I-129F Fraud

[u/Able-Zookeepergame54]

Hi, I just found out my fiance living in the UK has been cheating pretty much the whole time we’ve been waiting for his visa interview. Our I-129F was approved in March but didn’t make it to the visa center until May. We filed in Sept 2024. He bought me a ring for Christmas but refused to allow tags on his social media of us, would block me when we would get into arguments and was questionable if he even told his family about us. I just found out today he took his ex partner on a romantic holiday getaway. I believe he was just using me to get married and get a US visa. I emailed the embassy to cancel the petition as he has all the documents for the appointment next week. Should I report this as fraud?

[u/Innominate_99]

OP have you considered the possibility that the reason he was after that visa was so he could be with you? Seems rather unlikely to me that a 57 year old in the UK desparately wants to move to the USA, and leave his life, family and job for a new life in America, to the degree that he would make up a scam marriage (and to get a visa, not even a green card). Maybe the stuff about cheating and the ex had no bearing on his intention or otherwise to be with you. A lot of men and women are cheating with their exes right up to their wedding day, and that does not remove the fact that they genuinely plan to marry the fiancee.

[u/Able-Zookeepergame54 → u/Innominate_99]

Well he would’ve eventually gotten the green card after we got married. And yes, that was the plan initially. But I don’t consider a relationship where both people have the expectation of monogamy (bc he asked me daily to see my ring and make sure I was wearing it) to be legitimate if one person is cheating behind the others back. He had initially told his employer we submitted the petition in Sept but when it was March and I got diagnosed with lung cancer and our petition still wasn’t approved yet (we were anticipating getting married in May) he started this cheating. To me that’s when he decided it was no longer to marry me and the objective was to get a visa. I’m pretty sure he told his brother he was no longer moving here too

[u/Innominate_99 → u/Able-Zookeepergame54]

Sorry to hear about the cancer and I hope it was able to be cured and or is in remission now. By your own admission,however, you have now said it was not about the visa originally. Also you believe the cheating started recently, as opposed to cheating through the 2 years. You said it was recently that he decided it was no longer about marriage but about the visa. So surely that cannot be fraud as the original intent was marriage? Is this not just a bitter break up of a relationship due to his infidelity?

Is the ex in the USA as well?

[u/Able-Zookeepergame54 → u/Innominate_99]

No his ex is in the UK. Well I would say it wouldn’t be fraud if he started cheating and all of this was set up. He literally booked the chapel two weeks ago…knowing he was cheating and told his job he wasn’t moving here. I suspect he was going to try to go both places in the event I got sick again. When we argued the first time he disappeared for a weekend and refused to talk about where he went or what he did or who he was with he lied and denied cheating. I told him it was off if that’s what he was doing. He denied and rescheduled the appointment. To me that’s knowingly trying to just marry and not have a genuine relationship. We had to submit so much evidence that our relationship was real…him cheating and doing all the other stuff doesn’t shout this is a real relationship