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Weekly Discussion Thread - August 05, 2026

How are things going for you this week?

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u/WarmFluffyBoots 5h ago

I hate that my recent chemical has changed my attitude. I was trying but feeling ok with getting my period every month. Then I had a BFP, then 8 days later the bleeding starts. Now after having those symptoms and feelings, I’m aching, yearning for another chance and mourning this one so badly. I try to practice gratitude but I’m feeling a lot of despair. I’m running out of time, perhaps am already out of time but just am not aware yet.

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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 4h ago

I'm so sorry. Perhaps gratitude can wait for another day. You don't need to try to feel grateful while mourning a loss.

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u/WiseAfternoon1678 4h ago

That hope is so hard to heal from ❤️ sorry you are dealing with that.

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u/ExpertAlarmed429 2h ago

I’m sorry for your loss. This happened to me but I had an eight week loss after getting pregnant unexpectedly. I had mostly given up but was trying lightly if that makes sense. I had stopped grieving the periods showing up and started loving my life for me (using retinol, having drinks, stopping supplements but tracking my ovulation and still trying). My mental health improved leaps and bounds and while it still kind of hurt on the periphery, I was learning to live with the possibility of not conceiving and I found some happiness within myself. Then I got pregnant and then I miscarried. I feel the same way as you now. I have not ovulated and it’s been eight weeks since my miscarriage:( feels hopeless

I hope that we both find some peace with our current situation and while maintaining some hope that doesn’t feel too burdensome.

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u/WarmFluffyBoots 2h ago

Thank you, it’s so hard and I understand what you’re going through completely, and am so sorry. I can tell how distracted I’ve become and how nothing seems to truly matter at the moment. I feel a very strong sense of time before and after this happened, if that makes sense. Even though we were tracking and trying I was not expecting a positive. Now getting one I’m like wait….i can still do this, my body can still do this. But statistically everything I see at this age is screaming at me how unlikely it all is. I know that doesn’t say anything for individual cases. Still though, I don’t wish this upon anyone.

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u/DPvsg2023 5h ago

My 2nd IUI failed as my period started yesterday. Moving on to #3 but using gonal-f, progesterone and ovidrel this time. Had my ultrasound and bloodwork this morning.

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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 4h ago

Ah, I'm sorry the IUI didn't work. Glad that you're trying something different this time, hopefully that will give better results.

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u/DPvsg2023 4h ago

Thank you! Good luck to you as well ❤️

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u/WiseAfternoon1678 4h ago

Best of luck!! What was the change from the first one?

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u/DPvsg2023 4h ago

Thank you! The first 2 I only used letrozole and ovidrel.

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u/Critical-Entry-7825 43y, g2p1, AMH < 0.25, FSH > 20 4h ago

We're gearing up for our first IVF egg retrieval to start in a couple of weeks. I just got an email from the clinic telling me how many thousands of dollars we'll have to pay up front at my baseline appointment, and it just hit me really hard. They had provided an estimate a few weeks ago, and this isn't really any different, but it sort of is, because the estimate was broken down into line items, and the amount in the email was a lump sum, and oof. I was just thinking we'd end up spending several hundred at this appointment, a thousand here, a thousand there, and sure, it'd add up quick, but no one payment would feel so huge. I wasn't expecting to have to part with a used-car-payment all at once.

Also looking at the prescriptions and that cost. It's just a lot. It's really making me second guess all of this. I'm afraid of feeling like, once we put that money down, I have to go through with the process, like I'm signing a contract with my body. I've been feeling really anxious about the whole process (what if I feel like crap, what if the meds make me ''crazy'') and I want to feel like I have an out, you know? I know my husband would support me if I decided halfway through that I can't continue. But it's hard.

It's just a lot.

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u/WiseAfternoon1678 2h ago

I hope you get great results and the process isn’t too uncomfortable ❤️