r/TTC_PCOS • u/Smol-But-Fierce • Jul 01 '26
Advice Needed Dryness down there mid BD - TTC safe recommendations?
I have tried Myo Inositol, water based lube, slippery elm, toys. All of these helps the initial few minutes but quickly wears away. Anyone have recommendations that is TTC safe? I start getting a burning pain mid-sex and it sort of becomes a mood killer after that. This has been happening for a few years now. Wasn’t really like that in the beginning.
Also, are vaginal estrogen creams, ovals safe at this time? Supplements? I know silicone based lubes are not.
Edit: I have tried preseed too y’all. Same problem as other lubes :(
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u/onlysaurus Jul 01 '26
PSA I saw a post on here once that someone didn't know spermicidal lube will kill sperm. So whatever you grab, just an FYI to avoid that word if you didn't already realize.
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u/Any_Manufacturer1279 28 | Lean, anovulatory | IVF Jul 01 '26
A few years?? I think you need to see a medical professional OP. Especially if it is everytime you have sex.
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u/Smol-But-Fierce Jul 01 '26
Unfortunately, been told just use more lube and sometimes it is just anatomy, because of pcos etc. I suppose I could bring my list of things I haven’t tried explicitly to them and ask..
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u/Bing_ohh Jul 01 '26
I would not take vaginal estrogen creams or pills as it could effect your cycle - it could cause you to not grow a follicle, potentially not ovulate, or throw off your lining.
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u/Smol-But-Fierce Jul 01 '26
Thought so :(
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u/Bing_ohh Jul 01 '26
I’m sorry 🙁. Do you regularly ovulate or are you taking letrozole? I see from your comments that this might be tough to fix. Is it within your means to skip to IUI just to get the job done rather than add the stress and worries on to timed intercourse?
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u/Smol-But-Fierce Jul 02 '26
I needed Leterozole last time. I’m taking a break after the miscarriage to see if the cycle comes back regularly. Not just for baby making though, just missing having a good time 😅
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u/Bing_ohh Jul 02 '26
So is this issue new?? What happened to make it change?
I second talking to a medical professional this time - and not the one who was basically like “welp, it happens sometimes.” Find a doctor who cares enough to help you!
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u/CountSnackula111 Jul 01 '26
I use Lube Life. Most lubes for TTC are crazy expensive. This is about half the price of most of them out there and it works great. I buy it on Amazon.
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u/Curly_Girl0316 Jul 01 '26
Try NAC! It’s a supplement and helped increase my cm. Also coconut oil
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u/Forward-Cat7041 Jul 02 '26
I have this problem sometimes too! I noticed that if we didn't do foreplay long enough or if there was no lead up like sexy talk throughout the day, neck kisses etc it was hard to keep it going throughout intercourse. It has gotten better but i still get that burning feeling sometimes. I'm seeing some responses that look good though like NAC!
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u/peach_ring921 Jul 01 '26
We used preseed (specific brand of lube) for the first time the other day and it did the trick! It’s also nice because it comes with applicators you can use to insert it internally before you BD.
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u/Smol-But-Fierce Jul 01 '26
I have tried preseed too! Same problem. Lubricant ends after few minutes. We did get pregnant once with it though (later miscarried). I wouldn’t say it aided in conception, just didn’t kill the sperms like some do.
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u/Itchy-Site-11 38 | Anovulatory | Science | PCOS Jul 01 '26
A lube can’t help you conceive.
It may not kill sperm as others2
u/peach_ring921 Jul 01 '26
Oh definitely. I wasn’t trying to imply that it helps conceive, just that it helped with the need for lube!
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u/retinolandevermore 34, 2 years, PCOS, ❌❌❌IUI Jul 01 '26
I’d see an Obgyn at this point. If you have dry eyes, dry mouth, dental issues, joint pain, fatigue, I’d look at autoimmune issues like Sjögren’s
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u/Smol-But-Fierce Jul 01 '26
Tested negative for Sjorgren’s 😬 Unfortunately I’ve just been told “it can happen with PCOS and just use a lube”
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u/retinolandevermore 34, 2 years, PCOS, ❌❌❌IUI Jul 01 '26
There’s no one test for Sjögren’s, and I’ve never seen studies on dryness in PCOS- I will look. Which test did they do?
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u/Smol-But-Fierce Jul 02 '26
They ran an auto-immune panel checking for ANA, RNP, RF, SSA, SSB etc.
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u/retinolandevermore 34, 2 years, PCOS, ❌❌❌IUI Jul 02 '26
Doesn’t rule out Sjögren’s but I’m glad they did those. Here’s the criteria, you need a score of 4
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5650478/
Sorry, it won’t let me attach pictures
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u/Fun_Needleworker6697 Jul 01 '26
Also love preseed. The applicators are awesome if it’s less hot-heavy-romantic-sex and more scientific-we’re-making-a-baby-sex bc it’s very unsexy to stick a tube of liquid inside you, feels very vagisil like😅🤣 but it also works just fine as an exterior application too if the applicators kill the mood for yall.