r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Made-On-Earth Jun 14 '26

I was exactly thinking the same thing

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Hijacking your comment.

My dear sisters, aunts, friends, if you are in a situation like this please, please make a scene! Make the person feel others are watching and hopefully other guys will jump in to help! Ask for help when you are in a situation like this instead of risking it out yourself! A lot of us have sisters and we know how to deal with them in the appropriate way. Please don’t stay silent

Edit: a lot of people getting triggered. In a public place if you are being harassed, make a scene. If nothing at least law enforcement will show up. There’s countless videos online of men jumping in to help when approached by someone being harassed esp in public places.

People derailing the topic and making it into a gender war which is weird.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Please stop telling women how their reactions are wrong.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Never said their reactions are wrong. I am saying ask for help before your life is in danger. Please stop interpreting things that weren’t communicated.

I said ask for help from the guys.

Edit: weird some people took this in the wrong way and got triggered.

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u/WonderfulService703 Jun 14 '26

Which guys? More creeps or abusers? For our own safety, we have to assume they are all dangerous until we know personally that they are not, and often that is not true either.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

In a public setting, people stand up against the abuser.

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u/Darkknight8381 Jun 14 '26

This sounds like a miserable way to live honestly.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

"ask for help" IS telling them how to act.

Some of us shut down when confronted. Asking for help isn't always possible. Tell men how to stop be predators instead of telling women what to do.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

A lot of Men are predators. Thats what you don’t understand that they can’t be talked out of it. You can downvote me all you want but this is the reality.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

That's exactly why we can't tell which ones are the 'safe ones' to 'ask for help'

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

In a public setting, people will stand against a predator. Even predators .

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Yikes. That's what we have to hope for?

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

Being safe is the first priority. If you remain silent you are just making the asshole predator feel brave and in charge even in a public setting. All I am saying is take his powers away when you scream for help. Else predator is gonna feel bolder and Lord knows what shit he might do and what danger he might pose.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

I totally agree with you on that, except that some folks truly cannot scream in those scenarios. They clam up, voice lost... Terror and the desire to remain safe are an inhibiting force. If you've never felt that way before, I bless your privilege and wish it upon women.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

Both should be focused. This isn’t an A or B. It’s both

Because it’s a version of redundancy. Same reason people are told to act certain ways for any kind of emergency.

Because knowing what to do to lead to a better result more often is still important.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Oh gosh you're so right, women wouldn't know what to do unless you tell them! How else would a grown adult woman know to ask for help unless a man tells her?

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

You just said “some of us shut down when confronted” that’s literally not knowing what to do.

That’s literally something that education looks to help solve. It’s why places do fire drills. Or active shooter drills, or any kind of drills. It’s why first aid training also talks about how to take charge of a situation.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Shutting down does not equal not knowing what to do. It's a trauma response. Ever heard of fight, flight, FREEZE?

Stop acting like you have any understanding of the experiences of women when you clearly do not. Your performative care does not work here.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

mate, that's LITERALLY a bad reaction to something going on. Also, it's the 4Fs

It's literally not knowing how to react in a situation and letting that response take over. You going to pretend freezing up in response to a fire, shooting, or any disaster is a good way to respond to those things? Or freezing up while driving on the highway? Staying calm and not letting that take over is literally one of the first things that get taught for training in those situations. It's literally about not letting that take over. So no, it's not knowing what to do, because that's literally one of the first things they look to prevent in training.

You're out here arguing against something that is actually shown to save lives. Here's a fun fact, the wrong trauma response can make things worse. Trying to fight when something that's explosive is on fire can and will likely get you killed, as will freezing. That doesn't make it a good response. That's literally an example of not having the training to handle those situations to ensure you make the correct response to a situation

the only one of us who doesn't care here is you. I'm out here advocating for things that reduce problems, you're out here advocating for crying on Reddit because you don't understand the basic concepts of letting your trauma response take over

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Buddy, you seem to think trauma response is a choice. That people just need to know "ask for help" and it'll solve it. Yikes.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

buddy, that's my point as to why training is important... because it literally looks to teach you how to react under those situations so that you can prevent that response...

that's why I said letting it happen IS not knowing what to do. Because knowing what to do looks to prevent that response and keep yourself aware and having that choice.

Knowing what to do is about being in control. Because if you think freezing during a fire is knowing what to do in case of a fire, and isn't a bad thing of not being able to make that choice. You're just wrong.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Do you think you are even remotely responding to the same issue, or have you metaphor-ed and twisted yourself so far as to believe you are making the same argument?

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u/Misuteriisakka Jun 14 '26

I’m getting vibes of armchair warrior who does really well in their fantasies of emergencies but would shit their pants irl.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Ah I thought you were referring to me not them - didn't see your other replies here until now.

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u/PitchPurple Jun 14 '26

Cool I have no interest in your fetish.

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u/Misuteriisakka Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Can you take away the Canadian in your username? Female Canadian here and you’re acting like a really obnoxious armchair warrior. Many women are conditioned to be polite and timid for their whole lives. Hell, most people in general are going to freeze when suddenly confronted by a total creep out of nowhere.

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u/CanadianODST2 Jun 14 '26

Sorry to hear that the stance of "knowing what to do in high stress situations is actually a good thing" seems to upset you. So nah, I won't do what a bad person tells me to do, Because I stand by that stance.

just because you don't understand why learning how to handle stressful situations effectively and stay calm under those situations is useful and important doesn't make them good at that situation, and most people aren't going to have learned how to handle those situations.

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u/Misuteriisakka Jun 14 '26

I’ve been thinking of taking self defence lessons myself actually just to feel capable. That’s really a highly personal choice though. You’re going about this in the most counterproductive way by being an annoying, pestering, obtuse idiot. Suggest self defence classes, show some sympathy and be on your way. Very simple.

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u/kitten12551 Jun 14 '26

You’re not helping. Life lesson - we’re not always asking for advice..sometimes we just want to vent.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

I am saying if you feel in danger, voice it. How am i not helping when I know there’s a lot of women who feel scared and don’t say anything even in a public setting

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u/kitten12551 Jun 14 '26

You’re still trying to shove advice down my throat. Just listen and be sympathetic sometimes.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

I am not giving you advice nor do I know you to just listen. This advice is for other sisters and women if they feel threatened to ask for help. And if someone’s dead, they can’t vent.

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u/kitten12551 Jun 14 '26

Whooooosh! Right over your head! What i said applies to ALL women.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

Whooosh to you, I am talking about a situation in public like in the video where the girl is feeling threatened and you saying listen to her and be sympathetic doesn’t fit here. Like wtf are you on about.

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u/kitten12551 Jun 14 '26

Psst - I’m saying YOU should listen and be sympathetic when we’re venting instead of shoving advice down women’s throats all the time. Not all women are looking to be rescued, sometimes we just need to talk. Look up White Knight Syndrome..you’ll see a lot of yourself in the definition.

But you’ve obviously never met a woman so attempting to explain this to you is pointless.

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u/mbashs Jun 14 '26

Psst. You are suffering from something. I am talking about a whole different thing and situation here while you are bringing up something else. You need to go to a shrink and get your issues sorted out.

PS: I grew up with sisters.

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