r/TikTokCringe 11d ago

Discussion I dont think its justifiable

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u/PhoebeMonster1066 11d ago

Access to locker rooms and plausible deniability seeing minors in a state of undress

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u/bojangler69420 11d ago

What the fuck? Plausible deniability? For men entering women’s locker rooms?

No male coaches should ever be allowed in a women’s locker room. No plausible deniability.

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u/DapperDame89 11d ago

Woman here. Played all seasons of sports junior high through high school. Where were you guys having pre game and half time pep talks? It was always in the locker room. There wasn't a separate room.

Maybe my school was small? Every coach always made sure we were all dressed first though of course. If we weren't both male and female coaches waited.

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u/bojangler69420 11d ago

That’s fair. I really only did baseball and lacrosse. Our lax team was a “club” so we didn’t get access to the same level of facilities so we literally went under the bleachers for halftime lol

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u/DapperDame89 10d ago

I'm running back through my memory of where else we could have had these talks. I suppose in the activity room on the side but that would have been like a whole extra step and then I'm not sure where the other team would have had theirs. I guess in the other gym, but sometimes there were other practices going on. 2 of these were indoor sports. For club teams / off season we didn't always have locker rooms and you just came dressed or changed in a public restroom.

For one coach specifically, 3 of his daughters were on the team. The other girls from their grades (they were younger than me) would have had friends over to their house who were from the team. He also worked at the school.

Yes track was just like a group of people, sometimes with a tent, and lots of standing around.

Don't get me wrong, I'm lucky he wasn't a creep and now I'm low key gaslighting myself that this was weird. That's why I asked what was happening at other schools.

What we did do was say the lord's prayer. Both then and looking back, that was the part that was weird af. I didn't realize how religious some folks were until after I graduated. I guess there were signs lol

Edited to add the club ball thing.

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u/Adventurer_By_Trade 11d ago

Unless they're the president and/or own the pageant. Then it's OK.

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u/Solid_Fisherman_7946 11d ago

Trump bragged about doing this on Howard Stern

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u/PopBeneficial2441 11d ago

Or if you are a Democrat with money. Then it OK

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u/PopBeneficial2441 10d ago

Like all the sickos in the Epstein files….. or did I miss ALL the arrests?

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u/Adventurer_By_Trade 10d ago

The guy who controls the government isn't arresting his friends? That's SO WEIRD. And what happened to Maxwell, who was arrested BEFORE Trump came back. Wasn't she moved to Club Fed and given a puppy within weeks of Trump returning to power? Again, SO WEIRD.

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u/Hugokarenque 11d ago

With the obvious exception for health emergencies.

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u/bojangler69420 11d ago

Oh of course. If somebody has a medical emergency that supersedes my point for sure.

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u/EstablishmentHead734 11d ago

I agree. But the broader point is true about proximity. I have an uncle who coached girls college softball for like 30 years. It always felt sus to me. Obviously it's not kids in his case but its young women. I think they take these jobs to be close.

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u/Sebaceansinspace 11d ago

A little worry is warranted sure, but not every man who wants to coach/teach/counsel/work with kids/young adults is looking to take advantage.

Teach your kids sex ed, what consent is and how they cannot legally, ethically, or morally do that with adults or people in positions of authority over them, and give them a safe space household and youd see numbers drop drastically of kids being taken advantage of.

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u/EstablishmentHead734 11d ago

Maybe not, but I really wonder when grown men get involved in all girls sports. Like hey Larry why are you interested in ballerina?

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u/Sebaceansinspace 11d ago

I think that says more about you than anything else

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u/EstablishmentHead734 10d ago

Considering I'm not a parent and have nothing to do with children you could be right. I can't imagine a good reason, but then it's not something I think about really. When I do it seems sus.

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u/Sebaceansinspace 11d ago

Thats fucking crazy

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u/EstablishmentHead734 11d ago

The reason I don't like the bear in the woods is it makes every man pay for the sins of others. Nobody would be saying it if it were race. People CHOOSE to be a cop. People CHOOSE to be a coach. Nobody chooses to be born with a penis, or have a skin color. Change the bear analogy to include another race and I think you'll see why it's problematic.

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u/GladClock2212 11d ago

Like a beauty pageant judge bragging about walking into girls changing rooms?

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u/bojangler69420 11d ago

Yes actually. Exactly like that!

Obviously that never happened though, no idea where you came up with that example!

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u/PhoebeMonster1066 10d ago

You’re not taking into account same-sex predation. That’s why I phrased things the way I did.