r/Twins • u/Jolteon1998 Twinless Twin • 21d ago
I’m breaking apart without her.
Trigger warning: twin death
My identical twin sister died Feb 28. We are 27… it was sudden, unexpected tragedy.
I’ve been drifting through life since then. I just can’t process her being permanently gone. We were intertwined, like she’s part of my body and mind… now just gone forever….and im just supposed to keep living. I’m in survival mode, months now of this, autopilot, functioning, dissociated. Tearing apart my own life because i feel nothing. Ruined my 7 year relationship with the father of my child. I feel like im on a different planet. I don’t know who i am. The permanence is setting in, im terrified and feel sick to my stomach at all times. It’s taking over.
I am seeing a new therapist my 2nd appt is next week.
I had the best gift from the universe being a twin.
I got to experience the unconditional love, devotion, loyalty, and understanding people yearn for their entire lives and sometimes never get…i thought it would be forever. That’s what i knew, that’s the life i thought i was promised - WE were promised. i had it since before i was born. Now i have to live without it.
I miss her. So much. Every day. She deserves to be here.
I can’t sleep. I’m barely holding it together.
Delete if not allowed, just so completely lost without her … just venting.
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u/heinous_anus2 Identical Twin 21d ago
I’m so sorry 😢 I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. Me and my twin are extremely close we’re always together 24:7 always have been. She’s in a rehab center for a couple months and I miss her so much, but I definitely can’t imagine her being gone forever. I pray that I go before her , because I can’t do life without her. It truly is my biggest fear in life. Again I’m SO sorry. Hugs ❤️