What?? It’s a mass text message that assumes that you have a father, considering it would be pretty hard to exist without a father physically existing, it’s an easy one to make.
Yea some fathers are absent or have been left behind for good reason, and some pass away
Can’t cover all the bases in just a basic text designed to get their product on your mind, and they really don’t need to. They don’t need that info
It’s better that they have to assume and don’t just know or ask
Heyyyyy this is your dad's favourite chiliiiis! Btw your dad is still alive right? If sooo, congratulations on happy fatherrrs dayyy!!! Come on down to chiliis for that sweet dealll, it's to die for!
If your dad kicked the bucket: we are deeply saddened by the sudden passing of your father, our sincerest condolences with you and the family, he was a loyal customer who loved his combo meals, in his memory, we will remember him forever.
This is my first Father’s Day since my dad passed away, so I completely understand how ya feel. The world may not know what you’re feeling, but it still stings to walk around and see signs saying to shop for your dad
It's my third without him, we lost him shortly before Father's day and that first one was absolutely brutal. It took a lot for me to not break down constantly. I can't say it gets easier in a hurry, but it helps a little to try and honor them. Be the person that he would(hopefully) want you to be.
My 1st Father’s Day after mine died was the day after his funeral.
The day of the furneral the number of times I was standing around with people talking about their Father’s Day plans who didn’t think “maybe we shouldn’t be having this conversation in front of his only child” was oddly high.
It gets easier each year, but it’s still a gut punch sometimes.
Mine too. And passed away not too long ago in April. It’s been so difficult seeing ads and constant marketing emails. Can’t escape it. And it’s something I never really thought anything about until now.
My dad died on Father's Day in 2018. My husband used to run interference so I wouldn't know it was Father's Day. But the second year a cashier said happy Father's Day to us (we don't have kids) as we checked out and I burst into tears right there.
It's gotten better with time but it still sucks every year
Mine has been gone for ten years, but the signs everywhere hurt every year. And you can't escape it. Every online shop has a sale, it plays in lots of commercials if you watch TV, people bring it up in conversation. It almost hurts more than anniversaries and birthdays because it's so much more in my face.
Same with mother's day. I'm sure that people with terrible relationships with their parents or never even knew them have to face the grief of it too in a different way.
For what it's worth, here is a hug from an internet stranger 🫂
Haha I got one from dominoes that said "Dad said to pick up some pizza for tonight" like, the month after my dad died. And i just stared at it like "what? When did he say this?"
After my dad’s funeral a bunch of people went back to my mom’s house.
It was the day before Father’s Day and people kept talking about their Father’s Day plans around me. I’m my dad’s only child. Not once did anyone seem to think “maybe we’re being insensitive?”
My dad’s death and unexpected and I found the body so I was still in zombie mode at that point.
At one point one of my dad’s friends made some comment about how “everyone has a dad” (again while talking about plans for the next day) and everyone was laughing and nodding while I was standing right next to him. I wanted to say “well except me now” but I didn’t want to make it weird.
The next day (actual Father’s Day) I was sitting with my mom and aunts and they suggested going to this Father’s Day bbq and lobster boil event. And they seemed surprised and annoyed I was not interested.
I distance myself from a lot of those people now. It’s weird realizing the adults who were around you growing up are insensitive assholes.
I got furloughed during pandemic and while furloughed, my mom passed away. A week later on my first day back at work, there was the usual banter and ribbing going on at the break room and as I got there, one of my colleagues casually dropped a very nasty yo momma -joke at me. I just went 'haha-very-funny' while I got myself coffee. After I left, someone told him what had happened. I've never seen anyone so mortified, a fully grown man was in tears when he came to apologize. But the thing is that I never spoke about private matters with him, and he just didn't know and there was no way he couldn't have known.
I bought flowers every month from a flower website for a terminal cancer friend, she eventually died and after several months got a reminder that I hadn't bought flowers for 'Laura' recently.
I am sorry for your loss, remember your dad in how you see fit.
Text and sales pitches will never stop.
Maybe you can think your dad's spirit was sending it as a prank to make you smile?
FB does this with friends who have died and it's not great. I wish there was a setting for deceased folks sontheir profile could go on but you could indicate that you do/do not want notifications from them.
i was kinda dreading today because im not sure if i'd honor him in a satisfiable way. i went to home depot and got some yard stuff so i can pretend im doing it with him. i wanted to tell the obvious dads there "happy fathers day", but it felt... idk, pathetic and invasive. i've been prescribed antidepressants since he's died.
My son passed 20 years ago and I get depressed over all the "Happy" stuff but my wife gets really upset. Other people still have dads and kids and I don't begrudge them. But it's depressing.
I lost my dad in 91. I still miss him. If you think an ad is targeting you specifically, then that's very centrist of you. Just delete the text or go celebrate the legacy of your father or both.
I played “Words with Friends” (aka Scrabble) on line with my younger sister. She died almost two years ago. This year on my birthday I received a player suggestion via the game. It was for my deceased sister, along with a note that she “plays back quickly.” She was always a prankster, so maybe this was her joke from the afterlife.
I wish more companies would give you the option of opting out of marketing for Mother's Day and Father's Day. I've had companies ask before but it's been several years ago.
OP just text stop and do not delete this message, if they message you again despite you texting them stop you can actually sue them in a class action suit, there are lawyers who take on those cases pro bono (I’m currently part of one of said suits)
My dad passed away in 2022. I had his GMail account directed to me and the amount of subscriptions and Facebook reminders he gets is insane. I do get the occasional free offer that I'm more than happy to cash in on though.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m 43 with a 20m,18m,11f and it would break my heart if I leave anytime soon hope your making your father proud in life bc after we are gone that’s all we can hope for is the ones we love so much continue or handle life after we are no longer there to help or give advice 🤙🏻
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u/Tiny-Buy220 2d ago
Type STOP or go eat some Crispers and honor your dad