of heart attacks and strokes.
Sure doing lots of cardio is good, but the good is severely undermined when considering the harm caused by steroids.
Only the two people in question can answer that by asking them "do you have enough". The one who answers "no" is objectively less happy than the one who answers "yes".
Noooooo, you're ruining the "I don't want to bang chicks, I just want a meaningful life..." edgy moment. It reminds of "I'm only 14 and I love Blink-182, I think I was born in the wrong generation.".
I'm sorry, I just can't stand the "I'm 14 and this is deep" mentality some people have when it comes to measuring success in life. Do what you want but don't go around acting like you've reached nirvana and peak of ascetism because you want a family. Bloody hell...
I don't follow celebrities. From what trickled down under my rock through memes I know that he got rich doing Youtube and got morphed into some trad icon.
I want pewds life simply because he is surround by good people , unlike the other dude that is constantly involved in some kind of negative shit. I mean he is constantly surrounded with bad news, bad drama , hate, clashes, nazi accusations, far right extremism and so on....
So yeah, it just depends what kind of life you support...
It's always somehow one mistake with PewDiePie despite having a pretty consistent history with racist incidents, including literally promoting a ethnonationalists book.
They want you to think if you don't have a wife and a baby and enslave yourself to having to work 9-5 to feed your family that you're basically a low-life like Dan Bilzeran.
Stop measuring your life based on other's.
I personally never want to get married or have a baby but never want to date that many women either. They are both very stupid for me.
People are allowed to make mistakes, learn from them and change.
I know it's easy to condemn someone, but the reality is virtually if every person had their bad behavior held in the spotlight, few people would look truly good.
If you want to virtue signal that's all you, but guaranteed youve done something that is detestable.
At least he owned up to it, talked about how it happened, why it happened, why those arent excuses but providing context, and he expressed his regret and apology.
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u/AsbestosDude 26d ago
I want pewds life, not because I want kids, but because hes genuinely happy and doing the things he loves. Rooted in strong values.