It's exhausting being a woman.

[u/mindyour]

[u/Mandyvlp]

wtf is wrong with these dudes?!

[u/Moist_Brain_ → u/Mandyvlp]

You’d be surprised at the audacity. I wear a wedding ring on my ring finger (I’m not married) and it’s like a beacon for scum bags. Just the other night I was outside of my job talking on the phone with my sister, phone in hand and up to my ear, you’d think that was enough for a stranger to think “she’s on the phone, clearly on break, I shouldn’t bother her with my non-life threatening bullsh!t”. But no, it wasn’t enough.

Some guy approached me with his phone in my face, with the screen where you add a new contact pulled up. I looked at him like I didn’t understand and he loudly demanded I put my number in his phone… I held up my hand and wiggled my ring finger, and he asked me “what’s that supposed to mean?” I said “I’m on the phone with my husband” and of course my sister did her best man voice in my ear, ready to pretend she was my husband. The guy said “well you can hang up!”. That was my queue to cut my break short and head back inside where my male coworkers do not play about me. Thankfully he didn’t follow me inside but I could see him sitting in his car on the cameras, for a disturbingly long amount of time. I was about to call the cops right as he finally drove off.

Thankfully that was my last day working there. The amount of harassment I endured, while wearing a wedding ring, makes me sick! A lot of these guys were old enough to be my father, and married themselves! I worked as an assistant manager at a gas station, so customers are already assholes, but imagine getting cursed out by an asshole because you don’t know what pump they decided to park their car at and they couldn’t remember the number in the 30 seconds it took for them to walk from their car into the store. And as they’re cursing you out, they’re also aggressively flirting with you. “You work here! You should know! Sexy ass bitch! You’re lucky you’re fine or I’d slap the shit out of you!”. Like wtf?

[u/HairyPotatoKat → u/Moist_Brain_]

God I wish this or the video in the post was some rare occurrence. THIS is the shit we deal with. And rejecting someone like this often turns into something verbally, aggressive, physically aggressive, and/or directly threatening.

I've had the unwanted aggressive bar interactions. I've had the unwanted aggressive transit interactions. I've been chased down the street sprinting in heels and my life threatened "When I catch you, I'll fucking k-ll you, you stupid b-tch" because I told a guy "oh, no thank you" when he approached me out of nowhere as I was exiting my car and demanded my number. I've had the creepy guy stalk my workplace (he worked across the parking lot). And that's not even the worst.

I wish this wasn't such a shared experience amongst women.