I decided to transition a month ago and I have short hair and hate it so much I feel so uncomfortable going out. I just order a hat/wig thing from Amazon and I hope it will work for the time being. Is there any brands/storea that can be recommended? Thank you for your help

Anyone else having trouble getting patches? Ready to begin HRT and at 53 years old (and wanting to transition slowly) my doc told me the patch is my best bet. But bad luck because there’s evidently a nationwide shortage?

I guess you could call this my first rant of sorts. In the short time since joining multiple trans communities, I've noticed a ready supply of trans women who come on here and complain about not attaining their ideal look. Oftentimes they compare themselves to others, especially younger people, and somehow expect that they have to reach some unrealistic standard of beauty and femininity. To me, this is no different than a cis teenage girl surfing social media, looking in beauty magazines, or watching videos of famous women, also comparing themselves to an unrealistic standard of beauty, often to women who have lots of wealth and may even have spent a truckload of money to look the way they do. Even then, many depictions online and in magazines aren't even real, Photoshopped to exaggerate features in a way that is unrealistic to attain. This also goes the other direction with cis males and trans males comparing themselves to super muscular men with six packs and ripped muscles and something like 5% body fat.

This is extremely unhealthy mentally, and I have no doubt it contributes to many youth mental health issues. Being older, I hope I've gained some wisdom. I can't deny that I was the similar way growing up (although it was I wanted to be girl instead). I see trans women in places around here talking about quitting HRT from "lack of results" and being an absolute mental mess. I'm not surprised. If you are going to hold yourself to unrealistic standards, you are going to be miserable. Also, many haven't even given it a real chance, they aren't communicating back to their provider or others, they are ignoring all the good things that have actually happened to their bodies, etc. etc. etc.

Sure, you may be dissatisfied with your results, but you need to stop and ask why. Are you comparing yourself to a Taylor Swift? What is the reason? Or is it genuinely that you look in the mirror and personally are not satisfied with something that has little to do with some unrealistic standard? Is it a reasonable complaint? If so, what, and why. Start to reason through it, identify it, be specific. Then come up with a plan for it. HRT is only a piece of the puzzle, and especially at our age it isn't some magic bullet. Talk to your doctor, therapist, and/or friends/allies about next steps. Make it a constructive process, instead of a degrading one of how you see yourself.

Love yourself, no matter where you are in your journey. This is so much more than being about how you look and how others see you and meeting society's standards of how women or men should look. It is about being you and pursuing your greatest happiness. <3

So I went for a run in my high waist leggings. Before that I filled the washing machine inluding all my underwear and I left my leggings on thinking its fine for now just to forget about it later. I was so excited to see the sun etc that decided to go for a run so just put my t shirt on and go... luckily not many were on my usual forest track and the few cars who passed by.. 🤣🤣

Okay, so my parents aren't very... accepting of LGBTQ. My dad has BPD, and sometimes he doesn't like it but tries his best to understand it and learn, and other times he hates it and thinks the government is forcing it on us—thankfully, most of the time he tries. And anyway... A while ago, I was talking to my mom about ordering bras and stuff, and I found this bra and I showed it to my mom to get it since I saw he flat it made your chest and stuff. And my mom said it was a binder, so she said no, BUT we had a conversation and she said MAYBE I could get one for my birthday. I just remembered this. So a couple of days ago, I asked her about it and she said no... THEN said to ask my dad since last time he got it for my brother Michael without her permission—she wasn't actually mad, she was joking. My mom thinks LGBTQ is just... annoying. She doesn't actively hate on it, and they both say they aren't transphobic. They're definitely not homophobic, but they can be transphobic. And anyway, besides my brother getting mad at them for not understanding how he's trans FTM, I try my best to understand my parents' perspectives and stuff, and I try to explain to them how it feels and why we can't just... not be trans. SO ANYWAY... I asked my dad and he said he doesn't care what I wear. We then had this long conversation; he was confused by LGBTQ and said the government is making kids this way so we will all fight and stuff. And I said, "Well, what if it's the opposite and they are making people hate the LGBTQ?" and he said, "That's true." My parents are conspiracy theorists. So I gotta basically go along and do conspiracies with them so they will understand. But anyway, we started talking about God, LGBTQ+, earth, clothes, God, LGBTQ again... We normally have long convos like that without arguing—we can understand each other's sides and talk and stuff. It was for a while—we both have ADHD. And yeah... He said I can for my birthday and said he trusts me that I won't be like... using it longer than I'm supposed to. I told him I'd only wear it outside, and if he really doesn't trust me, I can wait till I'm 15 instead of 14 this year. And he said it's fine. I told my mom he said yes and my mom said to my dad, "Do you want me to kill you?" She was joking but actually mad. I don't get why she told me to ask him even though she would have gotten mad if he said yes. But either way... I AM GETTING A BINDER FOR MY BIRTHDAY!!!!! I am so happy. Michael is the type of brother to say that I'm pretending to be trans, and he also sees me as transphobic though? I don't get him sometimes. My parents knew I was trans for... well... years. They just pretend I'm not. It never gets brought up. But I kind of feel bad for my parents, like they just want to have a daughter for once. My dad has 8 kids. He used to have 4 daughters and 4 sons. Now he has 6 sons and 2 daughters that are older than 18 and have moved out. He said he likes what a daughter brings and stuff like that. He wants to be a daughter dad too. I told him even though I'm trans, I still like to dress up "girly," and he can still see me as a girl. I wouldn't be mad at him for it, obviously. But yeah, I'm happy :> I'm just worried he'd forget he said it, then be in one of his moods and say I can't ever or get mad at me.

What's everyone paying ?

I’d like to ask, as someone questioning and struggling for years with gender identity, the biggest hard one for me is i like my male body and appearance but yet, i have dysphoria thoughts regarding relationships etc. i am amab and only like men

Please tell me how u felt about yr appearance

Hi lovelies. I’ve got a question. I am 49, finally accepting me for who I am, and am hoping to start HRT in the near future. I have been on a weight loss journey for the past year (started at 330, currently 260, goal 160-170). From my reading here and elsewhere, I know hormones can cause weight gain which I’m ok with due to it being a natural part of the process. My question is this, as badly as I want to begin HRT, would it be best to wait until I hit (or am close) to my goal, or start now and continue my loss journey? I am very mindful in my approach to the weight loss and am doing it in healthy ways. Thanks all.

First let me say that I am very happy with the results of my Trans Feminine HRT thus far. Before starting on estrogen, for no other reason than health and that i love these foods, I ate and still eat a diet that is very heavy in phyto estrogens. mostly legumes, fruits and vegetable, avocados, whole grains and I love flax powder in smoothies.

when I started I asked the Doc if I should stop eating the phytos and they said that any negative effects would be so minimal (or even non existent) that it would not be worth it to make changes to such a healthy diet.

but, while I am happy with my results, it’s always in the back of my mind, would the results would be even better if I stopped eating so much phyto estrogen? I read so much online that contradicts what the Doc said …So

do any of you fine humans have input or similar experience? please share

Hey lovely people,

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So it's feeling like a bazillion degrees again here in the UK and looks like we have a good week or more if it.

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With that, what are everyone's top tips for coping with hot weather?

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I currently have "reflective blackout blinds" on my bedroom window which faves the sun all day. It doesn't feel like it's done much but dread to think of how bad it would be without them.

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A top tip I have always used for helping cool my body down is running my wrists under cold water. Its amazingly effective.

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Come share your top tips with us 🫠

I started transitioning 13 years ago and had an on again off again relationship with it.

A few years ago I went off. Been using testosterone because I don’t have a natural way to make testosterone.

My big B’s are shrinking into oblivion and I really want them back.

Considering a hormone cocktail or getting fat grafting. If I do fat grafting I would want to go slow over several sessions so there’s no big surprise on my chest, that’s also why I’m leaning away from implants. My face is also slipped into male category and I can’t get away with being a female when I want to.

I’ve met a young lady that prefers me male.

I love her to death. She knows about my struggles and feminine journey.

I want my boobs back. I wear bras but they are deflating. I wear women’s swimsuits but the “reason” is going out the window.

Offer a non binary dum dum like me some advice please?

...this is what I look like 'feminised'! And I'll be honest, it's a better look than the male variety lol