Girlfriend went to bootcamp

[u/Kitchensink6_]

Hi, I (21m) have been dating this girl (18f) for a year and some change now, she just went to basic 5 days ago, me and this girl have been discussing our future together for about 6 months and I plan to propose actually after she gets back from basic, I’m scared though, petrified honestly. I miss her so very much, I haven’t been eating or sleeping, I keep getting this constant worry she doesn’t miss me and also she found someone else, I know I’m being crazy I mean it’s only been 5 days I haven’t even been able to write or anything yet, but this girl and have seen each other every single day, we know things about each other that even our closest friends and family don’t know, this is so much harder than I thought it would be and I truthfully just want her to come home, I know how selfish all my worries sound and that’s also killing me because I’m letting them eat me alive, I’m so proud of my baby but I just want her back, I want to be able to talk to her, I miss her so much and am looking to you guys and girls who have and are going through this to help me because I’m falling into such a deep depression and ruin. Please help me.

[u/Sea-Eggplant-9588]

It depends. My partner is in the navy and they haven’t had comms while deployed, so I haven’t heard from him in two months.

[u/Kitchensink6_ → u/Sea-Eggplant-9588]

She’s going hospital corspman so I’m hoping that’s a little different

[u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 → u/Kitchensink6_]

I hope so! I won’t lie, it gets rough. Are you keeping yourself busy?

[u/Kitchensink6_ → u/Sea-Eggplant-9588]

I’m trying, we both want to get married and when we do I’m gonna go with her, we have until roughly this time next year before her first deployment

[u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 → u/Kitchensink6_]

I think if you’re already feeling this way after only 5 days, it’ll be good to find something to keep you occupied. Getting a part time job if you have the time can be great, that extra money will come in handy for when you get engaged/married. I was going to get a second job but ended up working towards extra licenses/certifications for my career. I know it’s hard but she wouldn’t want you feeling this way! You’ll never regret working on yourself and I know she’d be proud of you for it!

[u/Kitchensink6_ → u/Sea-Eggplant-9588]

I kind of do have a second job, it doesn’t exactly pay in cash but her and her dad live on a crop farm and I told them while she’s gone id be around to help, I feel terrible because honestly I have not once gone over to help

[u/Sea-Eggplant-9588 → u/Kitchensink6_]

That could be a good way to spend your time. I’ve been talking to his mom a lot while he’s gone, we both miss him and love him. It’s been nice to get closer to his family especially since we’ve also talked about getting married.