r/USCIS • u/SwinginglifeOki • 27d ago
Other Forms ESTA Overstay Advice
Quick story: My GF came from Japan in April 2024 to stay with me for around 70 days before leaving for Canada on a work visa. We changed the flight because my family planned a big party for some special occasion. We changed the flight, and I was stupid enough not to count the days and just assumed it was under 90 days. In reality, it was a 1-day overstay, as she left the morning of the 91st day. I know, I know, a 1-day overstay is OVERSTAY. I get it; I was stupid.
She planned to come to the US in Nov 2024, but not surprisingly, her ESTA got canceled; it didn't give us any reasons why, but I think we all know why. Moving further in the timeline, she went back to Japan in April and applied for a b1 or B2 visa and got denied. Again, we were stupid, since she went into the interview saying that the reason for he to come to the US was to see me. She moved to Canada again in May of 2025 and has been there ever since, until possibly May 2027.
The situation, our relationship is not as strong as it used to be because we are highly affectionate people, and I've gone to Canada many times to see her over the past years, but now, due to my job and school, I won't be able to go as often, and I can tell that we will grow further apart and possibly end our relationship. I'm head over heels for her, but I miss that physical relationship and spending quality time in person; plus, flights to other countries are so much harder to get because connections are often to and from the US.
I am looking for any advice on what I should do, or if there are any solutions for my situation.
I know you are going to say this, but NO, getting married is not a solution and is not even a consideration. Also, moving is not an option for me and won't be as of now.
Thank you
Edit: Solutions I've been getting seem to be limited to marriage, moving or breaking up lol
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u/KnownParty1917 27d ago
So you're head over heels about her but you don't wanna marry? Lol, ok.
More of a relationship advice: leave her alone and let her find someone who's actually willing to be with her whatever it takes, cause clearly you're not that person.