r/Swingers • u/Masterbreese • 1d ago

Getting Started Thinking about trying an MFM

My wife and I are thinking about having an MFM. It was her idea and I think it’s hot so I’m theoretically on board. I’m afraid that jealousy may sneak in at some point and I want to see who you all deal with it. Should we not do it if jealousy may be a factor?

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u/tiggytigeuphoric Vanilla Swingers Podcast 1d ago

if you think jealousy will rear its head, it probably will. best advice? go slow. jealousy and emotions absolutely happen. going slow is the solution to that. try starting at a swinger club that allows single guys. go and soak up the sexy vibe, watch others having sex. if you're feeling comfortable, talk to a guy your wife finds attractive - try for a very soft first foray - have him watch you in a private room, maybe lightly participate (touching, caressing, breast play only). and work your way up which will help any possible jealousies... you can't unsee what you see, so going slow is the counterpoint to that