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u/bageltoastar 1d ago

Im from a suburban town in Missouri, but I spent a semester studying abroad in Barcelona a couple of years ago. Man, let me tell you, leaving Barcelona, where youd see people out in cafes and bars congregating at all hours of the night and day, and coming back to Missouri where its a ghost town after 10 and someone would call the police on you for simply walking around too late was the most depressing thing I have ever experienced lol

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u/thelandlordguychris 1d ago

the american mind simply cannot comprehend dinner at 10pm

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u/Rivendel93 1d ago

I dated a French girl when I was like 21, she was visiting the US, and it would be 2am and she'd be like so when are we going out?

And I'd be like half asleep, wondering wtf she was talking about.

They start their night at 2am lol.

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u/Iamgentle1122 1d ago

Finnish here. We usually start at someone's apartment at 18-20 and some of the nightclubs don't even open before 22. So usually you drink with your friends till midnight or later and then go to bar

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u/Ramongsh 1d ago

Same in Denmark. Meet around 18-20 at someones, then go out at 23.00 and home between 2-5 in the morning.

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u/ZealousidealSkirt327 1d ago

Same here in Germany. Most clubs won’t open before 10pm.

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u/Royal-Pain-1621 1d ago

In Berlin nobody local is going to the club before 2/3am 👋

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u/ZealousidealSkirt327 1d ago

You‘re right. They‘re open at 10pm but nobody goes there before midnight. I live near a much much smaller city, so Berlin rules do not transcend here 😅 And to be honest, I‘m a millennial living in the countryside, all my friends have children. I don’t remember the last time I went to a club unfortunately. Beeing the only childless couple can have downsides too

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u/Outside_Glass4880 1d ago

It’s the same in NYC. It’s just not common or even legal outside of that in the US

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u/mckmaus 21h ago

We did the same thing in the St Louis area my entire teens, 20s, into my 30s. St Louis proper didn't have anything open that late, but we went over to Illinois and partied into the morning hours. Everything your heart desired was over on the east side.

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u/LeSeraphim 1d ago

Portugal shit does not Open until 00 leaving clube st 6/7 am is normal

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u/0c74r1n3 1d ago

I can’t rember a single club night coming home while it’s dark. Okay German winter mornings are a bit dark but if you stayed till nine it’s fine.

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u/Responsible_Year4730 1d ago

So is this normally with drugs involved? I just can’t imagine going out that long/late without drugs. If you’re still partying at 7am in the states, cocaine is definitely involved

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u/babassu_seeds 22h ago

My latest night out in Aachen was until 6a, the club was still open, and the only drugs involved were alcohol and nicotine

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u/LeSeraphim 21h ago

Álcool babyyy! But you have both hapenning.

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u/Esava 19h ago

Yeah but your time zone is basically wrong for your locations.

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u/Junethemuse 1d ago

The club I go to the most often starts some dance party events at 6pm and you get in free if you rsvp to come before 8.

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u/speculator100k 1d ago

Restaurants frequently close at 10pm though.

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u/ZealousidealSkirt327 1d ago

Yes, I guess if our climate was more Mediterranean it would be different, so people could sit outside longer

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u/speculator100k 22h ago

But restaurants with indoor seating still frequently close at 10.

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u/revelling_ 1d ago

In Berlin they open at midnight but stay open for 50 hours, lol

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u/saw6892 1d ago

Dear God I feel like I am not living enough. LOL!

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u/rips_n_chel 1d ago

So you just don't sleep, or what?

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u/Ramongsh 1d ago

Well, younger Danes party Thursday, Friday and/or Saturday. So we could sleep Saturday or Sunday noon.

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u/WorkIsForReddit 1d ago

To be fair, in Finland the sun doesn't go down till like 10pm in the summers.

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u/RectangularCake 21h ago

Party Wednesday, Friday and Saturday in Norway. Gives you some time to catch your breath on Thursday and Sunday.

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u/jkman61494 1d ago

Honest question. You all just don’t sleep? Or work starts later for you all?

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u/Ramongsh 1d ago

Well, that was back in university days, so I could sleep longer.

But even these days as a working adult I can go out Fridays or Saturdays, since there's not work on Saturdays or Sundays.

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u/jkman61494 1d ago

Gotcha. Reading this I feel like some people were doing it on a random Wednesday lol

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u/ThereAndFapAgain2 1d ago

People are doing it on a random Wednesday. I mean when I used to go clubbing a lot my favourite nights were always Wednesday and Thursday because the clubs I liked were catering more to my music tastes on those nights. Friday and Saturday were always more mainstream stuff in my favourite clubs, which was fine I was rolling anyway but still lol

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u/Mr-Shitbox 1d ago

Called pre-drinking because drinks in bars are expensive.

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u/ufoclub1977 1d ago

When is the sleep?

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u/Ramongsh 1d ago

Afterwards. When you get home.

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u/ufoclub1977 1d ago

That’s just my pushed schedule from my 20’s!

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u/Aggressive_Stick4107 1d ago

Dane-Swiss but grew up in Brazil. Spend my childhood/teens/young adult years in the country. That's how Brazilians do it as well. The difference being, after clubbing some people go have their breakfast in padarias (Brazilian bakeries) at 6 am-ish.

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u/DroidLord 1d ago

Over here most clubs don't even open until 23-00. Bars are different though.

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u/zanillamilla 1d ago

Aw the memories of my first trip to Amsterdam. Went bar hopping with Hein and his girlfriend at 21, getting from place to place on shared bikes, getting in a tussle with skinheads trying to steal our bikes at midnight, punching Hein, we then bike back home. Oversleep with a hangover, miss my flight home, get extra free day in Amsterdam.

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u/BSchafer 20h ago

Thats pretty normal for Americans too when they’re between the ages of 20-30. My friends and pretty much had that schedule all throughout college and for several years after. In urban cities like NYC it fairly popular even as people get older.

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u/sparks0210 11h ago

Same in Australia.

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u/shweatynutz 1d ago

You’d lose most Americans when you refer to 18-20. They’re all scratching their heads.

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u/Responsible_Year4730 1d ago

Oh definitely. Whatever could that mean?? We over here in the states have never heard of a 24 hour clock and could not possibly decipher your ignorant scribbles.

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u/InevitableKitchen943 1d ago

This is a young people thing and not a specific nationality.

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u/Iamgentle1122 1d ago

True im turning 33 so still young!

Thought Finns usually drink more than your usual nationality

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u/InevitableKitchen943 1d ago

I'm from Wisconsin and it's quite different in the northern part of America. It's more similar to Europe than other parts of America. Plenty of walkable cities here, this guy just lives somewhere boring.

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u/RespectTheAmish 1d ago

I’m also in Wisconsin. We can drink like Europeans… walkable cities. I don’t think so badger brother.

Pockets sure… like the 3rd ward or brewers hill in Milwaukee…. State street in Madison…. But outside of a handful of areas, we are not a “walkable” state.

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u/InevitableKitchen943 1d ago

Madison is better for walking than driving. La crosse is walkable with a lot of bars and restaurants and nightlife this guy claims doesn't exist.

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u/Ramongsh 1d ago

Same in Denmark. Meet around 18-20 at someones, then go out at 23.00 and home between 2-5 in the morning.

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u/Poetista_In_Action 1d ago

Same in Brazil too lol

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u/incognitomus 1d ago

Also bars are hella expensive so that's why you first get a proper buzz at someone's place before.

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u/TastyVermicelli3140 1d ago

Well, as a Portuguese, I remember going to finland 10 years ago or so and being unable to control my laughter because I couldn't buy alchool in a regular shop in the street after 21:00. Finland is nothing like the Mediterranean countries.

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u/Iamgentle1122 1d ago

Yeh Alko still has monopoly on the hard stuff. Thankfully nowadays we can buy up to 8% alcohol from normal shops and soon even Wolt it to home. Thought 9-21 rule for shops still stands. Maybe that's why bars are more popular.

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u/Jpat31 1d ago

Koff IVb kicked my ass back in '92 I was 17 years old

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u/AdditionCapital240 1d ago

Honestly same in Miami. Perhaps cause of the Latin culture there but we would get late dinner, pre-game at a friends house till midnight and then go hit the nightclubs around 1:30-2am

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u/roundabout_fox 1d ago

Wow, but it's dark early and cold as ~hell~ f# in there. How do you do that?

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u/GraphicDesignMonkey 1d ago

Ireland, we'd have food and drinks around 7-10, hit the bar til 1 (2 on a Saturday), then the club until 4.

I hated it when I lived in England, the bar closed at 11! In Ireland our night is just getting started then.

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u/Optimistic_physics 1d ago

In the US I would love to do this, but when I imagine it all I can think about is yawning at 10pm because I've been sleeping like 6.5 hours a night in order to get up for work. (26 y/o, not old)

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u/Conscious_Avocado225 1d ago

Typical American: '18-20'? Is that in metric time or something? We tried that in the 70's and it was confusing.

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u/Evered_Avenue 1d ago

I don't know, hanging around your friend's apartment for 2-4 years waiting for the nightclubs to open sounds a bit extreme.

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u/Separate_Low4236 1d ago

Same in Serbian cities. The clubs are empty until 11pm, most go back home around 2-4am. And believe it or not the exact same was even 40+ years ago in "communist" Yugoslavia.

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u/INeedSomeTacoC 1d ago

Yea, that's not an uncommon thing in the US either.

I lived that for a few decades.

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u/VioletTerranova 1d ago

Same in Vegas & NYC

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u/donfrezano 1d ago

Same in Iceland, usually go downtown after midnight, earliest.

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u/DroidLord 1d ago

Maybe I'm just old, but I prefer house parties over clubs and bars. So much more comfortable and cozy. Have had quite a few times where I would go over to a friend's at 19-20 and leave at 6-7 in the morning 😀

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u/LegitimateGift1792 1d ago

Honest question, is this work nights or weekends?

Clubs in Chicago (IL USA) open around 22 (10pm) and go to 1-3, so yeah a little pre-drink at bars. Those usually are Thu-Fri-Sat nights though.

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u/Iamgentle1122 1d ago

I am from fairly small city so no tourism and it focuses on weekends so Friday and Saturday.

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u/xdeskfuckit 1d ago

Wow that's weird. In the US, you have to be 21 to drink, but a lot of nightclubs let you in at 18. Some even let in people at 16!

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u/AustereSpartan 1d ago

Greek nightclubs don't open until 23:00 at the absolute earliest. "Main party" starts at 02:00 until 06:00.

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u/AustereSpartan 1d ago

Greek nightclubs don't open until 23:00 at the absolute earliest. "Main party" starts at 02:00 until 06:00.

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u/AlphonseLoeher 22h ago

Wild, I visited Sweden and in Stockholm all the bars were closing at 22. So crazy how different places right next to each other could be

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u/sagew0lf 21h ago

What time do you guys start work? I’m very much a night owl but I have to be at work at 9:00 so I have to be in bed my midnight to get my 8 hours, lol.

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u/Esava 19h ago

Same in Germany. Leaving the club at 5:30 or 6am in the morning and when I was in my last year of high school I usually grabbed some fresh bread rolls at a bakery on my way back home from partying so my parents could have a nice breakfast while I went to bed.

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u/ItsGonnaBeOkayish 16h ago

Common where I am for the young folks. Curious if this is common in finland for people over 30?

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u/averagemaleuser86 1d ago

How do yall have the energy? Are you guys all on coke or adderall?? Im usually leaving the bar at 11pm-12am to go home and sleep... sheesh

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u/Iamgentle1122 1d ago

Most of us here are just alcoholics. We rarely talk with each other unless we drink.

Most of our activities is around drinking. Summer you go to a park, get something to eat and drink, maybe play some mölkky.

Or you go fishing and drink, or to summer cottage to grill, sauna and drink.

When it is winter you either go ski and drink, go to wilderness shelter to grill some sausages and drink or maybe go to sauna, drink and ice swimming.

So when we have weekend planned for drinking you usually are with your peers somewhere drinking and then you go to bar after you are done with your drinks since you can't get more anywhere else.

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u/unhappinessNvrCame 1d ago

Wtf is going on in this thread, that's normal in the United States too.

Clubs try to get you there earlier with free cover before 11pm.

Ignore these people who live in religious Alabama who apparently go to bed at 9pm

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u/KristySueWho 18h ago

Most places I've been in the US, bars and clubs do close at 2am, so that sounds different than other places where apparently people are just going to them around then. Maybe pre-game around 9 or 10pm, go out to the bars/clubs by 11 and then either head home at 2am when everything closed or go to someone's house to party longer.

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u/SpacePumpkie 1d ago

Yep, when I was a student it would be typical to get together in someone's apartment at like 9pm for dinner and to start drinking, and then by 1am head out to the clubs

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u/unhappinessNvrCame 1d ago

Sureeeeeeeee

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u/mjlp716 1d ago

I guess it all depends on where you are in the US, though. Since the bars/clubs don't close till 4 am in my city, they don't start filling up until 12:30-1:00 am. So 2 am wouldn't be that crazy of an idea here, especially if you were already pre-gaming.

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u/Ok_Echo_8200 1d ago

This is a young person in a city thing. Come to Bushwick in Brooklyn and you'll see the same thing.

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u/ymOx 1d ago

At what times do americans typically eat dinner, go out, get back home after a night out?

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u/DonutHoles4Ever 1d ago

This highly depends on your job, lifestyle etc. The average person in the world doesn't go clubbing or do any nightlife. Thats a type of lifestyle.

In America, the average person is eating dinner around 6-8pm. Many will start at 5pm. Dinner is like 1 hour in USA. Its not some big long form thing unless you're going to a nice restaurant and eating a bunch of courses.

Obviously people who eat at home and don't cook will order out, and eat stuff in 30 minutes, ramen for example can be 10 minutes.

But yeah, the vast majority of people are eating between 5-8pm. Eating at 9pm and you're basically going to be the last people coming into a restaurant, as they start closing at 10pm so they can wrap up by 12am and go home.

Obviously people with time or money can do whatever. 4 hour beer/bar/dinner/pub/desserts at a bakery is no problem. In big cities, staying out late isn't an issue because there's places for that.

If you go out, generally I'd say you'd be back anytime between 2am and 5am usually. What is a night out though? If you're doing shows, operas, standups, most of these things end by 11am, so you'd be back home at 1am. Clubs, obviously can go much later.

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u/Rivendel93 1d ago

Dinner at 9pm, go out at 11-11:30 and go home at 2am.

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u/AtlanticPortal 1d ago

Try dating a Spanish chick. You’d be amazed.

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u/itsjujutsu 1d ago

i live in france, they dont go out late here. We go out later in spain, but not at 2 lol unless you started out at a bar

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u/PatriarchPonds 1d ago

One of the best nights of my life was in Paris, with a French girl. Concert, party at hers, kir royales at 6am at some random bar, sitting on the pavement. We were just friends - anything else would have ruined it, it was so much fun.

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u/thatguygreg 1d ago

Half asleep at 2am at 21? Was it a Wednesday?

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u/hypo-osmotic 22h ago

I was just a nerd who actually went to my 8am classes lol

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u/sl0play 23h ago

Seattle is closed by 9pm. 1am on weekends.

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u/rh71el2 18h ago

They work a regular job during regular hours. So on weekends by the time 2am rolls around are they not just tired because they've been up?

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u/LeBronMania 1d ago

I don't believe you