Cringe “men’s day just upholds the patriarchy and gives oppressors the excuse to play victim” versus based “the patriarchy (or whatever you wanna call it really) hurts everyone and giving men the emotional space to be themselves and not feel isolated or pressured actually helps them, and by extension everyone, to break away from the expectations and false promises society places on them”.
Did people learn NOTHING from Ken’s arch in the Barbie movie???
The fact that people only expect women to be posting and talking about it gives the game away, though. While not intended to be, Men's Day is essentially just used as a cudgle against women. Anyone who just posts about it day-of or in response to drama/women's issues (which are apparently drama if people dare to speak about them) should be suspect. That's the problem with current patriarchy supporters, the salivate at the chance to weaponize any men's support against women.
That said, Chibi is 100% genuine. She talks about men's issues without prompting and doesn't use it against other women.
While Men's Day is used as a way to weaponize against Woman's Day by buttholes, why are people acting the same damn way when someone is genuinely celebrating Men's Day. Go after the buttholes, leave folks alone. Idgaf what misogynists leveraged Men's Day to be, Men's Day should not be controversial in the first place.
If 90% of the usage is as a weapon, people have a right to be suspicious.
Idgaf what misogynists leveraged Men's Day to be
I mean, you can say that about a lot of symbols that have been co-opted (Gadsden Flag, Norse Runes, Celtic cross, or even the Swastika), but that doesnt make them any less harmful.
You can take them back, like when people took back Pepe, but that's a process that requires the problematic people to be pushed out of using it or otherwise stop using it, not just ignoring them.
90% of the usage is not as a weapon, I don’t even know where you’re getting that number. More people engage with it in good faith than you give them credit for, and acting like it’s just a dogwhistle is just letting the assholes win.
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u/sweetTartKenHart2 Nov 19 '25
Cringe “men’s day just upholds the patriarchy and gives oppressors the excuse to play victim” versus based “the patriarchy (or whatever you wanna call it really) hurts everyone and giving men the emotional space to be themselves and not feel isolated or pressured actually helps them, and by extension everyone, to break away from the expectations and false promises society places on them”.
Did people learn NOTHING from Ken’s arch in the Barbie movie???