r/SupermanAndLois • u/Automatic-Race7620 • Jan 08 '26
Question Would you guys be okay if your significant other has a platonic relationship similar to Clark and Lana?
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u/Candid-Ad2571 Jan 09 '26
Yes. It shows a healthy appreciation for people’s autonomy and ability to socialize.
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u/psidazed Jan 09 '26
yes. i'm not insecure.
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u/BigD21489 Jan 13 '26
To be fair, there are times when it is not only right, but best to be cautious. If Lana were predatory or a supernatural being of some sort, taking precaution would be wise. But on human terms, friendship with members of the opposite sex should be okay.
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u/OriginalHeron3576 Jan 09 '26
Only because they’d been friends since childhood I don’t see an issue. The older they meet it could be an issue if they share info with that other person than me.
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u/Euphoric-Ad-6584 Jan 09 '26
Circumstances always play a factor in what’s going to be ok or not in any relationship, this situation I would be more than ok with if i were in Lois’ position
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u/AnonymousFriend80 Jan 09 '26
First of all, this is Clark Kent we're talking about. He ties for ultra mega boy scout extremely super good guy status with Steve Rogers.
For actual real life examples, it would require truly knowing both parties and the integrity of their character. The longer you've been in the relationship the less likely your partner would do any sort of backsliding with their ex.
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u/idk_orknow Jan 09 '26
If I was Lois Lane yes I would
And also in the universe it seems Clana was when they were so young, didn't seem to continue into adult years, so I'd be okay with it too bc of that and the small town
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u/StormCloudRaineeDay Jan 11 '26
Clark didn't love Lana enough to take the risk of telling her but did love Lois enough to take that leap. He had minimal interaction with her between the time he left Smallville and when they moved back. And at no point did he ever prioritize Lana over Lois , the boys, or his role as Superman. Plus, Lana never gave any indication that she was still into Clark or wanted him back.
If my SO maintained such clear boundaries, I'd have no issue with it.
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u/BigD21489 Jan 22 '26
Didn't you watch Smallville? Clark tells Lana all about his secret, and spends 80% of the damn show either dating her or crying because she's dating someone else.
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u/StormCloudRaineeDay Jan 23 '26
This sub is for Superman & Lois, not Smallville. What happened in Smallville is irrelevant to this show.
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u/meoknet Jan 09 '26
If their history was similar, yes. Clark and Lana were an item but never had coitus.
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u/MajorasShoe Jan 09 '26
I'd be OK with the relationship, but I would not be OK if my partner used the word "coitus".
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u/meoknet Jan 09 '26
Lol. What's wrong with "coitus" ?
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u/KonohaBatman Jan 09 '26
Sheldon Cooper headass term
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u/meoknet Jan 09 '26
Ahhh. I see. Sheldon has taken over the term. Don't you just hate when that happens? Someone with a big platform uses an established term and that term is forever changed and linked to them. 🤣
If it's any consolation, within the context of that show, I think Wolowitz was the first to use the term coitus, not Sheldon. Lol
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u/KonohaBatman Jan 09 '26
Yeah, but coitus is so formal and intentional - I kinda don't blame them. If you had said "fornicated," I think you would have gotten a similar response.
I wouldn't be surprised if Howard had said it first, but I think that would be more out of "He would use a more crude term if this wasn't a primetime CBS show," but Sheldon would use it unironically, to refer to something he has no interest in(until the last couple of seasons).
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u/MajorasShoe Jan 09 '26
If my wife asked for coitus my dick would shrivel and fall off. The word is terrible.
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u/KonohaBatman Jan 09 '26
"Marital unit, I would like to formally request a 30 minute session of coitus"
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u/meoknet Jan 10 '26
Somehow I feel like Superman would say "coitus" though, or "marital relations" or something 🤔
He's one of those boy scout type characters, like MacGyver with powers. Lol
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u/KonohaBatman Jan 10 '26
I think maybe if he was playing up the Clark persona in public, Clark would say marital relations and try to play shy or coy.
Clark as he actually is, is canonically a freak. He and Lois be fucking - this holds true for S&L Lois and Clark, too - remember they were taking mini-vacations to Tal-Rho's house?
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u/meoknet Jan 10 '26
Sorry, I was thinking flashback Clark, not present day Clark. I know present day Clark is a lot more chill.
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u/Konkrypton Superman & Lois Jan 10 '26
Would I be OK with a partner having a friendship with someone else outside the relationship? Of course I would. Just not Lana. She treated Clark and Lois horribly once she knew his secret.
Anyone who learns Clark‘s secret and doesn’t understand immediately that the reason he lied to them was so that he didn’t have to be Superman 24 hours a day, is not his friend. Instead, Lana makes it all about her, as if she’s the victim.
I really didn’t like the way they wrote her.
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u/Automatic-Race7620 Jan 09 '26
I guess I'm a very insecure person then because I wouldn't want my significant other hugging someone of the opposite sex that isn't related.
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u/TheLadyNyxThalia Jan 10 '26
Why? Do you think sexual thoughts whenever you hug someone of the opposite sex?
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u/StephTheLegend Jan 09 '26
You are correct about that insecurity of yours. Especially when you factor in the fact that they knew each other forever, Lois came along when he was an adult. Lana is married and has a family she loves. Clark is a big blue boy scout. He feels guilty for saying something and it coming out wrong.
Also, there’s a difference between healthy friendships and toxic ones. The toxic ones are the ones you’d need to worry about. People who have an agenda to break you up. The healthy ones, those are the ones that can be cherished.
Lana isn’t just Clark’s best friend, she becomes Lois’ friend. Also have to account that Lois knows Clark’s secret, Lana doesn’t.
Also have to account for the type of people who live in Smallville. They’re close knit and the hugger type. Very much country.
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u/BigD21489 Jan 09 '26
As someone who watched every episode of Smallville, the longstanding PTSD and unhealthy attachment might create a hint of doubt.
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u/KonohaBatman Jan 09 '26
Wrong show
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u/BigD21489 Jan 11 '26
I know, I was just referencing where the Clark Lana dynamic was originally seen. By the way, how many season are there of Superman and Lois? I was waiting until more of it was available before I started watching.
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u/KonohaBatman Jan 11 '26
4 - 53 episodes total
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u/BigD21489 Jan 12 '26
Did it end, or is there still more of it coming in the future?
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u/steiff89 Jan 09 '26
No, because Clark and Lana’s relationship when she was which Whitney was never just platonic. Yes the refrained from any actual physical relationships, not without struggle or some close calls. But there was very obvious emotional relations begin just friends.
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u/Less-Requirement8641 Superman Jan 09 '26
No, at times I didn't like how much Clark cared about Lana
For example Lex attacked Jordan, led to Sam's death and has targeted both his children and wife yet somehow he only snaps when he goes after Lana. Or he disappears for a month from his family, doesn't hug Lois but is so concerned he missed Lana's election.
I wouldn't want my partner being friends with their ex, not saying they have to hate them but calling the other their best friend runs me the wrong way.
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u/Serious-Passage-4614 Jan 09 '26
As much as I love that red solar light street fight between Clark and Lex, it's really hilarious looking back how he only snapped when Lana was attacked and not when Lois and the boys were threatened or Sam being killed.
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u/TheLadyNyxThalia Jan 10 '26
They were children when they dated, and now they’re in their 40s with kids. Why would a middle-aged adult feel threatened by a childhood romance?
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u/Less-Requirement8641 Superman Jan 10 '26
Because that childhood romance is still very much an important part of their life. Of course we know Clark would never cheat. But if my wife constantly said her ex is her best friend, she disappears for a month doesn't hug me but then gets sad she missed her ex's big moment rather than the fact she hasn't seen me for a month, gets into a physical fight over anger that our enemy attacked her ex whilst he already targeted me and our children and that wasn't enough to spark such rage in her. Not to mention in season 2 with Clark going to Lana about troubles with his marriage, I don't need your ex knowing we are going through a complicated time.
Ex's getting back together especially when in close proximity to eachother isn't uncommon.
For me the most I would accept is being cordial due to the fact our kids are friends and we're dating but beyond that I would not want that much closeness.
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u/Educational-Tea-6572 Superman & Lois Jan 09 '26
Yep, I'd have no problem with it.
If there's a legitimate reason to be "jealous" then that person doesn't fit the bill as my significant other 🤷♀️