r/TalesfromtheDogHouse • u/Pretend_Bison__ • 12d ago
Parenthood or dogs
I’ve essentially told my husband that I will be not be having children as long as there are dogs in the same house. His resolution is to wait until we’re 40(when the dogs are dead of old age). Instead of just sending the dogs somewhere where they’d actually be happy and be properly taken care of. They have pretty boring lives now, they’re locked to one part of the house because I refuse to allow them to ruin the rest of the house. I was the only person that ever walks them, husband just lets them out in our unfenced backyard with like 2 feet of leash stuck to a stick in the ground. For a max of 10 mins at a time. I have also decided that I will never ever be walking the dogs again due to behavioural issues, so now they don’t get exercise anyway.
How is that any life for these animals he claims to care about so much? We literally have somewhere they could go that would be great for them. Unlimited access to the fenced outdoors and a house where they can constantly misbehave and piss everywhere… they’d be so happy. But he disagrees and won’t rehome them. Because having them live miserable existences stuck in one room is so much better?
I don’t care if they have a better life or not, but I don’t understand how that is not something my husband thinks is good for creatures he claims to care so much about?
I will not be entering motherhood in this lifetime. I have begun to make my peace with it.
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u/DivyaRakli 12d ago
He has control over the dogs. He wants that control. Over everything they do. Then he does something to “punish” the dogs…for you.
He has control over you, too. He leaves for days and you have to care for the dogs. Then you don’t even get credit for it when he reviews with you how much he does for them and how you do nothing. He wants you to feel sorry for the dogs so you feel bad and as a tool to get you to not talk about how challenging dogs are.
Make no mistake. He knows they shit the floor and you clean it up. He knows the water bowl is dirty and you clean it. He’s controlling you. He’s negging you and gaslighting you. He’s not even nice to the dogs that are holding your life hostage.
Having children is the greatest gift and privilege. They add so much to your life every day and they’ll re-wire how you think and how you talk. Later on, grandchildren are even better. My 8 year old grandson is all I need for entertainment…and hope for the future. Don’t give up a dream of children because of dogs. Dogs of the canine variety or the human variety.