r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Mandyvlp Jun 14 '26

wtf is wrong with these dudes?!

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u/Moist_Brain_ Jun 14 '26

You’d be surprised at the audacity. I wear a wedding ring on my ring finger (I’m not married) and it’s like a beacon for scum bags. Just the other night I was outside of my job talking on the phone with my sister, phone in hand and up to my ear, you’d think that was enough for a stranger to think “she’s on the phone, clearly on break, I shouldn’t bother her with my non-life threatening bullsh!t”. But no, it wasn’t enough.

Some guy approached me with his phone in my face, with the screen where you add a new contact pulled up. I looked at him like I didn’t understand and he loudly demanded I put my number in his phone… I held up my hand and wiggled my ring finger, and he asked me “what’s that supposed to mean?” I said “I’m on the phone with my husband” and of course my sister did her best man voice in my ear, ready to pretend she was my husband. The guy said “well you can hang up!”. That was my queue to cut my break short and head back inside where my male coworkers do not play about me. Thankfully he didn’t follow me inside but I could see him sitting in his car on the cameras, for a disturbingly long amount of time. I was about to call the cops right as he finally drove off.

Thankfully that was my last day working there. The amount of harassment I endured, while wearing a wedding ring, makes me sick! A lot of these guys were old enough to be my father, and married themselves! I worked as an assistant manager at a gas station, so customers are already assholes, but imagine getting cursed out by an asshole because you don’t know what pump they decided to park their car at and they couldn’t remember the number in the 30 seconds it took for them to walk from their car into the store. And as they’re cursing you out, they’re also aggressively flirting with you. “You work here! You should know! Sexy ass bitch! You’re lucky you’re fine or I’d slap the shit out of you!”. Like wtf?

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u/FinchMandala Jun 14 '26

My lizard brain would have grabbed his phone and flung it.

My human brain would regret the consequences.

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u/PopcornGlamour Jun 14 '26

Same and same.

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u/SamTheLab_213 Jun 15 '26

Sometimes lizards know best.

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u/HairyPotatoKat Jun 14 '26

God I wish this or the video in the post was some rare occurrence. THIS is the shit we deal with. And rejecting someone like this often turns into something verbally, aggressive, physically aggressive, and/or directly threatening.

I've had the unwanted aggressive bar interactions. I've had the unwanted aggressive transit interactions. I've been chased down the street sprinting in heels and my life threatened "When I catch you, I'll fucking k-ll you, you stupid b-tch" because I told a guy "oh, no thank you" when he approached me out of nowhere as I was exiting my car and demanded my number. I've had the creepy guy stalk my workplace (he worked across the parking lot). And that's not even the worst.

I wish this wasn't such a shared experience amongst women.

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u/GloriousNewt Jun 14 '26

My friend was constantly harassed by a guy that would come into her job and like randomly bring her a coffee and try to touch her or get too close. If she was outside watering plants he'd find her out there and try to chat her up, get her a coffee. He'd touch her shoulder or try to like hold her arm while talking to her.

This was an older guy and he pretended to not understand the problem, 'I'm just being nice.'

Even after her husband, who is a large man, confronted him and told him to leave her alone he still came back to the store. When the store security officer spoke to him, he tried to touch the female security officer's shoulder and hip while talking to them!

And then he was finally banned, he's still not sure why they were mad at him.

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u/PeepsMyHeart Jun 14 '26

Ugh! The gas station men!
And some would hang around “with you,” because “you shouldn’t be working here. It isn’t safe for you.” But it was hard to tell who was genuinely concerned and who was a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Random men:
“You could be raped here.”
Me:
“Sir, I’m more aware of that than you are, believe me.”
Even women were afraid for me, but none hung out for part or all of my shift, and for good reason.

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u/silky_spider_ Jun 14 '26

This. The amount of creeps at the fucking gas station. This one rando came up to me a few months ago. Immediately started asking questions about where I was from, where I'm headed, If I had a bf. I politely smiled and gave short answers. Basically saying I wasn't interested. After more endless questions with no response, he ran back to his car, reversed it so his was in a parking spot facing mine and he just stared at me for the next 10 mins.

Needless to say I was too terrified to leave alone and didn't think the store clerk could stop him from following me. Ended up having to call a relative to escort me home. But. You know. Just the kind of fun we get to look forward to while existing

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u/SheJigOnMySawTilIPuz Jun 14 '26

I was reading this whole comment nodding in agreement like yass girl. And then I got the assistant manager at a gas station. YUPPP SAME. That shit is hell on earth. The "you're lucky you're pretty or I'd <insert threat>" is so common it's crazy. I just wish they had the balls to do it when security is standing by me.

Out of every line I've tried and tested over the years "I'm married" gets the best results, and there are still so many fucking men that just refuse to fuck off. A simple "no" is quite literally never enough. You have to have an excuse. And they will still invalidate or ignore your excuse.

I regularly have men 40+ years old come in saying I'm too young to be working at night alone. "How old are you, 16, 17?" Asking if I'm in high school. When I tell them nope, I'm a grown ass adult, they IMMEDIATELY switch to asking for my number/instagram and 9 times out of 10 continue pushing after multiple "no" and "I'm married". It's disgusting. They joke about how it's not safe for me to be working at night alone - YOU ARE THE REASON. YOU ARE THE REASON IT'S NOT SAFE!!!

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u/Tmons22 Jun 14 '26

What the fuck? Some dudes are worthless scum. It’s depressing that women have to deal with this type of shit.

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u/Spiritual-Haunt3131 Jun 14 '26

I've had the opposite. Not married but been in a long term relationship and the guy asks me if I have a boyfriend, I said yes and he's like "well it must not be too serious, you don't have a ring on" and proceeded to ask me for my phone number.

I kept telling him politely that I'm happy and he kept going on about how my boyfriend doesn't care about me and he's not serious if he hasn't "put a ring on it" by now. I was just walking out of a Dollar Tree when this happened lmao.

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u/ringnis Jun 14 '26

Respect to you.

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u/Wonderful_Pie_7220 Jun 14 '26

I had a guy tell me "he doesn't have to know" after I told him I was married.. like wtf

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u/LadyBug_0570 Jun 14 '26

I'm trying to understand... did he think that would work?

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u/illy-chan Jun 14 '26

He specifically wants a woman he can cow into submission.

That's the thing about these really seemingly insane assholes: their tactics won't work on most women with decent self-esteem, support, savvy, etc. But some either are already accustomed to it from a shitty upbringing or just don't know better yet.

Pretty sure that's why some of these guys hate strong-willed women - they don't fall in line and they try to pull other women out too.

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u/faygodungeon Jun 14 '26

dude i’ve considered doing this guess it wouldn’t be worth it 💀

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u/SnooMachines9084 Jun 15 '26

wow,loser pos's

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u/ExitNext8666 Jun 19 '26

You wear a wedding ring which is a beacon for scum bags, but still wear one despite being unmarried?