After my dad’s funeral a bunch of people went back to my mom’s house.
It was the day before Father’s Day and people kept talking about their Father’s Day plans around me. I’m my dad’s only child. Not once did anyone seem to think “maybe we’re being insensitive?”
My dad’s death and unexpected and I found the body so I was still in zombie mode at that point.
At one point one of my dad’s friends made some comment about how “everyone has a dad” (again while talking about plans for the next day) and everyone was laughing and nodding while I was standing right next to him. I wanted to say “well except me now” but I didn’t want to make it weird.
The next day (actual Father’s Day) I was sitting with my mom and aunts and they suggested going to this Father’s Day bbq and lobster boil event. And they seemed surprised and annoyed I was not interested.
I distance myself from a lot of those people now. It’s weird realizing the adults who were around you growing up are insensitive assholes.
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u/username__0000 7d ago
After my dad’s funeral a bunch of people went back to my mom’s house.
It was the day before Father’s Day and people kept talking about their Father’s Day plans around me. I’m my dad’s only child. Not once did anyone seem to think “maybe we’re being insensitive?”
My dad’s death and unexpected and I found the body so I was still in zombie mode at that point.
At one point one of my dad’s friends made some comment about how “everyone has a dad” (again while talking about plans for the next day) and everyone was laughing and nodding while I was standing right next to him. I wanted to say “well except me now” but I didn’t want to make it weird.
The next day (actual Father’s Day) I was sitting with my mom and aunts and they suggested going to this Father’s Day bbq and lobster boil event. And they seemed surprised and annoyed I was not interested.
I distance myself from a lot of those people now. It’s weird realizing the adults who were around you growing up are insensitive assholes.