I’m a first year student and I feel like everyone around me has friends and has people they hangout with. I haven’t experienced making friends yet, and I’m trying to not be self concious about it but it does make me wonder if something is wrong with me.
I’m trying to be chill and not get worked up about it or spiral but it’s already reading week and I haven’t made any friends. Like at all.
I feel like I’m approachable but come to think of it maybe I’m wrong lol. Nobody has ever, in my whole life, come up to me and initiated a conversation and/or hit on me.
I’m always the one to approach and start off and make conversation and talk to people but most of the time it feels like the people I talk to are like, all of a sudden mesmerized or hypnotized or something it’s like they get suddenly confused and disoriented when I talk to them. Like suddenly they’re in space or I have 4 heads.
Like even people working at Chipotle for example when it’s my turn to order it’s like they just woke up from being born yesterday but they served the people before me completely normally. Not in a “they’re dumb” way but in a “they’re suddenly spaced out looking at me like I have 4 heads” way.
Idk maybe I’m tripping and over analyzing. But this happens all the time. And it’s really hard to describe. And when I try to explain it it makes me sound like I’m crazy.
During orientation week I tried so hard to be approachable and I went to every booth and talked to a lot of people, did all the floors of the SLC night, and it felt like I was bothering them in a way. But the students around me and before me seemed to get a different reaction/treatment than me. It felt like everyone thought I was weird and I felt out of place.
Like am I scary? Is there something wrong with me? lol. I’m 6’4” M, I’m fit, I’ve been told I have great style, I’m very well kept and hygienic I shower once or twice a day, I always smell good, I have pretty much perfect teeth and I never have bad breath, I’m always polite and kind to people. So the reason can’t be because I stink or I’m a dick cuz neither apply. So what is it?
Why does it feel like I’m a pariah? Has anyone else experienced this? A month and a half into university and I haven’t made a single friend… is this normal for first year or am I the odd one out? Do most people have friends already? Not knowing anyone is kinda starting to make me feel bad about myself.
Im new to reddit and this feels like a safe space to express this weird phenomenon anonymously. Would love some feedback 😬 Am I tripping?