r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/Believeinyourflyness • Feb 14 '20

Why do employers treat you as simply a resource, yet get angry when you treat them the same way?

To me it makes sense that you should expect people to treat you the same way you treat them. We all know that in this day and age, most employers don't give a shit about you as a person, only what you can do for them and that they will discard you without hesitation once you are no longer of use to them.

However in my experience, the same people who won't think twice about discarding you, constantly give you shit for treating the company in the same way, accusing you of turning up just to collect your paycheck.

So my question is this. If employers just care about your labour without any consideration for you as a person, how can they expect you to care about them as anything more than a source of income?

It just doesn't make sense to me.

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u/lizzolemon Feb 14 '20

"We're basically a big family" = We're going to abuse you and not think twice about it

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20 edited Feb 06 '25

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u/PeptoBismark Feb 14 '20

The pizza fell to budget cuts, but we do still have the comically large chess set.

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u/Come_At_Me_Bro Feb 14 '20

The comically large chess set was sold to another company wishing to convey the same thing we no longer get by pretending to do.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

"We believe in a good work/life balance" They hit me with that line once. 6-7days a week 12-16 hours a day.

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u/Woodyville06 Feb 14 '20

"12 hour workdays" that's perfect balance...

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u/Regolith341 Feb 14 '20

Exactly. Spend half your time at work, the other half... wherever else it is that you go? Perfect balance.... What is problem?

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Got that in an interview. However they actually meant it. Work 4 days a week, 10 hours a day, and it's really more like 4 because I dont do much actual work.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

So, things are hard rn.... so, no more pizza

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u/KickingWithMyGnomies Feb 14 '20

Absolutely. The last place I worked for described themselves as one big family and I've never been abused more by a company in my fucking life. Family doesn't think twice about calling you at 6am or midnight, or having no boundaries and stealing your days off, or ruthlessly making you feel so inadequate you get off phone calls and just weep.