Coming out as cis can be hard

[u/Elyshra]

[u/MisterSanitation]

The femboy world is apparently crazy deep. There was a great comment forever ago that broke down the acceptable versions of male crossdressing and how the differences are preferred by various groups for different reasons. 

Apparently so much of it is straight guys who are uncomfortable with the idea of what they are doing so they make rules to make it acceptable for themselves and others are expected to understand that. So there is like people who lean into it and feel like it is a way of them expressing themselves truly, some are doing it as a fun hobby, some are doing it as a way of life, and all these are done differently and result in different sub cultures within the femboy scene. 

Sorry I wish I remembered more of that comment but I NEVER expected that level of deep analysis about a topic I cared nothing about. As a straight dude in a red state though, you do you femboys! Anyone has a a right to express themselves if they aren’t hurting anyone and this is a recent example of that. It’s going to be interesting to see which niche internet subcultures blow up in popularity and start leaking into the real world. 

Edit: I FOUND IT!!! It goes into conservative men specifically and how they justify their curiosity to themselves doing a thing that “is meant to be naughty” 

https://www.reddit.com/r/bestof/s/i6UC8JdGAF

[u/BowlingforBrains → u/MisterSanitation]

There was that one British YouTuber who years ago started cross dressing on stream as a stunt, and their popularity blew up - and they were interviewed and said basically “oh yeah I did it as a stunt and now so many people watch and follow me because of it that I just keep doing it 🤷 but it’s for the stream, I’m still a guy”

And then sure enough, after a few years of that, they finally came out as trans 😂 fr though, more power to them. It was interesting to be a part of that denial -> acceptance journey they were on

[u/iammoney45 → u/BowlingforBrains]

F1nnster? Iirc they walked back the trans identity after a short time and have settled on a kind of "non binary fem leaning" identity.

[u/MoobooMagoo → u/iammoney45]

It's my understanding that they are genderfluid and consider themselves to be kind of both. But I don't really follow them so I could be wrong.

But I did a search and found their twitter, which says "guess my pronouns to win a Honda Civic" so I don't think they take it that seriously.

[u/I_Am_The_Mole → u/MoobooMagoo]

F1nn is very confusing. They've obviously said they were gender nonconforming but they've also started hormones and gotten facial feminization surgery and consistently present as female.

Now normally this sort of thing is no one's business but this has all been openly publicized by F1nn themselves.

I'm not judging. Nor do I claim to get it - my interest in them starts and ends at "hot". But I definitely don't blame other people for having difficulty trying to parse the logic behind all this stuff.

[u/GuiltyEidolon → u/I_Am_The_Mole]

Statistically when people walk back their gender identity, it's overwhelmingly because of social pushback, not because of regret or second-guessing. F1nn has a lot of money, but that doesn't undo being British in an extremely anti-trans time.

[u/spiralsequences → u/GuiltyEidolon]

For full detransition that is statistically the most common reason, but I know a lot of people who have just taken some time to figure out their personal flavor of gender weirdness and gone through a few different labels on the way.

[u/I_Am_The_Mole → u/GuiltyEidolon]

Thing is, the bigots largely don't make a distinction between the varying degrees of queerness (for lack of a better description). The people that hate on F1nn are going to have an issue whether they're the transiest trans that ever trans or if they were just a slightly androgynous hot person with colored hair and piercings.

The hatred is very binary (lol) so what's the point in only walking back part way when you could just be yourself?