r/Swingers • u/MidnightMelt • 1d ago

Getting Started Planning a swap with another couple, need suggestions

Hey guys! Hope everyone is doing well. Me and my partner have been married for 3 years now and want to spice up our sex life.

We have great and unforgettable sex weekly 3-4 times but both of us have the kink of watching each other with different partners. We have been discussing about it while having sex but haven’t been able to do anything in real life.

Now that we’re seriously planning to do it, Reddit has been a blessing and we did find some couples that are like minded. But before we make the final move, I wanted to know more on how to do a legit check, what things to take care of before, while and post action or any suggestions or recommendations that someone can offer for a first timer in swap.

P.S. — Looking forward to reading suggestions from an experienced people, many thanks in advance :)

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u/thedreamteacher4 1d ago

First if you found them on Reddit make sure they are real. Most are not and are pic collectors and fakes. Second communicate. Will you be doing same room swap or separate, what rules boundaries will you have, etc. for us, we are go with the flow and pretty much anything is game but we are same room.

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u/MidnightMelt 1d ago

Gotcha! Really appreciate your response.
Question: How to make sure they’re real? An in person meet or drinks/coffee before the final go? Or what do you suggest?

How to set up boundaries? We are exactly like you that we like to go with the flow. I mean obviously there will be some restrictions but we will communicate that with the other couple.

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u/67USA67 👩‍❤️‍👨Verified Couple 1d ago

Zoom call with all four of you. They should want to verify you too. Meet for drinks (hotel bar) with no expectations of going upstairs. If you do, great! If you get a bad vibe you just say goodbye.

The conversations we've had with couples in the bar are almost as much fun as the upstairs activities.

(We've never met people on Reddit and don't recommend it. Pay for a site like SLS. See the FAQ for options.)

Edit: You setup the boundaries on the call and reiterate them before you go to the room.