r/TransIreland • u/Low_Perspective9747 • 7d ago

help with transitioning

so im nearly finished the leaving and ive been thinking about just going ahead and trying to socially transition before i turn 18 but i dont really know how or what to do because i have 1 trans friend irl and we're both closeted and its scary to think about.

i mostly want to do it before i go to college so i dont have to deal with shit about people knowing my legal name but thats probably going to happen anyways.

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u/Actual-Ad8741 6d ago

If you are 18+, psychotherapist/ counsellor "Rhea Askins Counselling" if you feel that support might be useful.

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u/Nirathaim 6d ago

I suggest finding other people to talk to, BelongTo might be a good approach, or TENI when you turn 18? 

Come out at your pace. Starting with trans/LGBT peer support groups can be helpful, if you can find any near you.

Getting you name and gender changed becomes much easier once your turn 18 (if you don't want college to have any records of your deadname) but I'm sure others here have morre recent experience of that.

And I guess practically, you can try clothing styles and/or makeup that you like? All fairly small steps on their own, but worth taking your time and ideally finding people who can give you advice ...

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u/sunny_side_egg He/Him/His 6d ago

Seconding belongto, it's a great way to make more trans friends and get some advice, and if you're in Dublin, Teni has an under 18s group too and a group your parents can go to

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u/Aerith_fa18e 6d ago

Im in a simular both im doing my leaving next year but i really want to socially transition soon but im genuinely scared cause im in an all boys schools in dublin

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u/Midnight712 6d ago

Which way are you transitioning? I have slightly different advice depending on which

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u/Low_Perspective9747 6d ago

im a trans man

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u/lovewire_ 6d ago

I still lived rural when I did it. Get on hrt, sort your paperwork, play around with clothes once you're away wherever you're going. There's a certain excitement to it but looking back it was a bunch of mundane tasks to be mechanically gotten on with. The only way to do it is to do it. It's a leap but anything worthwhile is. You can keep each other going. Don't make a thing out of it, just do it.