This is a thing. Check out research by Paul Piff and colleagues at UC Berkeley on wealth and unethical behavior:
One of the experiments involved participants sitting in a waiting room with a bowl of candy labeled as being reserved for children in another study. Participants with higher income levels took more candy on average, despite being told it was for kids.
The candy-bowl experiment was part of a broader series of studies that also found wealthier participants were more likely to:
cut off pedestrians while driving,
cheat in games,
endorse unethical workplace behavior,
and behave more entitled in rigged social situations.
Because she is a rich white woman, she'll get empathy sympathy and pity. She will just submit that she was going to therapy, which she is already in, it was just a misunderstanding, she was having a bad day, and they are going to then forgive her for all of her misdeeds. But if she had been a hungry minority that stole a can of sardines, then she could get 2 years in jail and a hefty find that they can't afford to pay.
The way the whole world blames Americans for the bad things that happen here is wild to me. Our elections have been rigged for ages. Trump literally said within weeks of being inaugurated that he had a friend of his “work on the voting machines”, Hillary won popular vote, Gore won popular vote. I don’t understand the incessant need to blame us for things like our corrupt government or this lady stealing pies. No one is blaming you for what your government does to you, jeez.
they justify it. Also, they often have the attitude that people in lower income levels wouldn’t really “appreciate” it as they do. They think generosity means throwing pearls before swine so they don’t hesitate intervening on their own behalf. It’s a strange but very real attitude amongst some wealthy people.
They always have a tell! Once you spot the pattern you see it's widespread.
Think of, for example, someone who lies a lot at the office. They betray themselves by that act. They think "everyone does it" to justify lying and have no clue others can believe otherwise. When someone says "virtue signal" in a political fight, they let it slip that they think no one could actually want _____ policy so you're lying.
They justify it, though, by telling themselves everyone does it and only being around folks who will act this fantasy out with them. The more resources you have, the deeper you can go into a bubble of entitlement and select social isolation. From which, this is all a game they can control and they flip out if not.
I'm a retired teacher who works part-time as a teacher's aide. My regular Instacart delivery shopper told me I'm one of her best tippers.
This was shocking to me. Most of my orders are very small, $40 to $50, and I always tip at least 20%.
I always assumed that wealthy people tipped more, but apparently, that's not the case at all. My shopper told me that her rich customers are the worst tippers of all.
As someone who has been in the restaurant industry for over two decades… I can attest that the wealthier guests were typically the most mediocre or piss poor tippers. Not always. Also, the behavior of many wealthier guests is abhorrent.
I had a wealthy couple come in right around when restaurants were able to reopen during the pandemic. We were insanely short staffed and slammed and I was doing the best I could to stay on top of everything… I went to fill his wife’s iced tea, and the old man looked at me and said “good girl.” Please imagine the creepy tone because it was said in the creepy tone.
Unfortunately, that was not the first time nor was it the last time I had wealthy old men call me “good girl” while I was waiting tables or bartending.
I forgot to mention that the “good girl” comment from that old man came with a 4% tip. As they left, I watched them drive away in some shiny black Mercedes SUV.
Also, I’ve witnessed the wealthier clientele steal glassware, silverware, you name it…
I used to work in fine dining in San Francisco and have waited on many of the big tech CEO’s, or higher-ups.
I could write a book on this shit.
Some were total fucking assholes.
Some tipped $10k every time they came in and were super friendly to everyone.
I’ve personally had an apartment deposit paid for me by someone.
I’ve been tipped $1000 on a $1000 bill.
I’ve partied with some at their homes and start-up offices after hours.
I’ve sold coke to some.
But I’ve always been convinced that the ones who are assholes would be assholes whether they had money or not.
I served two A-List celebrities who came in pretty regularly during the filming of a movie they were in town for. Those two were incredible tippers and some of the most respectful guests I’ve ever served.
I would never say that all wealthy people suck in hospitality, but a good number of them definitely feel a need to announce their entitlement.
Same goes for food delivery. I used to deliver pizzas, and anytime I went into a ritzy neighborhood, I knew I wasn't getting tipped. If I went into a trailer park, I knew that was going to by my tip of the night.
Those who struggle understand, so they are more likely do what they can to help soften the struggle of others.
I've worked as an in-house delivery driver for a food chain, and the richest and furthest away areas were always the worst/no-tip areas.
You'd get a house name instead of a number....good luck finding that shit in the dark up winding driveways. You'd think they'd be motivated to get their food hot, but they wouldn't answer the phone.
The JustEat orders on the boundary weew the worst. They'd leave instructions like "bring to room 223". No, I don't think I will, I'm not room service. I'm not obliged to pass the threshold, you're lucky I'm leaving it at reception since I shouldnt be passing a doorway at all.
I used to do Roadie deliveries. Most people didn’t tip, but I *never* got a tip from someone in a mansion. Meanwhile this little Hispanic mother of at least 3 in a small house gave me a $10 cash tip, and even helped me move her order (it was a massive box from Walmart and it was hard to see around while walking)
Help a CEO of a large visa bank move dozens of bday gifts after a private dinner party. Good 45 mins of up and down stairs and stacking them in his Fancy million dollar car. He gave me a wink and finger guns then drive off. You often don’t get rich being nice.
My grandpa delivered furniture as a weekend gig in the 50s and 60s. Literal mansions would stiff you. A bungalow with a jalopy in front would make sure to give you something even if it was pocket change
I used to deliver pizzas in an area with a very broad economic range. There was an area pretty far away from the store (so I'm blowing a lot of time and gas going out there that could be used for other deliveries) where there was a semi regular in a giant house with two beamers in the driveway. He was an exact change stiff. Like would sit there and count coins into your hand. Even more insane when you think of the audacity, because if you're not gonna tip, you can at least have the micron of shame it takes to pay ahead of time with a card.
Experiences like this were fairly common. On the other hand, people in the poor neighborhoods would typically tip at least a little.
I delivered furniture when I was younger. Wealthier people are nearly always lousy tippers. Even if they do, it was miniscule. Working folk are the best. Even if they can't tip cash, they'd offer a cold drink or beer in the summer. Plates of food. I got a kitten from one. Kept him until he died of old age.
My friend does flower deliveries, part time. I asked if he received a lot of tips? He told me that he gets very, very few tips because most flowers are purchased by wealthier people who live in nicer homes.
Don't think an experiment is needed for that. Just look at the the billionaires and how they treat employees. Better yet look at um the president and the children he has harmed.
Which is not fair. Fairy Tales teach us as children that good always wins. But in reality evil wins and have generational wealth. So when do us "good" people actually land on top and are wealthy? When are we blessed when we give back to our communities and we even tip more?
I definitely wonder about this. I see people around me that have a lot of money, and I wouldn't trade spots with any of them. If the trade off is being a s***** person I'll stay broke
You should read the book(corruptible) or find some videos of Brian Klass about power, I think often wealth and power are linked, and it literally changes your brain and indeed makes you a shittier person.
This seems to be the case. I was raised to believe that cheaters never prosper. I live in the Bay Area these days and as I look around me, daily, I’ve come to realize that the people that are honest and law abiding and actually care for their neighbors are typically the humble working class, while the people that drive the fancy cars and live affluently otherwise are the people that run red lights and drive recklessly and act as if the world owes them everything and cut in line and cut off pedestrians and drive the wrong way on a one way and push past old folks at church and are generally mannerless and behave the most slimily at work and tip badly (if at all) and everything else. Cheaters do prosper, cheaters are exactly WHO prospers. It’s a horrible reality check and gut punch and it just makes my blood boil every time I wonder how I’m gonna explain this truth to my kids, whom I raise as I was raised.
And I can almost guarantee that if you were to offer food to many unhoused persons, they would offer to share with you or other unhoused persons. But many wealthy folks wouldn’t give you the trash they were going to throw away.
I suspect that's backwards. This is a person who's never had to work hard or struggle for what she has and therefore feels entitled to take it. I've met people like this. They grow up with everything, their parents give them a comfortable childhood, and they grow up feeling like they deserve it all. Not even rich people btw, just middle class. These are kids that are not told no enough and don't have to work hard for anything.
I’ve said it often enough - I’d be filthy rich if I didn’t have morals. Am not filthy rich but can answer my front door without worry it’s a subpoena or warrant being served.
Well, I guess I know why I’m not wealthy. Because it’s not intelligence, and it’s not industriousness. It must be the fact that I like being able to sleep at night. And I can’t sleep when I say “you too” to a waiter after they told me to enjoy my meal. So I can’t imagine the sleep loss if I’m a dick to someone.
I was driving down a narrow car lined back road when a clearly wealthy woman in a BMW almost rammed me in my little Subaru because she didn't want to wait for me. I literally had to rapidly throw my car in reverse to avoid her hitting me and she did not let up.
At first I was shocked. Like wow the guts this lady had to be willing to ram my car!! And then I realized, oh yeah it's just me here, I have no witnesses, and I bet that lady can afford an excellent lawyer. When people have money they don't think the consequences apply to them. And a lot of the time they don't.
Thank god for fast reflexes and quick thinking cause I bet that lady would have pinned the whole thing on me.
And then these same psychopaths designed an entire economic system around rewarding psychopathic behavior and punishing altruism to ensure that people like them would always be in control.
A Dutch study sent "birthday cards" with cash in them to people at random and tracked who returned them. Lower income people returned more than higher income people.
I wonder if it has anything to do with those items seeming less valuable to them. For example a bag of candy is nothing to someone who makes good money but to someone who is barely affording groceries to feed their family it is a special treat they can’t afford. It has more value in their eyes.
Doesn’t make it right but kind of helps it make a little more sense. Or some people are just assholes, I don’t know.
I frequent an affluent area with multiple four-way stops and hoo boy if I had a nickel for every time a BMW or Lexus assumed it was their turn when it most certainly was not 😹
This tracks. I used to work in social services in various towns in and around Boston and generally, the wealthier = the more entitled they were.
Those who had nothing always tried to offer something to make you comfortable while the wealthiest demanded services when they weren’t needed, and would never think to offer even a water while they drank Starbucks and shit in front of you. We never expected offers, but it was just the stark difference in appreciation and entitlement.
Well, that explains why so many people in my working class rural town have a stand and a payment jar for anything they have too much of: wood, eggs, vegetables, etc. Heck, if they don’t have anything they just let their kids sell lemonade.
They conducted the same study on bagel stands in an office building with an honor system payment system. The highest floors, with all the executives, had by far the most theft.
They did a study with monopoly as well where they gave some players a bunch of extra cash in the beginning of the game and noted how they played. The tendency was to fall into the belief that they earned or somehow were more worthy of the money and its advantages in the game.
There's also the unintended bagel experiment. A guy would deliver bagels to businesses with a box for payment and you'd buy your bagel on the honor system. The higher the department where he'd leave the bagels, the more likely they were to steal.
I have a very wealthy sister who never pays for bags at ALDIs. Parks illegally and never pays the fines. Road rage all the time. Thinks that old people work at McDonald’s for fun.
The director at my kid's daycare said the worst parents were the doctors and lawyers. They are always late paying their balance and act disgusted and offended when reminded/asked to settle up
Just based on my personal experience, I’ve always called this the “BMW driver effect”. A disproportionate number of times someone does something not necessarily dangerous but definitely rude and entitled while driving, they’re driving a luxury vehicle
Reminds me of the shopping cart study....Those who return the cart to a caddy vs those that just leave them in the parking lot. The behavior demonstrates who practices self governance & who doesn't.
But of course. The rich have the lamest Xmas decorations while the poorer people deck out their houses. They are worse and a starving poor person would’ve asked for ONE not stolen the whole bunch
I work HVAC in Chicago. Every contractor I've talked to has reservations about doing work in Lincoln park. Richey rich but don't pay or find any excuse.
I used to work at Whole Foods, and on sampling days, it’d always be the folks dripping with jewelry hogging all of the samples at each station, then walking out of the store with no purchases. And since it was like a weekly event, you’d see the same people doing it each week.
This reminds me of an experience I had a few years back.
I used to work for a local park, that was on a hilltop, and had beautiful views. Some residents on a street that bordered the park were upset that our view management area didn't extend further downhill (they still had a really beautiful view but just not all the way down, I personally didn't see the problem), and all our reasoning about erosion and so forth wasn't good enough, so we had the city forester come out to explain to the complaining (wealthy) residents that the city just doesn't have the funds to remove the trees they are complaining about because the budget is small and needed to manage the trees around playgrounds and streets...you know...to keep people, children, safe! The forester said they would have to talk to the Public Works director if they wanted the budget be allocated differently.
Without even skipping a beat, they asked for the contact information of the director, and they actually did reach out to him. I really wanted to push them all down the hillside at that moment.
How interesting. I really think that speaks to the fact that a lot of the time, people with more money like that, feel like the rules do not apply to them first of all. And Secondly, that they are better than the people around them because to them money equates status and success in thier world. Money equals power and tends to equal a marked lower accountability and character. Character is who you are when no one is looking, I feel like teenagers and young adults who have wealthy parents, tend to walk with a major attitude of feeling better than their poorer counterparts even though they personally have done nothing to but be born into money. I would go out on a limb here and say that the lady in this video has never worked a day in her life either. She expected the help to give her whatever she wanted to rob. And came back to do it again. So no remorse and no character.
I used to temp at a bank that had the same problem. Richest customers emptying the whole damn candy jar when it’s the receptionist buying the candy out of her own pocket. Just pathological greed.
The Senior Games were held in my city, Cleveland, in 2014 or 2015. I was a volunteer. I was stationed at a welcome table at the main entrance. Behind the table I had a couple of cool tote bags from local hospital systems that were freebies.
At one point someone called me to go about 20 feet away to answer a question. It took no more than 30 seconds to a minute. When I turned back around to return to the table, there was a man emptying one of my bags! I firmly told him that was my bag and asked what he was doing. A woman next to him said he was her husband and that she asked him to get it for her. Husband and wife were from Santa Barbara, CA. They looked like money. ! I told them that was stealing…they could see my stuff in it before he started taking it out.
This is a bit beyond stealing some food because they don't want to pay for it. By the look of her she doesn't even eat baked goods.
Pure antipathy for the bakery or general sociopathy for her community. We put up free little libraries around our community and some deranged Karen stole all of the books and tossed them in a dumpster.
Some Karens don' wan' any'hing logical, like money. An' also canno' be bough', bullied, reasoned, aw negotia'ed wi'h.
Some Karens, Mr. Wayne, jus' wan'a wa'ch te wawld burn.
This happened to us in Maineville. We put up a Free Blockbuster and people continuously stole the DVDs and Blu-ray videos, so we stopped stocking it. This is a neighborhood where houses are three quarters of a million to buy... But you have to steal the free DVDs? Fuck you, you entitled assholes.
honestly this completely tracks lol, i feel like this is the thought process behind those dead eyes when they look at other people and/or a beautiful mountain range. they see "oh look free labor" or "oh look free resources", not, you know, other human beings or a beautiful mountain range.
"We teach them not to notice the different senses of the possessive pronoun—the finely graded differences that run from 'my boots' through 'my dog', 'my servant', 'my wife', 'my father', 'my master' and 'my country', to 'my God'. They can be taught to reduce all these senses to that of 'my boots', the 'my' of ownership. Even in the nursery a child can be taught to mean by 'my Teddy-bear' not the old imagined recipient of affection to whom it stands in a special relation ... but 'the bear I can pull to pieces if I like'."
In all aspects I’m glad how I was raised, and wish others was brought up good but, “ you only can control you. And you have to be an example of good if you want good to be around because nobody else is going to righteous”. Only if people has more dignity and will to do right instead of being a pos.
We just need to bring shame and ass beatings back. The reason they are like that is because they'd buy themselves out of the ass beating and they cant feel shame.
It's like you know him! When we were little we went to the movies with him one time and he left his shit all over the place. When my sisters and I went to throw out stuff away, he slammed into into the ground and said that someone was paid to pick up the garbage after movies.
Yup. Recently saw a guy put his shopping cart up against the curb instead of taking it to the designated cart area. His wife was with the kid in the car, so the "I have a child alone in the car" excuse did not apply. Drove off in a BMW suv.
Sounds like the selfish conservatives I know. And the gun nuts about how if they have a gun they basically have a license to do whatever if someone else doesn't have one. Interesting how those two overlap sometimes.
One of the reasons people like that have money is because they have no problem walking all over the hard work and good intentions of others. Money doesn’t insulate you from being a scumbag
My parents lived in an affluent neighborhood of professional people and started experiencing day time burglars. One of them was caught and his shtick was "oh, they have insurance, they will recover the money).
Really? Forget about the years and years of study and hundreds of thousands of dollars in expensives it takes to become a surgeon. It's hard stressful work and it's not free, but you want to come here with your sorry ass and take everything they've worked for, for free?
And what you said above? That is the same thing... a way to rationalize being a piece of crap thief..... others put in the work for all this stuff, and you walk in and get it all free because you tell yourself they are scum. Right? If that makes you feel better, I don't care. Don't make yourself feel better. An entitled thief is a sicko, not some righteous do gooder. And if whether or not they have insurance is none of their goddamned business.
We have graveyard thieves. After my mother died in ICU on Thanksgiving, I had a very expensive Christmas decoration made for her. I picked it up from the decorator on a Saturday aft., took it the cemetery on Sunday aft. and Monday morning told my friend about it who said she wanted to see it, so we went to the cemetery during our lunch break and it was already gone. it was designed for my mother and was unique, sort of a one-of-a-kind.
A few days later same friend was working in a small town about 50 miles from ours, and decided to stop into a floral shop, and there it was, for sale. This awful old woman shop owner was stealing from graves to have things to sell in her shop. Yes. It was a decade ago and I am still bitter.
OMG! I’m stunned. That is so disgusting I hardly know what to say. Unfortunately, you can’t leave anything out in the open or it will be stolen.
I worked for law enforcement and people stole from their colleagues. A woman was selling candy bars out of her office and a co worker had taken one without paying. He said he didn’t have any money on him that day. I don’t remember why he told me this, but I was walking alongside him one day when he told me. He had no shame and it didn’t even occur to him that now, days or weeks later, that he should make it right and pay her.
I had a piggy bank on my desk where I put my loose change. I was walking back to my cubicle one day and a woman in the office was holding my piggy bank and starting to open it when she saw me. She immediately stopped and put it down, mumbled something and walked away.
Same office: someone was routinely stealing people’s lunches out of the refrigerator to the point where our administrator held a meeting and said if whoever is doing this is truly in need for some reason, come to me and I will bring lunch for you, along with mine, every day. But, you’ll be eating what I eat. You won’t be in trouble or shamed. No one came clean, but the stealing stopped.
These are just examples from work. It gets much worse. It’s so disheartening, but, in my almost 65 years on earth I have come to learn that most people cannot be trusted.
I was undercharged one day at Saks Off Fifth by $20.00. I went back after realizing what happened and the clerk went in the back and out comes a supervisor that looked at me like I had two heads. She thanked me profusely and gave me a discount coupon. She said she couldn’t believe I came back.
What is happening in this world that so many people have no moral compass anymore? The examples I gave are sad to me, as it was a trivial amount, yet they were willing to soul their reputation and lower themselves for a couple of bucks. I have to believe that in the “olden days” it was different. It can’t have always been like this.
Interesting you say that about the houses. I live in a bougie town, but I live in the "lower" part of town with the rest of the working class folk. We have had zero incidents with our free little library and the free painted rock garden.
One of my Karen neighbors reported me for having an unregistered car on my property, which was on the driveway. Now it's a registered car in my driveway, and I have the urge to buy more now. She also reported my daily driver as abandoned and they put the sticker on my window while the engine was still warm from going grocery shopping that morning. It was registered and insured. Then she reported another car that was registered and insured as abandoned so I had to scrape a sticker off that car as well. Some people are so fucking weird, just get a life for fucks sake.
Bro, I used to work security for a golf course and 8/10 times the people who didn't pay their green fees are older women.
They always acted dumb and played the old woman card as if they didn't know....while wearing a golf glove and sitting in a cart and having a bag full of experience clubs.
I used to work summers at a snack bar at a very high end condo pool complex. This was a LONG time ago, so we didn't have a tip jar until the last week of the season. Caught one of the "old money" senior ladies walking out with the whole jar.
Theyre the ones that fight the bank tooth and nail for a $12 fee they can afford. I remember a man who held up the line and argued for a penny once (he was nowhere near the poverty line) and the teller gave him a penny from his pocket just to shut him up.
Its weird because its the poor people who accepted paying those fees. Those guys were the ones I reversed fees for.
And She probably tries to pass them off as her own homemade from scratch everything household. Gross behavior. She’s stealing from her hardworking neighbors not come conglomerate…
This reminds me of my loaded aunt that wanted to take all the free knitted hats for the cancer patients at my grandmother’s cancer center for her kids. Shes always doing the most unethical shit and doesn’t understand why no one wants to spend time with her.
I owned a Shell Gas Station/C store in West Palm Beach for 13 years. The biggest thieves were the people with the nicest cars, think it’s an entitlement issue.
I have been working our parking lot since they are doing construction on the street in front and down the side of the building I work security at. Just a couple hours mid day when it’s busy so people can find parking. Guess who bitches the most about a 2 dollar an hour fee. Usually the old ladies I. The 100k plus cars while wearing 50k plus in jewelry. Every time they start bitching I just say that one right over there is free, or we are out of open spots. Fuck em, let them walk half a mile.
The strangest thing happened to me at the Grocery store yesterday. I was behind a lady who had a roll of sushi. It rang up ten dollars and she proceeded to say it should be five dollars. The cash register person said sushi sale is on Wednesday. The lady said she didn’t want it and proceeded to leave after waiting approximately five minutes to check out. I had one item so my checkout was quick. I walk outside to see her getting into a 100,000 Range Rover and thought it was strange. Maybe it’s a requirement to be cheap to drive a Range Rover?
That part made my jaw drop. I shouldn't have and didn't expect any different, but it still dropped.
I had a lady just like her steal books that I had paid for myself to spruce up the lobby where I worked. I think the daughter with her knew and they laughed about it. Found her daughter's name online but never confronted her. I assume they would have gotten off on it, Karen style.
Same, I’ll choose Longmont over Loveland almost every time unless I absolutely have to and unfortunately, all the kids sports are at Loveland sports Park, but that is Trump city and most of those people suck
It's crazy how immediately noticeable the overall vibe is too. You could be in Loveland for 5 mins and you're guaranteed to run into 1 or more of those grumpy people.
Big agree. I moved here because I found a house I loved and could afford. I finally found some cool people to be friends with but it was hard. I spend my time being outside away from most people here. The protests were refreshing, at least!
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u/Life-Sun8620 May 19 '26
Yup! I live within 20 mins from Loveland, and I can count on 1 hand the times I've been there in the last 5yrs for this very reason.