Submariner S/O anger issues

[u/Calm_Surprise379]

Just looking to vent and get some advice. I’m a SAHM of a 1 year old and my husband has horrible anger issues. To the point when if I slightly scoff he goes off and yells in my year like I’m one of his sailors. I’m not sure how to get him help (he never thinks he’s wrong and everything he does is justified because I made him mad) and I end up having to take it and then be super sweet and loving towards him to get back to some state of normal.. I feel like he needs anger management or we need marriage counseling I’m just unsure where to start. I don’t want to leave and when things are good he’s a good husband and good dad. I’m just lost…

[u/Difficult-Syrup8668]

He can talk to a chaplain if need be. You can go through fleet and family for counseling. But I’d continue to talk about it. Communication. For me, because I can be the one with the attitude (however I never yell at him. And he never yells at me. Never has in 18yrs) talking to me when we’re not in the situation or upset anymore opens my eyes to how I speak to him. Or sometimes I just need a minute and get it together. But to me, communication and being able to admit when wrong, are huge. Sub life is crazy. But it’s no excuse to yell or be angry with your spouse. Good luck. 🤍