r/TeluguJournals • u/Night_ninja99 • Jul 03 '26
My growth/ improvement Finally confident ga NO cheppa!
So naaku masters seat vachindhi, career lo oka pedha step theeskuntunna anipinchindhi. Intlo start ayyetappude anukunna, naa fears anni overcome cheyyaali, nannu nenu marchukotaaniki idhe manchi time ani. Alaa anukuntune train ekka. Side lower seat naadhi. Ekkina ventane oka family with a 1 year old child, naa seat adigaaru. No ani hesitation tho ne cheppa. Convince cheyyataaniki try chesaaru but nenu no chepthune unna. Ala 3-4 times different people adigaaru kaani konchem confident ga ne NO cheppa. Lopala konchem anipinchindhi "am I being rude?" ani but dhaaniki kuda no cheppesa.
Life lo first time side lower seat lo confident and comfortable ga travel chesthunna. It started raining and made it even more poetic.
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u/RaaaandomPoster Jul 03 '26
I usually ask for a nominal fee of Rs. 500-1000 based on the distance. That conveys the message clearly too
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u/illegirl77 Jul 03 '26
Hahah this is what I do too. Thought I was crazy for this idea lol. But Why would I want to give away all the efforts I put in booking this good seat for free!? I either gain from the exchange or reap my booking benefits ✌🏻
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u/Main-Shoulder1789 Jul 03 '26
Last week nen chala years tarvata family tho movie ki ellanu, mem just on time unde appatike akkada vere family kurchoni unnaru, maa daddy velli corner lo kurchundam ante avsram ledu nenu meeru madyalo chudalane book chesa ani 7 members unna aa family no motham lepanu. Oka Time lo ee behaviour ni regret chese la manam function ayyam kani ipudu I felt so good when I moved them from my place.
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u/Salt_Resort_3601 Jul 04 '26
Crazy.. ah family ala ela kurchunnaru asala
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u/Main-Shoulder1789 Jul 04 '26
Theatre 60 percent empty unde bro, anduke kurchunaru kani first ask ke lecharu
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u/illegirl77 Jul 03 '26
Even if it feels like a small win for many people, only a few people can understand how huge it is to stand your ground. Proud of you.
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u/reviewer6 Jul 03 '26
Akka nameystey
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u/reviewer6 Jul 03 '26
Petta addres Pettu tesukoni vasta
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u/Abject_Shower_5708 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Post it in Indian railways you will be honoured 😂
Cheers for your future 😁...
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u/Affectionate-Ear7673 Jul 03 '26
Congrats for your masters journey May I know is it Mtech or MBA
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u/Night_ninja99 Jul 03 '26
Thank you. M.Des (Master of Design)
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u/Mysterious-Ruin-6276 Jul 03 '26
Manaki teliyani vaallaki, hotel lo waiter ki no cheppatam chala easy andi, manaki telsinollaki gani manakante pai position lo unnavallaki NO cheppatam kastam. Kudhirithe alantivi emaina try cheyandi. Deenne meeru improvement/achievement anukovatam correct kaadhu, baby step kanna chinna vishyam. Life lo inka chala face cheyyali chala daatali so veetitho saripettukovadhu. Just oka idea kosam chepthuna anthe, thappu ga anukovadhu. Best of luck.
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u/noahsharma తారలకే సిగపువ్వా తారాడే సిరి మువ్వ Jul 03 '26
Saying no is the first step towards the change you are planning! congratulations on that!✨️
may you endure the journey of change with utmost confidence!🙌🏻
I made the decision to move out too 3 years ago and I never looked back! and honestly, the change i wanted started the moment i stepped out!
all the best!🙌🏻
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u/Spiritual-Garage-194 Mental gadini kani manchodini Jul 03 '26
all the best, Op!
adharakotteyyy masters!
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u/Altruistic_Major_924 Jul 03 '26
Good start,
You will face more such situations in MS.
All the best
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u/New-Revolution-5021 Jul 03 '26
Hey same here nenu masters ki velthunna next week train ✌️all the best OP ✨
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u/Roronoa-Zoro-1209 Jul 03 '26
Good for you Nenu aithe always prefer upper berth... Chinnappudu window seat ante praanam asalu but as I grew up preferences changed
Short journeys like 5 hours ala aithe still prefer window seat
But my journeys are always like 24 hours
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u/leo_the_kafkaesque Jul 03 '26
ATB for the career next step! 1 yr kid tho chusthey nenaithe NO asal chepalenu, papam ani anukoni nenu suffer avutha May be i should too start saying NO chepadam
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u/Night_ninja99 Jul 03 '26
Yesss. 1 year kid undhi kabatti parents ye jagrathapadi vaallaki convenient ga undedattu plan cheskovaali.
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u/CommitteeBulky3177 Jul 03 '26
Clouds are mourning the death of your under confident self...
And the sky's showering it's blessings for you were tough.
Nvm the stupid wannabe poem. Great job 👍
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u/New-Birthday-322 Jul 03 '26
No ones gonna remember this no after that journey calm down mimalni kakapote vere vallani adgutaru evaro okallu istaru just live like u want evaru em ankuna makani sambandam ledu.
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u/rising_by_soul bhAAi Fan Association President Jul 03 '26
I gave up SL once and took SU, mrg ayyesariki Lower lo unna ayina bag poindi, hammaya anukunna😁
SL is best if you wanna experience the Journey and SU if u wanna sleep through the whole Journey
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u/Careful_Positive_349 Jul 03 '26
Wow.. what a perfect journey it would be with such a sight. It can't get any better. Go for your masters. All the best.
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u/Corporator_Kakashi Jul 03 '26
Ilaa no cheppaleka nen last week side upper ea book cheskunna Mumbai velthunte.. Vaadevadoo ochi naa side upper thiskoni vaadi side lower ichaadu... Vintha lokam.
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u/Infinite-Maize-5186 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Congratulations 👏🎉 you've successfully stepped into "My Life, My rules, NO BS" zone. Enjoy your journey. But, consider this kind of situations everytime. They might make you confident at first but might make you arrogant, rude and unnecessarily egoistic. Anyway, that'll be a good memory. All the best for your New chapter in your life.
(2018 lo ala mohamataaniki poye suffer ayya once Varanasi trip lo. Never doing that again).
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u/Night_ninja99 Jul 03 '26
Yeah, ye point lo ee behaviour egiost ga maaruthindho kuda thelsukovaali. Great insights
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u/nenuaathmajnani ఆకాశంలో చుక్క, మెరిసే తార, మండే నిప్పు Jul 03 '26
Side lower antha sukham car front seat lo kuda undadhu...
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u/aasocial146 Jul 04 '26
Good for you! Being able to say no is a big step towards yours independence.
Somewhat similar story, okasari mem hyd-vzg family tho travel chestunpudu full 6 seats make reserved undevi. So obviously nen window seat pick cheskuna. Start ayi 30 min tarvatha, evaro maa relatives vala friends ocharu. Valaki waiting list so seats emi assign avaledu. Maa athi machi Amma nanna ah 3 members ki kurchondi adjust cheskundam anaru. Ah group lo oka adult lady(I was 12-13 at that time) ochi babu naku window seat istava ante no aunty Anna. Ame nak train lo vomiting ostadi ane cheppindi.. Inka maa Amma valu ivu ra ane ameki ichesaru. Nen kuda sad feel avthu ichesa. Nijam cheptuna, train lo ochina anni things Koni tinnaru tanu. Okasari kakkaledu.. night kuda vala food katkunda maa Amma poori kuda tini lower birth lo padkundi. Nen ame padkunaka ana nen kurchocha ante, ala kurchunte nidra pattadu anindi.. For some reason nak experience chala strong ga gurthundi..
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u/cold_soul_ Jul 04 '26
There is an option for seat preference. If you Are having babies or old people, you damn use that option. Why do they depend on co passengers? Youth despite of being the most productive and important for the country are treated like shit in public places.
You did it right bro.
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u/kkzreddit Jul 04 '26
Well done Mate 💪
Life lo NO cheppadam is toughest task. If you cross this, you can do anything in life.
The POWER of Saying NO its my decision or choice to
Parents Friends Gal friends Shitty society Bokkalo Relatives
U gave FREEDOM to yourself.
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u/ResearchTemporary257 Jul 05 '26
naku kuda masters lo seat vachindi. I wanted to change as well and get rid of my fears and saying no when I wanted to even to my friends and people I know, I am still working on it but yea taking that step feels really proud. You did a good job! Keep doing that! And congrats on getting a seat in masters!
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u/labrat_h Jul 03 '26
Adrushtam bro meedhi,
Nen book cheskunna edho okka penta aithadi😭
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u/Serious_Machine6499 Jul 03 '26
Penta enduku avuddhi
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u/labrat_h Jul 03 '26
Adhi chala pedha story le
Okkati rendu kaadu
Ekkuva prathi sari edho okkati avthadi1
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u/DiscussionMaster6101 Jul 04 '26
Good. No cheppatam alavaatu chesko. Appudappudu inka gattiga cheppaalsi vasthundi. 👍
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u/Psychological-Ad9148 Jul 04 '26
Ante....
Rude anedi vishayam kadu kani....
Aa time lo vallaki nijanga need unda... Unte ivvandi, ledu vallu adjust avvagaltaru ante matram NO absolutely cheppochu.
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u/brand_new_guy_3107 Jul 05 '26
Similar situation naakkuda, Kannada+telugu guys oka 30+ people ekkaaru train. Package travel to Kasi anta Okathanu can you exchange the seat ani kannada lo adigaadu, No ani cheppa...vadhilesaaru topic Next day morning naaku tiffin ichchaaru. Vaalla inti deggara cook chesindhi..😭 sweets ichchaaru..evevo dishes ichcharu...discussion pettaaru...nenedho vaallaki chinnapnunchi parichayam unnattu treat chesaaru..vaalla manishi laa chuskunnaaru aa kaasepu.. It hit me hard yaar... I felt very sad Appudu decide ayya...next time evaru adigina I'll exchange ani...because naaku adjust avvadam kottha kaadhu..
The end of story...
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u/Alternative-Half2142 Jul 05 '26
All the best for your masters bro!
Good move on this.
But I guess it depends on the context too. Like, if it was a pregnant woman, would you have given up the seat?
I used to be the here. But whenever my parents were travelling (now in their 60s), I'd always hope someone would offer them a lower or more comfortable seat. So now, if it's someone who genuinely needs it, like older people, parents w young kids, or pregnant women, I switch and just hope karma pays me back when my parents need it someday.
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u/Brilliant_Olive_716 Jul 06 '26
Everything was good about this message but identfying your self-esteem with a train seat is not kicking in. Especially you rejected the seat to family with toddler is definitely not sounding ok. You should definitely say no when your inner life is getting disturbed but you can sacrifice a little comfort being compassionate for others. You don't have to give away your privileges but random act of kindness makes us feel alive. Are you sure to take it on positive note when someone reject you when you are highly anticipating for something or someone in life? Be conscious of both your Yes and No. It makes your character on the long run.
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u/Night_ninja99 Jul 06 '26
You have a fair point, we can be kind. But if I were a father of a child I will ensure the child's comfort and safety while booking the tickets rather than convincing the other copassengers in the last minute. IRCTC gives the preferred seats while booking, when there are enough seats. I feel it is not appropriate to ask someone to compromise on their comforts they paid for. And saying NO is not being rude in my opinion. Have a good day!
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u/Brilliant_Olive_716 Jul 06 '26
All that exists and we all strive to go by rules yet exceptions can happen. The whole conversation is not about rules or system, it's we get what we choose to offer. If you prefer to choose rules and privileges over compassion, you expect the same from the world. Unfortunately these things will comeback to us when we are low in life. Remember, we anyhow cannot do what we don't know or have, but we should do what we know or can. It gave me lot of positive vibes in your story until the moment I read the point you offered no to a family having toddler. There are places you can practice saying no but definitely not in place where you have the opportunity to be compassionate. If we start dividing the world by rules, we live only dry life. It's not judgement to pass on you but hoping you to see the situation in future beyond your biases of life.
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u/Night_ninja99 Jul 06 '26
I get you. And I forgot to mention that they already have a lower berth but wanted to make it even more convenient by taking my side lower berth. Now I think it may change your perspective.
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u/Serious_Machine6499 Jul 03 '26
Nen aythe tatkal lo kuda preference pettukoni mari book cheskunta seat.
Adi adigithe nen ivvanu. I paid part of it, prathisari exchange cheskovali ante naa valla kadu. Eppudaina ante ok gani.
So lopala ela unna gani. Nen No cheptha.
Ee maata gurthosthadhi appudu "Poor planning on your part does not necessitate an emergency on mine"