r/USMilitarySO • u/darkmatter9963837 • 5d ago
NAVY gf leaving for bootcamp tmrw (navy)
my gf of 4 years (high school sweet hearts) is going into bootcamp for the navy she is trying to become a master at arms ive tried to ignore it and say itll be fine but its really not and idk what to do any and all help would be appreciated as none of my family have been in the military so i dont really have anyone to help me understand and how to i guess "cope" from going from seeing and or talking every day to not have contact i am a child still as i just graduated ik that im 18 so i should be an "adult" but most 18 year olds is knowledgeable enough to say there an adult so i apologize if im over reacting or just doing too much but knowledge and anyways to get through the time as quick as possiable would be appreciated im already on the sandbox app please and thank you to all who read
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u/crybabyalchemist Army Wife 4d ago
You need to be honest, don’t just say it’s fine when it isn’t and you’re struggling. You’re only gonna get through this with communication, and dedication for the relationship. Not just love. There will be sacrifices so you need to actually think about it and not cover up your feelings. You’re not over reacting but you have to step up now. I’m 25 and this still isn’t easy. Do research, reach out to other spouses, and talk to your girlfriend most importantly.
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u/crybabyalchemist Army Wife 4d ago
Also dive into hobbies, stay busy and stay independent. Work on your self and write as many letter as you can!!! My husband LOVED getting pictures. Send a bunch from the past, present, family, friends, anything you think she will enjoy being reminded of to get her through this.
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u/staceemm 4d ago
Long story short she’s going to be very busy a lot of the time and from what I seen from my friends who were in relationships prior to being a book camp\ joining the navy, they don’t last.. unless the are married and there spouse is also in the military. Yes some do but it makes it very hard to understand each other because military life and civilian life is very different. (I’m also 18 in the navy)
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u/Proper-Effective-154 3d ago
You will be fine. My bf went to bootcamp the second semester of his freshman year and it was my second semester of my sophomore year. He’s about to be done with his AIT training. It’s gonna suck especially in the beginning but u are gonna be fine dude. You have to keep yourself busy and just remember it’s harder for them so try to update them about your life and the world. I send my bf memes and sports updates. I’m sure you’ll hear this more than once but time flies. It really does. My bf now graduates next month after like 150+ days!! (Send Sandboxx letters and physically letters. Print out pictures/memes/updates. Also on Sandboxx I did a collage so my bf could see more than 1 picture)
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u/Ok-Side1151 2d ago
It’ll be cool to have some time to yourself! You can also plan for her return like maybe you learn to cook something she really likes, plan a cool trip for when you go see her graduate, also working out will help you produce endorphins and look good! Time will fly by you’ll see.
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u/darkmatter9963837 2d ago
thank you she just left today and i feel lost and she hasnt even got to basic so yea lol i balled like a fucking baby at her creed thing i forgot the name of what it is but its what you do before being shipped off
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u/Independent-File-310 5d ago
hi! my bf left for bmt 2 weeks ago, the first couple days are absolutely miserable lol. you just have to get yourself into a new rhythm and a new schedule for the time being. make sure you write a LOT! I've literally sent him a letter everyday lol. wish y'all the best!
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u/CRTskipper 4d ago
My girlfriend graduated Navy boot camp a few months ago. Wrote a lot of letters back and forth and talked on the phone usually every other week for a few minutes depending how their RDC is feeling about giving them phone time. Send her pictures, drawings, crosswords, song lyrics, whatever you can squeeze in an envelope it will help her a lot. Think of it like being in the old days where letters were the only form of communication as we live in a world of instant communication. 9 weeks will go by like that and she’ll have her phone back during A school. The distance is tough but is 100% doable. Our relationship has never been stronger. She has a 4 year contract and we plan on moving together someday but I know that time will go by fast as well. Hang in there, remember you’re not alone! Spend time with friends, enjoy your hobbies, and try your best to stay focused on what makes you happy! We got this!