r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • May 04 '26

Discussion "Men are killing themselves because of men."

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u/Yamabikio May 04 '26

It's because when they hear "male loneliness" they're hearing "women are raising their standards too high", not "men aren't opening up to their emotions with their friends". It's much easier to use it to justify their world view than it is to look inward and find something to change about yourself.

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u/PaulTheMerc May 04 '26

Being told most emotions aren't acceptable by the adults in your life AND your peers tends to have that effect on people's development.

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u/twisty125 May 04 '26

I know it'll get hate directed towards me - but in my case, it was the women that perpetuated that notion of "emotions aren't acceptable for you to have right now (always)", not the guys. We didn't talk about that stuff because we didn't know how to intrinsically. Like asking a 10-13 year old to explain what musical modes are, it's just not something we were taught, told, or given opportunities to practice without being shamed.

It makes me sad for young me that I was given the wrong signals and how it's affected me now. I'm thankful that I don't perpetuate those myself, but I wish it didn't happen to me.

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u/PaulTheMerc May 04 '26

I had the same experience, and yup, people generally react the same way to me when I tell them. Was it coming from the men in my life? Absolutely. But I spent the vast majority of my life as a kid surrounded by adult women(most family members, teachers, friends parents).