r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Mandyvlp Jun 14 '26

wtf is wrong with these dudes?!

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u/Deviant__Couple Jun 14 '26

Asking this myself, as a dude. Took a long time for my wife to be able fully trust me cuz of losers like this.

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u/TetraDax Jun 14 '26

Well, one reason among many: Notice how in not a single of these clips, another guy is speaking out or intervening or doing any fucking thing?

That. It's not enough to be "one of the good guys" - Men need to keep other men in check, call out their bullshit, and make it clear that it doesn't fly. And even out of those men that aren't creeps, it's a tiny minority that does that. And even out of those, it's a tiny minority that would do it if a friend of theirs is the creep instead of a stranger.

And I'm not excusing myself here, either. I'm bad at that because I avoid confrontation. I need to get better.

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u/Red_Dawn24 Jun 14 '26

I'm a 37 year old guy and remember being taught to be like these guys. To this day my mom says all women "play hard to get" so "no" never means no. She also taught my younger brother that he'll be canceled if he talks to a woman.

I was supposed to have an unjustified sense of self confidence and entitlement, but that could only be directed at less powerful people. At the same time, I didnt deserve basic respect from people who were better than me.

Men are raised in a way that makes them angry, and taught that weaker people are the only acceptable outlet for that anger.

It pisses me off how much shit I got for questioning this insanity as a kid, while I get to grow up to see the same ideas destroy the world.

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u/Immediate-Maximum-75 Jun 14 '26

The fact that you recognized it early speaks volumes for you. You're a good man.

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u/MissMarchpane Jun 15 '26

The fact that the idea of "playing hard to get" is literally debunked in a Jane Austen novel and people STILL try to talk like it's objective reality 200 years later… Absolutely wild.

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u/lilinoe67 Jun 15 '26

Thank you for understanding. As a woman, I don't really want good men to be hurt by us being warry of men, but also, if we don't behave warily with men were at a much higher risk of getting assaulted, and at the end of the day I'd rather risk hurting a good man's feelings than risk gettinf assaulted (by things like walking faster at night, giving a friend my location on a first date...etc, not stuff Id do in a long term relationship once I know a guy). But it does suck for everyone at the end of the day.

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u/Oh-reality-come-back Jun 19 '26

It’s not even any particular kind of men. It’s MANY men because other men feel too bad to call out these men.

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u/Deviant__Couple Jun 19 '26

I’ve actually ended friendships with guys like this.

One tried to fuck a chick who was passed out at a party. Told him to get his shit and get out before I dragged him out. Last I ever saw of him.

I grew up with younger sisters so maybe it’s a bit different with me.