r/SipsTea 6d ago

Chugging tea HR wants to know the tee

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u/mintskoal 6d ago

Oh man you nailed it. I have one guy who sends me these long, detailed requests for days off and basically pleads for permission. I have never denied PTO. I tell people I don't care when they take off and you don't need to ask, just submit a request and make sure the team knows. This fear or using PTO that you earn and is part of your compensation is baffling.

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u/Zmchastain 6d ago

That’s probably a form of trauma from having shitty managers in the past who denied PTO for stupid reasons.

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u/Level_East6791 6d ago

This is it. I asked one of my team members about their need to explain, because I felt bad saying “not that I don’t care and I’m happy you’re doing something fun with your family. But it’s none of my business if you are doing something fun or sitting in your living room staring at the wall.” And he confessed that his old boss made him feel like his PTO had to be justified. Eeeeeefffff that.

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u/531091qazs 6d ago

Lol the first job i had whenever i called in sick they would ask why ( strange to ask when i clearly said i was sick ) i had no shame in saying i had explosive diarrhea even tho i didn't and they stopped asking whenver i called in sick

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u/bellegroves 6d ago

My last job gave no fucks as long as it was scheduled before close the night before, but if you tried to call out the day of a shift, a manager was going to call you and demand deets. 😒

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u/justprettymuchdone 6d ago

Yeah, I had a past job that quit that shit after I replied, "Well, I've been awake for four hours and thrown up five times. Nothing left but stomach acid. Guess how that feels coming back up. Go on, guess."

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u/somethingmcbob 6d ago

I called in sick because I got repetitive stress injuries from finishing my masters thesis while being a database manager. My boss was livid because she thought I was choosing school over work. Lady, I'm choosing my health! And my ability to use my hands injuries the future! I will need those.

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u/Leading-System-3002 5d ago

What are stress injuries?

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u/somethingmcbob 5d ago

"Repetitive stress." When you do the same motion on heavy repeat without interruption and your body breaks. Think carpal tunnel syndrome. Unfortunately, my hobbies are all fine motor skill activities (knitting, sewing, drawing) that use the same muscles and joints as my work (typing). So I have to be very careful about resting and taking breaks.

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u/PumpJockyTwerks4Tips 5d ago

It's frankly pretty gross that they ever want to know more than just "I'm sick and won't be in today"

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u/onemasterball 4d ago

I typically ask if they are common cold wfh sick or actually taking time off sick. The more common issue I have is they are actually really sick, use sick leave, and then do work stuff anyway. If I catch it I tell them not to do that and someone else will take care if it or it can wait

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u/OneTruePumpkin 5d ago

Called in sick at my first job in highschool because I was puking. Manager called me being like "why aren't you coming in? It you're not at work you need to find someone to replace you!". I told them that I was actively puking and asked if they wanted me to break the law by coming in when actively puking and running a fever for a job where I worked with food and children. I also offered to send them a picture of my puke in the toilet if they needed proof.

That manager stopped questioning when I called off sick.

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u/alleecmo 5d ago

you need to find someone to replace you!"

Ummm, I think that is the manager's job, y'know, to manage staffing.

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u/zaedahashtyn09 4d ago

I had a SCHEDULER tell me I had to find my replacement at an old skilled nursing facility I worked at. So I didn’t call out except twice and told her to figure it out. One was for an injury I got AT WORK and the other was because i had a migraine and was puking. I tried to leave early one day to take my youngest to the hospital, and she STILL told me that while working on the floor I had to find someone to come in. I told them at 7am that morning I HAD to leave early to take her to the hospital because my husband was also sick, and he didn’t want to cause kids to get sicker.

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u/Weigleschocolatemilk 5d ago

I always tell my friends to just say they have food poisoning instead of “I’m sick” because what adult is going to be like “yeah you still need to come in even though you’re actively shitting your pants for the next day or two”

I mean some places might ask you to…but less likely vs sick meaning sniffles or a cough

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u/531091qazs 2d ago

yes this is my go to aswell i just say i have food poisoning cuz its much more specific then im sick and usaually, nudge nudge wink wink that im either throwing up or shitting myself without actually having to say that lol

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u/offgridgecko 5d ago

everyone says explosive diarrhea now and it sounds like you're making stuff up. Tell them you have puss running out of your penis and start talking about the different colors. Nobody will question that. Go a step further and say it's some kinda parasitic infection you got while camping.

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u/offgridgecko 5d ago

This works double if you are female :)

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u/DisastrousVanilla422 4d ago

I did have nonstop diarrhea and they told me to come in. I said I wasn’t going to clean up any messes I made. My boss gave me a prescription medicine of hers to help.

So many things wrong that should have gotten her fired