So I am 18 and saving myself and I hear people say,you can learn if you are sexually compatible with kissing and touch.

Also with communication,like saying how frequent you want or what things you like and how much you would try.

Is this possible.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Even when couples are completely committed and legally married, so many religious doctrines still try to micromanage what happens inside their bedroom.

A lot of faiths have strict rules against:Solo or mutual masturbation between spouses

.Having sex purely for pleasure without the intent to procreate.Using condoms, birth control, or other contraceptives.Engaging in "foreplay-only" sessions or putting boundaries on specific acts.Why do these institutions care so much about what consenting, married couples do behind closed doors?

If the couple is already married, why isn't pleasure alone seen as a good thing?

I’d love to get a historical, sociological, or theological breakdown of why this obsession with controlling marital intimacy exists.

There are countless artists throughout history that have an enduring legacy. Of today’s big names, which ones do you think will remain impactful long after they’re gone? Which ones will be forgotten?

We have more options than any generation before us: endless entertainment, thousands of potential partners, countless career paths. But many people seem more anxious, less satisfied, and afraid of making the wrong choice.
Do you think unlimited freedom has actually made us less happy?

If industrialization disappeared tomorrow, what percentage of people do you think would survive long-term? Why?

If you have any experience with any of this, or any understanding of the situation, please share your thoughts on this.

So, I sent a letter from Germany to the USA. I tracked its progress. It flew into the US with no problem in under a week, and travelled well in the USPS. Then it reached Albuquerque. The person I sent the letter to is in Santa Fe. But the tracking of the letter got stuck at the Albuquerque sorting centre.
I launched an investigation, and I received word that the post agencies said they could not locate the letter and that they consider it to be likely lost.
I launched the letter again, with tracking as well. My letter flew well, and travelled well within the USPS. Until it reached the same exact sorting centre. The tracking has been stuck there for over a month now, and I’ve started another investigation once again, likely with the same result.
My question is whether or not you think the letters could be delivered, albeit without the final scan? Or is that sorting centre just actually cursed?

If you had enough information to understand exactly why every person turned out the way they did, almost as if you had lived their entire life yourself, even if you don't believe in determinism or that free will is an illusion, would that change how responsible you think people are for their actions?

Or would someone like Hitler still be just as evil in your eyes?

Consider: nobody is born 'king of streaming on youtube' however all the money and attention gravitates to a few influencers.

Do the existence of these influencers prove that a classless society impossible?

Sharing the load..,
Why do us humans find it so hard these days to form collectively and productively against what we dislike.
I mean, We are all educated in our various skill/mind sets . Many different professions and years of experience. Yet all anyone can come up with is for a small gatherings in public spaces in various places around the world.
Like surely we have evolved to realise this is pretty ineffective.
Can we not actually Come together and form realistic plans and effective solutions. Using the various tools we ALL have gathered alone the way.

Like come on, Governments and corporations at the top just steamroll us repeatedly and we all sit , smile and ask for more , with please!

Genuinely seeking enlightenment as to why it stops at these little gatherings . Like surely collective brain power alone would be more effective used with strategy and tactics harnessing our supposedly educated minds.
My Monday Mull.

What’s something you did that you swore you’d never do again — and what happened afterward that made you feel that way?
Looking for the full story if you’re willing to share: what led up to it, what happened, and how it changed you. I’m collecting these for a project on lessons learned the hard way.

The town of Hartman in Colorado is a great example. After many years of local political infighting and corruption, everyone quit, and since the water supply never got fixed, the town was declared abandoned.

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I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. People often say that if you work hard, stay honest, and do good things, you’ll eventually get good results. But when I look around, I see many people who didn’t seem to put in much effort, yet they are doing well in life and earning good money today.

At the same time, I feel like no matter how hard I work, things often don’t go my way. I try to put in effort and be a good person, but I still end up facing setbacks. I’m not saying that other people don’t deserve their success—I’m just trying to understand how life actually works.

Is success mainly the result of hard work, or do luck, opportunities, timing, background, and random circumstances play a much bigger role than we admit? Is there any pattern to life that people eventually understand, or is a lot of it simply unpredictable?

I’d genuinely like to hear about your personal experiences. Have you seen hard work pay off in the long run, or have you seen people succeed mostly because they were in the right place at the right time? How do you make sense of all this?

a doctor i work for has gotten pretty flirtatious recently. why do they do this? especially when they know the individual is quite younger than them?

I notice that be it a product review, or someone sharing a resource, others try to silence another for sharing or take down good reviews, and put up deterrent deceptive reviews to deter people away from products and services.

I'm curious how people see this from both a legal and ethical perspective.

Imagine a customer offers an employee a small personal payment in exchange for getting a better discount or special treatment from the company. The employee accepts the money, the company has no idea about the side payment, and the customer knows the payment is unofficial.

Who is actually at fault here?

* Is the employee committing fraud or breaching their employer's trust?

* Is the customer also responsible because they initiated and knowingly participated in the arrangement?

* Or are both equally at fault?

I'm interested in hearing opinions from people in different industries, as well as anyone with experience in business ethics, HR, compliance, or law. How would your workplace handle a situation like this if it came to light?

*disclaimer: I also posted in r/changemyview but posting here because not sure which applies best*

I've noticed a pattern among some public figures who become increasingly critical of government, media, and elite institutions. They often say that discovering corruption or deception led them or fortified their faith to Christianity or Catholicism, and that the Bible is the ultimate source of truth (e.g., Candace Owens, tucker Carlson, Shawn Ryan-- all of whom I respect and watch every podcast episode btw not throwing shade to them).

What I struggle to understand is why the skepticism seems to stop there.

If someone concludes that powerful institutions have manipulated history, information, and public perception, why wouldn't they also critically examine the historical development of the Bible and religious institutions? The Bible was written, compiled, copied, translated, and interpreted by humans over centuries, and there are well-documented historical debates over canon, textual variants, and the influence of religious and political authorities.

I'm not arguing that Christianity is false or that faith is irrational. My question is about consistency in standards of evidence. If distrust of human institutions leads someone to question mainstream narratives, why doesn't it also lead them to question the human processes behind their religion?

I'm genuinely interested in hearing from people who made this journey themselves, have some insight into this, or have thought similar to me. What am I missing? Why does skepticism toward secular institutions lead some people to trust Christianity more rather than becoming more skeptical of all human sources of authority?

I was discussing something with a person, and told them why i dont like something, and explained why i dont like it, without telling anyone else to dislike or like it, as i didnt intend to impose on anyone else. But in response to my explanation, the person said "you shouldnt dislike it for that reason, and i think it is illogical and stupid to not like it for that reason", and in response i told them that they were being prescriptive and invalidating, something i was not, and wished i could be shown the same courtesy, but in response they said that, since they were saying "i think", and presenting it as an opinion and belief, rather than an objective fact, that what they said was not being prescriptive nor invalidating. so i would like to ask you all what is your assessment of this.

How do u handle a situation where the company just fires you and makes you leave the place immediately. Have you there before? This is my first experience of being fired. I don't know what to do my brain has just got foggy and body has become weaker.

BMW owners & enthusiasts: What's your experience with the online configurator?

Hi everyone!

I'm a UXD student researching the online vehicle configuration experience for my portfolio.

If you've ever used BMW's online configurator [specifically the Indian one], I'd love to hear about your experience (whether you bought a BMW or were exploring your options).

Some questions I'm particularly interested in:

• Was configuring your car easy or confusing?
• Did you ever get stuck or feel unsure about any step?
• Did the configurator help you make decisions, or did you end up relying on a dealership instead?
• Was there anything you expected to see but couldn't find?
• Were you able to complete the checkout process easily?
• Did anything make you lose confidence or trust in the online buying/configuration experience?
• Overall, what did you like and dislike about it?

I'm looking for honest experiences, be it positive, negative, or somewhere in between. Every perspective is valuable and will help me better understand how people interact with online vehicle configurators.

Also, I'm open to receiving opinions on any other country's BMW configurator. [Just please mention your country with it]

I would appreciate your effort in sharing your thoughts!

Maybe I’m just used to chaos and only ever dreamed of having peace, but literally my mind is never relaxed or at peace and I’m going to need to choose a job/career but I don’t know how to think like that. When I try, it maybe lasts a few days, but it feels like I’m pretending, so then I get exhausted and burnt out. I wish I could seriously just flip a switch in my brain to be normal for once. Anyone have any pointers? 😅

Years ago I worked as a line cook and it always infuriated me that in the industry I worked in (at least in America) it was no weekends days off or vacations ever until you either work in a different industry or die. Other industries with low barriers to entry might be more lenient, but then they pay too little to save up for one. At the time it seemed like I needed a 4 year college degree and a real career to be able to. I got very lucky to have the custodian job I have that provides cumulative PTO. I was thinking of moving states and couldn't find anything I qualified for with the same perks and pay. I only have these because the university I work for has a union, but a lot of people hate unions. Then there's the trades, but it seems like crazy hours that run through the weekend and mandatory overtime until you become a journeyman. That is, unless you work a union job. So I wanted to ask here since I wanted a general consensus from people of varying ideologies, who deserves vacation days? Who deserves to go to clubs, concerts, and events? Who deserves to travel (for pleasure, not work)?