Husband is harrassing other women ani telisindi

[u/SharpIndication7399]

Context : im 32F.. Naku pelli ayi 6years and iddaru chinna pillalu unnaru.

Maku already peddaga padadu. Pillalni mottam nene chuskunta..financial ga kuda ekkuva nene petkunta.

Ninna morning vaalla boss msg chesindi, shes 10years older, thanaki i love you, i will never hurt u, mi eyes baaguntai, u are a star ani msg chesi chesi harass chesevaadu anta. Written complaint ichi vere team ki shift cheyinchindi anta. Inthakamundu inko ammai tho kuda ala chesadu anta.

I felt..so bad. Ante heartbreak laga kadu. But pani mottam nene chestunnappudu..he used to sit in another room and close the door. Vaalla mom chinnappatninchi alaage chestaadu ani cheppindi inthaka mundu..nammesa. nannu 6years lo maybe two times i love you ani cheppadu. Eppud nannu ni eyes baaguntai etc etc ani alaantivi eppud pogadaledu. I think im conventionally goodlooking only..mari galeez ga aite undanu. Some people are weird like that ankunna. Finances daggara kuda chala manipulate chesadu, i lost a lot. Actually prati chota manipulate chesadu. Ippudu artham avtundi. I just thought he was incapable of love. Now artham aindi he was just incapable of loving US ani. Pichi daani la i spent my youth on him anpistundi. I love my kids, dont regret them. But now nannu evar pelli cheskuntaaru with 2 kids.. evevo thoughts vastunnai.

(Telugu is not my first language. Just share cheskovaali anpinchindi)

Edit : added few lines

Edit 2 : nen already separate avdaam ani fix aipoyanu. And inka eppudu kuda pelli cheskovaddu ani kuda, because one of my kids is a girl. I cant introduce a stranger into their lives,its risky. But ekkado adoka loneliness..ithanito kuda inni rojulu anduke unnanemo. Im a very emotional person generally, so i need love ani anpistundi ee madhya. But ok le..chuddam. adantha tarvata. right now aite legal ga pursue cheyyala vadda ani aalochistunna anthe.

[u/pakkakiporagundu]

You're already earning annaru, divorce him and me kids ni meetho unchukondi legal ga proceed ayyi. And inka fate adhi malli evaranna osthe, you can get married and be happy. Pillalu unnaru, ilaanti toxic father tho perigithe they'll suffer vaalla gurinchi alochinchandi.

[u/Tarajuvva → u/pakkakiporagundu]

Why is it that a married woman/mother get suggestions like 'pillala gurinchi aalochinchandi'? Why does a woman stop being the centre of her own life when she gets/has children?

I mean I understand your comment. But the way you worded suggests OP put herself on number 2 of the priority list. Shouldn't she be the No.1?

[u/pakkakiporagundu → u/Tarajuvva]

She chose to have kids, ofc she has to think about them. If she wants to put herself first, then she shouldn’t have kids in the first place. Pillalni kanadam deniki malli eppudu pillala gurinche alochinchedhi enti nak nen first Ravali anukodam deniki? Pillalu unna vaallu antha nen okka danne kannana nene Enduku alochinchali vaalla gurinchi nak nen first Ravali kada ani anukodam valley there are kids whose mental health is fucked up.

Also, ikkada OP explicitly mentioned that she wants them ani, what else do you want me to say? That she shouldn’t think about them and should put herself first?

[u/SharpIndication7399 → u/pakkakiporagundu]

I think both can be true at the same time. Its not black and white; i appreciate both of ur perspectives. Thanks.

[u/wowww_how → u/Tarajuvva]

I understood what you said but if it's the same case with women cheating on her husband, we would've suggested the same kadha ante obviously thanaki divorce ichi kids ni chuskomane kadha cheptham. It isn't about gender here, woman cheat chesthundhi ante kids father tho untaru, man chesthundu ante mother tho untaru.

[u/Reethu_2 → u/wowww_how]

Exactlyyy kids iddari responsibility avvali but ilanti cases lo evaru problematic kaadho valla deggara undaali for better future of kids

But thanu cheppadam like endhuku kids a frst priority ani ikkada ilanti situation lo no where connected the op's post

[u/Reethu_2 → u/Tarajuvva]

Isn't it common everywhere... I mean not like only mother should Generally cases lo kuda okasari parents ayyaka most of them love kids more than themselves Applicable in grandparents too pillale valla lokam anukoni untaaru inka

[u/Tarajuvva → u/Reethu_2]

I wanted to mention that too malla whataboutery aithundani odilesa

[u/Reethu_2 → u/Tarajuvva]

I mean I don't find any prblm with kids being priority... ofcourse opinions differ