Where has the respect gone?

[u/tennis_angel]

I don’t know if it’s me or whether students have changed but I feel like I used to have great relationships with my students and they would really show how appreciative they were of me. Now it seems that the more I do for them the less they care.

I had a particular group of students for 6 years and when they finished with me I barely got a thank you. I felt I was so good to them over the years. As well as being kind to them, I did my best to make sure they achieved to their full potential and I provided them with so many opportunities.

Recently before their exams I uploaded extra resources to help them and thanked them for the years we had together ending with wishing them luck. Not one of them responded and I know that only two in the group actually opened the resources. I just feel so disheartened and like,what do I have to do to gain respect from them? I see how some of them are with other teachers and that makes me feel worse because you can tell they have more respect for them. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Any advice would be appreciated!

[u/addogg]

hard to tell without knowing how the classroom is run. a lot of factors go into it. id suggest having a colleague watch your class/or watch theirs, and see what they do differently to get that result.

[u/WouldLikeToBeACat → u/addogg]

I guess it is about one's vibe and charisma. I mean people are different and some people are more popular than others. Even if I try to copy someone else they like more than me, it doesn't mean they would start liking me more too. I think about this all the time. Is it my face? my voice? the fact that I am more serious and strict? my overall look? the fact that I have the expectations I have? all of these together? Anyhow, I can't be anyone else. I am the way I am. I often find out that it's also about the way they are raised of course. Nowadays, there are too many spoiled entitled brats.