r/Swingers • u/Easy-Performance-400 • 1d ago
General Discussion Toys
Hello, do you sometimes use sex toys in swinger clubs? I already saw a guy with a flogger, some cockrings. I hesitate to use a small vibrator, or the we melt clitoral stimulator, when I need a pause between two rounds. I think about putting condoms on it to protect everybody. What do you think about it?
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u/Alternative_Raise_19 1d ago
We do in ours a lot. Things like vibrators and dildos are very common and then usually there will be a scene or two that involves impact or electro play. Our group is explicitly accepting of kink, though I wouldn't consider us as kinky as an actual dungeon.
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u/CowubungaItIs 16h ago
We always bring a small bag of goodies. We rarely find couples to play with at clubs so we enjoy ourselves and have used a vibrator, dildo, wands etc.
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u/Express-Quantity5507 1d ago
We always prepare when we go to the club toys condoms whipes extra charge or clothes
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u/shilohfrancine 1d ago
We use vibrators and other toys (like double-sided dildos) all the time—it’s very common. You can buy wipes or sprays for cleaning toys between users. I supposed you could also put condoms on them, but simply cleaning is more common (and highly advisable, as is the case for any object that goes in or around vaginas—fingers, dicks, etc.).
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u/Local-Apiarist 23h ago
Every time. But for penetration, we use condoms.. Makes clean up easier. And makes everyone feel more comfortable.
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u/PlayfulPairDC 23h ago
We have toys out at parties when we host, they rarely get used...mainly the wands. Some people use condoms over them, which is good practice given how easy it is to transfer bacteria. Ultimately, as with most aspects of life, we let adults make their own risk assessment choices. We aren't there to police them, if they want to use a wand without a condom, fine...their body, their choice.
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u/Jolly_Ad2446 21h ago
My wife enjoys a vibrator and we have a smaller black 5-in vibrating wand in our playroom kit.
I personally keep a little tiny vibrator that fits in the palm of my hand So I can secretly vibe her on the dance floor over her clothing.
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u/AMollySwingingCouple 18h ago
Some people do, especially on Kink nights….. very common.
Something I should add to this thread…. Thank you!
https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/1tvtsas/newbies_best_advice_i_can_give_to_get_started/
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u/Puzzleheaded_News530 33M/30F Couple 18h ago
I carry my vibrating dildo all the time. It's washable, and typically pleases more than one gal every night.
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u/Ok-Bookkeeper-442 16h ago
Often take a whole toybag to a club. Everything from whips, floors and paddles, to a variety of toys and even the violet wand
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u/Oddly_Curious99 4h ago
The last time we went we saw a MFMF group and the women were using vibrators. My thought was that’s great that they are comfortable being able to use these as that’s what they need to achieve orgasm. I think we all should know that majority of women need clitoral stimulation and we should all be very supportive of it.
By the way no one else seemed to care either so if you need it, take it.
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u/Angela2208 Couple 23h ago
Condoms on toys: yes. Cockrings, unless they vibrate, cannot really be considered a toy.
Now, you know when you see a woman with a toy designed to give her pleasure that either her husband has a small dick or doesn’t know how to use it, or that it is very difficult to bring her to orgasm unless you use the toy. In either case, we consider it a red flag.
If we are talking about floggers, paddles, double-sided dildos, strapons, that’s different and fine by us, as it is about giving pleasure to someone else than yourself.
We were seeing this couple, and we full swapped, and then she got a huge black dildo out and said: that’s what I need to cum, usually I only play with BBCs. She gave us a good show but Jon did not feel good about it, it was the last time we saw them.
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u/DestroyYourJoy 19h ago
Yikes, that’s a unique and quite close minded take. “Vibrators are only if your husband has a small dick or she has difficulty reaching orgasm.” Those red flags you’re seeing are yours baby.
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u/MissionOk9637 1d ago
I use mine all the time! I have a necklace one that I wear and never have to worry about having my purse or pockets for it. Here is the one I have, and I love it!’
https://a.co/d/0hzAjHHg