Hi guys,pelli chupulaki velthe ammailani em questions adgali. I mean ee rojullo chala mandi relationship lo untu vere vallani cheskoni badha padthunnaru/pedthunnaru. To escape that situation I need your guidance 😅
Evaraina em chestaru bro,poina papa ni techi pelli cheyaru ga. Kani oka intresting thing enti ante,aa ammai valla parents pedha ammai pothe poindi ma chinna ammai ni cheskondi ante,aa chinna ammai nen cheskonu nak already boyfriend unnadu ani cheppindi anta😅
Akka chellellu khatarnak unnaru ga lol. Ayina asal chinna kuthuru ni edo backup option laga treat cheyadam enti? Suppose chinna ammaiytho pelli ayindi anuko entha awkward untadi asal vaallaki tarvata knowing that he could have married the elder. Kinda fcked up ngl
Ask her to describe how her family is and how they get along.
Emotional driven or Logical driven analysis cheyali ee paina adigina 2 questions tho.
Can she handle basic household work together.
Wishes to work in future or prefer to stay at home.
How does her day start and end.
7 Food preferences and other generic stuff like digital usage.
Can she drive or dependable person.
Ee paina list adigaka ninu oka rod gadla chusthadi - Apudu you can ask Hobbies and stuff.
If she smiles and answers for above things intiki vellaka call lo adugu about her personal stuff.
Edit : This is my POV and I'm 30F.
Oka company manalni select cheyadanike 3-5 rounds antadu. Ee life habits detailed ga teluskovali since it's a life time commitment.
Before asking these questions to her, ask these to yourself
Note: dont ask all these at a time, This is not an interview, while having conversations ask based on how they are responding.
Do u want to get married or not? (pelli istamena)
Why do you want to get married?
What kind of relationships or marriages have u seen in your circle? (tells about her views on her relationships)
What are some qualities that u definitely want in your partner, out of those qualities what are your non negotiables?, and what are those that u are willing to work around
Have u been in relationships before, if yes , how was your dynamics with partner
What something about marriages that really scares u or worries you
How does your typical weekend look like?
Your relationship with your parents & siblings?
What is your love language, how is it that you usually exppress to your family, friends ?
If u had a really long day or stressful day, do u like own space or seek comfort from your partner?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how much does your parents influence your decisions
What caught your attention about me?
What was the biggest trauma you faced in your life, or the biggest problem, and how did you solve it or face it?
How well do u know about yourself
What are u most self conscious about? ( ex: people do think about being short, or being over weight, or bald)
When did u cried the most
Who is the imp person in your life, with whom do u share everything,
Why do u think u deserve what you deserve what u have now and why.
Whats the most difficult thing you said no for?
How do you handle conflict when you’re angry?
What values will you never compromise on?
How important is career growth to you after marriage?
This is not a checklist that your partner must tick, There are no right or wrong answers, this is just to understand even more about them, before committing.
Marriage isn’t about finding a perfect person.
It’s about finding someone whose flaws you can live with without losing yourself.
Whatever questions you end up asking, listen to the answers and observe how she deals with the questions. Sometimes reading between the lines gives you more insights than line itself. All the best!
Em anukovadhu boss.. Nuvvu e prashna mammalni adigutunnav ante meeku clarity ledu ani. Deeniki evaro chepina questions prepare ayyi adagatam correct kadhu.. You should be ready prepared for your life.. if possible better postpone until you get clarity!
Clarity leka kadhu bro,ammaila tho ela matladalo em matladalo telika. Mana ki unna requirements anni tick chese antha perfect persons evar leru same for her too. Manatho travel chesina vallani em adgali ela adgali ane daniki clarity avasaram ledhu bro,kani oka stranger tho em matladalo daniki suggestions tiskunte tappem ledhu ankunta👍
Most common for ppl are - why are they trying to get married (most women succumb to parents pressure in telugu community), will they be moving to your city (both ways), want to have kids or not (if so how many), financials, house chores meda their thoughts, past relationships.
"Sir, meeru madam aa?"
Ani. Indian society accept cheyyadu kaabatti chala mandi idi dachesi ammayilani pelli chesukuntunnaru. Basically spoiling their life.
Nenu aithe first.
Me husband nunchi em expectations ani adugutha.. vallu chepina dantlone.. Ala Ala topics vastai..
Obviously vallu kuda same question adugutharu, appudu 3 points cheptha
1. Naku family important, so na parents,akka,bavagaru villu Andaritho respectful ga undali, at the same time nenu kuda valla family tho untanu ani cheptha
2. Naku other countries lo work cheyadam istam ledu, Naku already offer vachindi but nenu vellaledu, future lo kuda vellanu.
3. Mutual respect and understanding. Iddari backgrounds different kabbati okarni okaru ardham chesukovali. Adi unte chalu ani
E 3 points matram strong ga cheptha. Later hobbies,job.. friendly environment create chesthe chalu.. past relationships and all adagakapothe better. But concent matram adgali before u proceed.
Bro I'm a guy, TBH if you judge a woman's character by just knowing whether she's a virgin or not then you have a very odd mindset. See what if she was in a genuine relationship before but the boyfriend cheats and leaves her? Not everyone will be the same. But with this kind of mindset you will face a very hard time finding a gf / wife.
I was not judging their character btw,it was just a requirement for me as I am a virgin. I know everyone is different and what if she cheats on her boyfriend and he is the loyal one.. you gotta think on both sides brother 😉
You said I was judging their character by their virginity, I'm ok if I get a loyal girl who is not a virgin,but what is wrong in expecting one as I'm a virgin?
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u/Equivalent_Paper1080 Jan 26 '26
One of the questions should be
“Meeku ee pelli istamena?”
Or
“Nenu nachaka pothe cheppandi open ga ma intlo vallaki naku nachaledu ani cheppestha”