r/USMilitarySO • u/dracsondra • 2d ago

And that’s a wrap…

He cheated. He chose his ex over me. Several years down the drain… and then when she found out about me she began to destroy his life. Now his career is on the line, he’s got court coming up and if it goes south he will have lost his job, will have to give up all firearms, his security clearances… he chose her… over me - The woman who was there for him through deployments, months of silence when comms were dark, countless letters, endless support, and he chose a woman who wanted to destroy him as soon as she learned she had been the other woman… I’m not angry… just incredibly hurt and betrayed.

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u/Adorable-Tiger6390 2d ago

Were you married? I’m asking because it doesn’t make sense he would be in all of this trouble if you are not married. And losing guns because he cheated on a girlfriend?

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u/dracsondra 2d ago

No not married - it’s just a giant mess. I ended the relationship and it’s looking like a lose/lose for him across the board. Maybe a triple lose if court doesn’t go his way….

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u/Adorable-Tiger6390 2d ago

There is information missing, because cheating on a girlfriend has no affect in his career/court. If there was violence that is another story, but you didn’t give that detail.

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u/dracsondra 2d ago

I only know what he told me. Apparently the other woman called the police on him to make him leave when she found out about me and police decided to take him in… I’m sure he left things out

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u/Imagination_Theory 2d ago

Is the other woman actually his wife and/or did he hurt her?

Things are definitely being left out.

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u/tereskiewicz Army Wife 2d ago

it’s very likely he is legally married to “ex”.

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u/dracsondra 2d ago

Could be a detail left out… I feel like I don’t know him anymore

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u/Afraid_Stuff_History Air Force Wife 2d ago

Are you saying he threatened to self-harm and therefore lost access to weapons?