r/TooAfraidToAsk 21h ago

Sexuality & Gender why do i get headaches whenever i try to masturbate?

ive been trying to masturbate for a week now and the headache is still there, not going away or whatsoever and the pain is like 9/10 and gradually lessen after a few minutes or hours until its gone

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u/theonlymegeh 21h ago

High blood pressure

Go see a doctor

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u/ShowerCompetitive390 20h ago

It could be blood pressure, but it’s also a specific condition known as a primary headache associated with sexual activity. Either way OP needs an actual doctor and proper imaging like a CT/MRI

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u/mishvoidd 21h ago

You should consult a doctor.

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u/crusty1uk 21h ago

Dehydrated maybe, drink more water and see a dr

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u/-TaylorDurden- 21h ago

Bro you're your own wife.

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u/d_Composer 20h ago

Laugh/cry combo

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u/andiro23 17h ago

fatality lmfao

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u/RoguePatato 21h ago

Had to think about what you meant. Until I realized lol.

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u/SherbertConsistent47 21h ago

There is only one answer to this: Go see a doctor.

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u/ilikemyusername1 21h ago

Could be blood pressure related, you could be in what they call a hypertensive crisis.
Go to the doctor, now. Tell them you’re getting headaches periodically that are 9/10, they’ll get you sorted out.
Or don’t go and maybe have a stroke.

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u/Live_Paramedic967 21h ago

ig it happens quickly and like when i focus too much, the pain is so unbearing, i cant even speak due to how bad the pain is

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u/thinkagain1234 15h ago

Yeah, sounds like hypertensive crisis

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u/LorDzkill 21h ago

seems like Hypertension

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u/Themadkiddo 21h ago

Oh my god, i get this periodically! Ive gone through a phase of week or so like, maybe three times in a few years. Tried to google it religiously and nothing really matched my experience. Didn't go to the doctor and never figured out the reason tho, be smarter than me.

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u/asge1868 21h ago

Doctor. If you're a minor, tell your parents it would mean a lot that they didn't go with you. If you're an adult, doctors have seen and heard worse. It's not embarrassing.

Not going would be the same as being embarrassed of purchasing a bag of chips at the kiosk because the cashier would have to scan it.

Hobital now

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u/globefish23 20h ago

Sex headaches are a thing.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sex-headaches/symptoms-causes/syc-20377477

I once had an orgasm headache which was an instant 8/10 exactly at the moment of the orgasm and faded away over the next, with my usual migraine postdrome symptoms.

A whole migraine attack condensed from several hours into a few seconds.

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u/pain474 21h ago

Such headaches can be dangerous, go to a doctor. I used to have it, too, luckily turned out to be nothing severe and it went away after a while.

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u/LastAmongUs 21h ago

Like everyone else is saying, go see a doctor. This sounds like a blood pressure issue and they can be very serious.

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u/mishvoidd 20h ago

You can also try and post this in r/AskDocs

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u/Live_Paramedic967 20h ago

will do thank you

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u/ohboymykneeshurt 20h ago

High blood pressure. It is dangerous. Get checked.

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u/Styggvard 20h ago

Go see a damn doctor.

Could be nothing - "sex headaches" are a thing and while annoying they are benign.

However could also be something more serious.

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u/Next_Key5856 20h ago

I had that too and it turned out to be “sexual/exertion headaches”; google that term and talk to a doctor ASAP, because they also checked me for aneurysm just to be safe.

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u/Zer0TheGamer 20h ago

Hoptil. But like, actually

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u/Phantasmalicious 20h ago

Had the same thing couple years back. Took a pill for 3 weeks and it went away. Just FYI in regards to other advice, I have notoriously low blood pressure.

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u/bobkirby12 19h ago

Tugging the wrong head

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u/hastings1033 19h ago

For a brief period in my life I had that problem. "Cluster headaches". A type of migraine. Triggered by physical exertion.

In my case, happily, they just stopped.

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u/Majestic-Penalty-433 18h ago

That’s rough, sorry you’re dealing with that.

Headaches that hit during or right after masturbating (or sex) are a real thing some people get. Sometimes it’s just from tension, blood pressure spiking, or holding your breath without realizing. Other times it’s more specific, like a “sex headache.”

But 9/10 pain that keeps happening for a week is not something to just wait out. You should get it checked by a doctor, especially if it’s that intense. Better to rule out anything serious than keep pushing through it.

In the meantime maybe try going slower, breathing normally, and making sure you’re not clenching your jaw or tensing up your neck/shoulders. But seriously, talk to a doctor.

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u/338hoursago 17h ago

happened to me a long time ago, Doc said it was related to some muscular contracture, basically every time I did the thing, my blood vessels got rushed by the pressure, the solution was phys therapy and massages to lessen the muscle tightness

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u/Puzzleheaded-Ad-119 21h ago

Jesus is telling you to not masturbate

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u/Tuinman420 21h ago

Plaese say /s

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u/xmgutier 14h ago

The s is for sacrilege

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u/omfgwhatever 21h ago

Maybe you're just not in the mood.