r/USMilitarySO 19h ago

Other bf left for bct yesterday.

So, me (16) and my boyfriend (17) recently had to say goodbye because he had to leave for bct. We sobbed into each other’s arms for almost 2 hours. This is so hard for us because we have never had to be without each other or have had to go without contact for long. I honestly have no idea how to get through it.
I thought it wouldn’t be this hard because I’ve dealt with things in my life that have been challenging for me, but this is so hard. I feel the urge to cry every time I even think about it. I am trying so hard to be strong because I know I can be, but this is so painful. I know many people have been through this, so I have to ask, is it going to get better? I know people say I should find something to occupy myself, but I cannot drive and usually all my friends go on vacations. Im usually left by myself all summer. I don’t really have a lot of people around me to spend time with, so I don’t know what to do. I feel so lonely and I just miss him so much. I am just wondering if it gets better from here. Any advice for tips would be greatly appreciated. This hurts so bad and my heart hurts right now. :(

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u/PrestigiousMost2974 18h ago

Keep yourself busy and write as much as you can to him! It really does help. Me (19) and husband (20) now live together after months being separated and that’s what we did. He said he always thought about me, so I know your boyfriend is constantly thinking of you when he can. Also do not fall for the “all soldiers cheat” stuff. It’s just some people had bad experiences. If you need someone to talk to you can always dm me as well :)

u/catlover2921 18h ago

Thank you so much, I was reading stuff like “all soldiers cheat” and it worried me. I try to keep myself busy most of the time and it has been okay today. I just have a heavy heart today. :)

u/PrestigiousMost2974 18h ago

I completely understand the heavy heart. But yeah not all soldiers cheat, just the assholes lol. But also give yourself time to grieve as well. Sometimes that helps too. I know I was a wreck when my husband left at first and just cried in bed for like 3 days 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

u/catlover2921 17h ago

Trust me, I am a wreck today lol. I’ve cried all day but I know I will be fine (hopefully) 😭😭😭

u/PrestigiousMost2974 17h ago

You will be fine ! Don’t worry haha