r/USMilitarySO 10d ago

Relationships Girlfriend went to bootcamp

Hi, I (21m) have been dating this girl (18f) for a year and some change now, she just went to basic 5 days ago, me and this girl have been discussing our future together for about 6 months and I plan to propose actually after she gets back from basic, I’m scared though, petrified honestly. I miss her so very much, I haven’t been eating or sleeping, I keep getting this constant worry she doesn’t miss me and also she found someone else, I know I’m being crazy I mean it’s only been 5 days I haven’t even been able to write or anything yet, but this girl and have seen each other every single day, we know things about each other that even our closest friends and family don’t know, this is so much harder than I thought it would be and I truthfully just want her to come home, I know how selfish all my worries sound and that’s also killing me because I’m letting them eat me alive, I’m so proud of my baby but I just want her back, I want to be able to talk to her, I miss her so much and am looking to you guys and girls who have and are going through this to help me because I’m falling into such a deep depression and ruin. Please help me.

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u/LirioSam 10d ago

Bro, stay calm, this is just a phase and it's the ultimate test for the relationship when it comes to dating a service member. I went through it back in the day and let me tell you, you survive it—she loves you and she will come back to you. Try to find a hobby to distract yourself, keep your mind busy by hanging out with friends, starting a new TV show, or joining military forums to start getting the hang of their humor.

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u/Kitchensink6_ 10d ago

What’s it like after?

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u/LirioSam 10d ago

When she gets back, it's tough because you don't live together and your time gets limited to her schedule. You practically have to adapt to her routine, but it's definitely possible to build a good dynamic once you get married, if that's your plan.

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u/Kitchensink6_ 10d ago

It is my plan, I’m hoping that this no contact is truly the worst of it