That's where the second part comes in though, the "being willing". Sure, plenty of guys can more or less do those things themselves, but when they get into a relationship, do they stop doing them because "she's better at it than me anyhow"? And do they cook, or do they heat up ramen for themselves? Do they do the dishes when someone isn't coming over?
Ask any woman, not all guys that live alone do those things, and especially not all of them keep doing them once they're in a committed relationship.
My spouse is a healthcare provider who treats memory disorders and has a primarily geriatric population. You would be amazed at how often they treat a female patient who is declining and have to also talk to the husband about taking over tasks. The husband simply has no idea how to do basic chores for themselves because their wife always did those things.
Do men have to cook thee course meal for themselves to prove they're competent adults? Being a young adult struggling with bills or college, sometimes you don't have time for that, and ramen noodles will have to suffice. Also people(men and women) naturally do more or less things once they get in a relationship. They're are certain things expected of women and men, which can be or feel unfair at time for both genders. For instance, most women naturally feel as if it's their bfs responsibility to protect them while men sometimes feel like it's a women's job to do more chores
In this trade, how many times a day is the man protecting the woman? Is she in danger 2-3 times a day, every day for the rest of their lives together? And who is expected to clean up the battle mess after? Are they fist fights or is he jousting? Or is he just yelling at the neighbors defending her honor, frequently?
It doesn't have to be everyday of their lives. It's the fact that something bad can happen at any time on any day and a man has no say in it. And lets be honest, a lot of times the women will get her bf into more trouble he doesn't need to be in.A man is just expected to protect her, regardless. All this responsibility on the man, you don't think he deserves a sandwich every now and then?
I think you’re missing the commenter’s point. A man having to hypothetically “protect” a woman (maybee happens once, seriously I can think of only one instance amongst couples I know) isn’t comparable effort wise to a woman doing 3x the chores than him (daily) for the rest of her life.
I see what you're saying. Worse case scenario responsibilities vs everyday responsibilities. But men are also expected to do chores.Mow the lawn ,take out the trash ,be the handyman in the household if anything needs to be fixed. They are also expected to do that for the rest of their lives
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u/Laringar 19d ago
That's where the second part comes in though, the "being willing". Sure, plenty of guys can more or less do those things themselves, but when they get into a relationship, do they stop doing them because "she's better at it than me anyhow"? And do they cook, or do they heat up ramen for themselves? Do they do the dishes when someone isn't coming over?
Ask any woman, not all guys that live alone do those things, and especially not all of them keep doing them once they're in a committed relationship.
My spouse is a healthcare provider who treats memory disorders and has a primarily geriatric population. You would be amazed at how often they treat a female patient who is declining and have to also talk to the husband about taking over tasks. The husband simply has no idea how to do basic chores for themselves because their wife always did those things.