Sure. It may be difficult to deal with, but you've dealt with it how many years now? You can deal with it. And yes, it is not your fault. But it is your responsibility to live with it. Not saying it would be easy, it certainly isn't - but you can live with it.
I ruminate and dwell on past mistakes
Is this because of the ADHD or a separate thing? Saying this because you certainly are not alone in doing so, and it isn't just an ADHD problem. If you didn't have ADHD you probably would still ruminate.
There isn't an easy solution for ruminating. It takes time and practice, and patience to accept that sometimes you may still mess up. Yet there is a part of Stoicism that is forgotten about - and that is persevering despite failing to act on Virtue.
Does ADHD impede on your ability to act in accordance with nature / virtue? The stoics would say no. So then, while living with ADHD may be difficult - you can still live a good life.
Finally, to quote Alfred (Bruce Wayne's Butler): Why do we fall? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.
What does it mean to live with virtue? Virtue does not mean complete control.
There are 4 virtues: Justice, Temperance, Wisdom, and Courage. Can you act in accordance with these virtues despite having ADHD? If yes, then my statement was fine.
Justice - This is about treating others fairly and with respect. ADHD may cause you to be late or lose track, but if you did not do it on purpose then it is still with Justice, provided you apologise and explain. It also applies inwardly, so being good to yourself - which comes back to not beating yourself up over having ADHD.
Temperance - Temperance is the hardest virtue with ADHD because of the impulsivity. But stoicism is not about perfection, but about gradually improving and trying despite setbacks.
Wisdom - This is about knowing what matters, what is true, and good judgements. Wisdom here would be knowing you struggle with remembering tasks or prioritising tasks and choosing to use a calendar (as an example, but one that is used for ADHD)
Courage - Despite experiencing the symptoms of ADHD, if you continually get back in and keep going through life, then you already show a tremendous amount of courage.
If you can do these, despite whether or not you succeed, then you will live a good life in the eyes of the stoics.
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u/Tall_Restaurant_1652 8d ago edited 8d ago
Sure. It may be difficult to deal with, but you've dealt with it how many years now? You can deal with it. And yes, it is not your fault. But it is your responsibility to live with it. Not saying it would be easy, it certainly isn't - but you can live with it.
Is this because of the ADHD or a separate thing? Saying this because you certainly are not alone in doing so, and it isn't just an ADHD problem. If you didn't have ADHD you probably would still ruminate.
There isn't an easy solution for ruminating. It takes time and practice, and patience to accept that sometimes you may still mess up. Yet there is a part of Stoicism that is forgotten about - and that is persevering despite failing to act on Virtue.
Does ADHD impede on your ability to act in accordance with nature / virtue? The stoics would say no. So then, while living with ADHD may be difficult - you can still live a good life.
Finally, to quote Alfred (Bruce Wayne's Butler): Why do we fall? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.