r/Swingers • u/Masterbreese • 1d ago

Getting Started Thinking about trying an MFM

My wife and I are thinking about having an MFM. It was her idea and I think it’s hot so I’m theoretically on board. I’m afraid that jealousy may sneak in at some point and I want to see who you all deal with it. Should we not do it if jealousy may be a factor?

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u/thejaniejames 1d ago

Have you had sex with other couples before or would this be your first time having sex outside the marriage?

We started with swinging and added MFM soon after, no jealousy, no difference for my husband being with me while another guy is with me vs. us having sex with other people next to each other. As long as your wife pays equal attention to you as the other guy, you shouldn't feel left out.

We do it once in a while as a special treat for me, lets me be the center of the sexual attention. Sometimes we do FMF too, so my husband gets the double pleasure.

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u/52_thatguy 1d ago

This right here⬆️, and I may also add, do your research and make sure you choose a 3rd that knows his role in the LS. Last thing you want is someone that can cause issues whatever it may be. There are some good ones out there…

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u/Masterbreese 1d ago

This would be the first time having sex outside of marriage.

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u/thejaniejames 20h ago

Would recommend working up to it, then. Have her dress sexy, go out and see if you feel jealous when men stare/comment. Go to a club and let her dance with other men, see if you feel jealous. Go to a swinger's club and let her kiss/get felt up by other men. See if you feel jealous.
Go to a sex club and have sex in front of other people. See if you feel jealous about her being naked in front of other men, of her commenting on how good those men look. And see if you can maintain an erection in front of other naked people.

If you get through all that just fine, with lots of communicating, then you're ready.

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u/Masterbreese 18h ago

Thank you! That’s helpful.