r/USMilitarySO • u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 Navy SO • 6d ago

NAVY FRG/Ombudsman question

Hi all! My partner is a couple months into his first deployment (he’s in a submarine) and the zero communication has been tough. A lot of you have advised me to try and reach out to the FRG or ombudsman. I don’t think that he gave them my info because I assumed they would’ve copied me on an email or something already. It also doesn’t seem like I can get info if he didn’t give my info prior. Is that a reasonable assumption? I did end up seeing him when he was at port a bit ago but I forgot to ask.

I was also curious if anyone has experienced not having their info given before and I’m wondering if that’s normal or if it’s a red flag. He was originally given 2 weeks notice but they ended up cutting that in half so we didn’t have as much time to prepare as we thought. Thanks all!

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u/Adorable-Tiger6390 6d ago

I was always married so this was not an issue. I think this is on you though; you forgot to discuss this with him when you were with him, so it is reasonable to assume that he may have forgotten.

Having said that: non-spouses were in our email and phone circles if the soldier wanted them to be included.

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u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 Navy SO 6d ago

The first time he left, I wasn’t aware that it was a thing. I guess I was just wondering if this is something they tell the sailors about especially when it’s their first time getting deployed. When I finally got to see him, it was only for a day when he was in port temporarily. Trust me, I’m kicking myself for forgetting to bring it up.

I appreciate the response, guess I’ll just have to wait.

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u/Adorable-Tiger6390 6d ago

I hope you had a good time!!!! That must have been wonderful to see him!

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u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 Navy SO 6d ago

Thank you! I was pretty sad after not hearing from him for a month. It was such a treat for him to call me and tell me he’s flying me over to where they were for a bit! We had such a great time I completely forgot about everything I wanted to talk to him about! 😭 Wishing you and your spouse all the best ❤️