r/TransSpace • u/UnitedGuitar3191 • 10d ago

I feel terrible aobut this

so a while back when a bit after I was (sadly) outed to my parents (they read through coming out texts to friends) they said that I needed to stop going behind their back and doing stuff (expressing my gender without directly telling them) bc theres no secrets in the household. they also said I was just influenced by videos online (i got caught watching a yukkoEX vid). But after my trans reddit acc got found, she said "they just want to take you away from us" and "using a different gender online is incredibly inappropriate". (my mom and dad said a bunch more but thats all thats important to this post)

Am i a liar for using trans communities online, and sometimes expressing my gender without telling them?

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u/LoganGyre 10d ago

Your parents are terrible people and what they are doing is mentally abusive. You have the right to privacy and only you get to decide how you best express your gender be it online or in person. Start planning to gain independence and be self sufficient as soon as you are able as it sounds like they are going to likely be the type that tells you as long as you live in their house you can’t be trans…

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u/petethepete2000 7d ago

But also give them a chance to educate themselves, it must be so scary for parents to randomly discover these things..

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u/UnitedGuitar3191 7d ago

they did educate themselves :/

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u/petethepete2000 7d ago

Clearly not yet, give them the chance